So i'm curious - but not experienced and my question to the board is ...
Ladies - do you prefer females with experience or without ? Are you happy to seduce another woman not knowing how it will turn out ?
You see i'm not sure how far I would want to go with this exploration and i'd hate to get involved only to find out thats it's not for me, or how I thought it to be, and therefore disappointing a play partner.
Thoughts please ?
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hiya twin_peaks 
personally, ive never been interested in women who were bi-curious, bi-with-the-right -woman or bi-when-im-swinging-for-my-husbands-pleasure. ive also never been interested in seducing first timers or those who are unsure, i prefer a more equal footing.
i once had a threesome with a couple where i had been lead to beleive the female was bi and experienced. days afterwards.....turns out it was her first time and she hadnt enjoyed it...how do you think that made me feel? not bloody great i tell ya lol
everyones different tho and as long as youre clear about what you want and stay honest to yourself and the other lady im sure you will find what youre looking for, methinks there are female seducers out there for you hun
personally, ive never been interested in women who were bi-curious, bi-with-the-right -woman or bi-when-im-swinging-for-my-husbands-pleasure. ive also never been interested in seducing first timers or those who are unsure, i prefer a more equal footing.
i once had a threesome with a couple where i had been lead to beleive the female was bi and experienced. days afterwards.....turns out it was her first time and she hadnt enjoyed it...how do you think that made me feel? not bloody great i tell ya lol
everyones different tho and as long as youre clear about what you want and stay honest to yourself and the other lady im sure you will find what youre looking for, methinks there are female seducers out there for you hun
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i once had a threesome with a ouple where i had been lead to beleive the female was bi and experienced. days afterwards.....turns out it was her first time and she hadnt enjoyed it...how do you think that made me feel? not bloody great i tell ya lol
Hiya
Thats exactly the reason why i've asked - i'd not want to put that on another person, this is supposed to be fun and for our mutual enjoyment :)
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Having said that, everyone has to start from somewhere. Otherwise, how do you obtain that experience for the first time?
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Just explain exactly that to the ladies before hand and talk about it.
Yep, and agree that 'no' means 'no'.
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Having said that, everyone has to start from somewhere. Otherwise, how do you obtain that experience for the first time?
thats very true...my first time was with another woman who was in the same situation as me, we both kinda knew we were but hadnt acted on it so it was a joint voyage of discovery.....and an enjoyable one at that
as pololady and freckledbird have said, communication is the key.
Warming the Bed
Quote by sexkittenhfxthats very true...my first time was with another woman who was in the same situation as me, we both kinda knew we were but hadnt acted on it so it was a joint voyage of discovery.....and an enjoyable one at that
as pololady and freckledbird have said, communication is the key.
Hi Kitten,
I totally agree with you in that communication is vital. I guess I've just found it frustrating in that, as with most things in life, it's a Catch 22. If you catch my drift...
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Having said that, everyone has to start from somewhere. Otherwise, how do you obtain that experience for the first time?
thats very true...my first time was with another woman who was in the same situation as me, we both kinda knew we were but hadnt acted on it so it was a joint voyage of discovery.....and an enjoyable one at that
Me were a bit giggly and nervous at first and took ages for us to 'get down to it' but somehow it came naturally ( I hope
) resulting in a very enjoyable experience. My first 3some was with a lady in the same situation but I soon guessed her hubby had cajoled her into it so neither one of us had such a great time. It also put me off 3somes for a while as he was 'directing' **note to self** next time take gaffa tape for the hubby's mouth and hands :notes:
I've also been the one taking the lead with a bi 'virgin' once though given the choice, I'd prefer the lady have a little experience rather than none at all. Still, as uschick said, we all have to start somewhere
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So i'm curious - but not experienced and my question to the board is ...
Ladies - do you prefer females with experience or without ? Are you happy to seduce another woman not knowing how it will turn out ?
You see i'm not sure how far I would want to go with this exploration and i'd hate to get involved only to find out thats it's not for me, or how I thought it to be, and therefore disappointing a play partner.
Thoughts please ?
I don't mind if a lady has experience or is simply curious, as long as she is honest. Of course it's great to be a womans first if she is really into the idea. :rascal:
I wouldn't be happy in the least if she was being pushed into it, which I would be able to sense a mile away anyway. There is a difference between excitement nerves and aversion.
I would just suggest being completely open and honest with any perspective lover about what you desire and what your concerns are.
I personally wouldn’t want to feel under pressure to have sex and I certainly wouldn’t want anyone I was with to feel like that – I can’t think of many things that are a bigger turn off.
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hiya twin_peaks
personally, ive never been interested in women who were bi-curious, bi-with-the-right -woman or bi-when-im-swinging-for-my-husbands-pleasure. ive also never been interested in seducing first timers or those who are unsure, i prefer a more equal footing.
i once had a threesome with a couple where i had been lead to beleive the female was bi and experienced. days afterwards.....turns out it was her first time and she hadnt enjoyed it...how do you think that made me feel? not bloody great i tell ya lol
everyones different tho and as long as youre clear about what you want and stay honest to yourself and the other lady im sure you will find what youre looking for, methinks there are female seducers out there for you hun
I'm with you on that one sexkitten!.. I too have had a similar experience. Everyone is "curious" until their first time I suppose, but you are right the 'curious with the right one' is ridiculous. I have had an experience whereby i wasn't the 'right one' and you are right it makes you feel awful. That person I felt was only 'bi' for some other reason. Anyway, I'm happy to say I have since had two and three more full on bi experiences which have left me smiling!
I think the vital word is "communication". If I were meeting someone who was curious and not sure how they would feel or whether they would want to pogress I would make sure that they knew they could say "stop I'm not enjoying this" at ANY stage. I'd hate for them to carry on just becuase they thought they should!
There is nothing wrong with saying no or asking someone to stop becuase you aren't enjoying something. But I would also ay that if it is your first time, you make that clear up front and explain how YOU wish to proceed to help you feel the most comfortable.
RSxx :color:
Edit - addition: - as for "bi with the right person" - I think that can be interpreted in so many different ways. I have known a couple of women who didn't " label" themselves as bi but could possibly have "labelled" themselves "bi with the right person".
There is nothing wrong with saying no or asking someone to stop becuase you aren't enjoying something. But I would also ay that if it is your first time, you make that clear up front and explain how YOU wish to proceed to help you feel the most comfortable.
RSxx :color:
Edit - addition: - as for "bi with the right person" - I think that can be interpreted in so many different ways. I have known a couple of women who didn't " label" themselves as bi but could possibly have "labelled" themselves "bi with the right person".
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Hmmm .... interesting reading and very thought provoking..........
I admit to being bi-curious...I also admit to being "bi-curious with the right woman" - to me it is not ridiculous to say that - by using those words...
Totally agree! :thumbup:
I'm straight curious - with the right man.
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I think the vital word is "communication". If I were meeting someone who was curious and not sure how they would feel or whether they would want to pogress I would make sure that they knew they could say "stop I'm not enjoying this" at ANY stage. I'd hate for them to carry on just becuase they thought they should!
There is nothing wrong with saying no or asking someone to stop becuase you aren't enjoying something. But I would also ay that if it is your first time, you make that clear up front and explain how YOU wish to proceed to help you feel the most comfortable.
RSxx :color:
Edit - addition: - as for "bi with the right person" - I think that can be interpreted in so many different ways. I have known a couple of women who didn't " label" themselves as bi but could possibly have "labelled" themselves "bi with the right person".
I 100% agree with you! Communication is defo the key word. On reflection I also think it is ok to be bi-curious if you have never tried... but after your first time you wouldn't still call yourself 'curious' would you? (That's not a question to you Rainbows.. it's a general one speaking out loud ...) I have known women still calling themselves 'bi-curious' when in fact I know from experience they gone beyond the 'curious' stage.
I'm happy to explore a side of me which i know is there - it's just that as said in some posts, i'd hate to be in some way responsible for someone else feeling bad, mind you I can't see that happening I wont fake anything and the whole expereince would only progress through talk and phases of progression for me, does that make sense ?
So that brings the question to my mind of how i progress further down this route. Do I make contacts via here and explian what I feel I may be looking for ? Do I just wait and see what happens ?
I'm not even sure I could say 'i'm bi with the right woman' - oddly for me that doesn't come into it. To me thus far, whilst fantasy, it's also an experience I wish to try, a different approach, something that appeals, perhaps softer and sensual or even more challenging perhaps ?
Hmm my thoughts are elsewhere right now - back in a bit :twisted:
So that brings the question to my mind of how i progress further down this route. Do I make contacts via here and explian what I feel I may be looking for ? Do I just wait and see what happens ?
I'm not even sure I could say 'i'm bi with the right woman' - oddly for me that doesn't come into it. To me thus far, whilst fantasy, it's also an experience I wish to try, a different approach, something that appeals, perhaps softer and sensual or even more challenging perhaps ?
Hmm my thoughts are elsewhere right now - back in a bit
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So that brings the question to my mind of how i progress further down this route. Do I make contacts via here and explian what I feel I may be looking for ? Do I just wait and see what happens ?
Talking/chatting to other bi folk is a good place to start I reckon. And this place is a pretty good place to talk to people.
I don't play but you are always welcome to PM me
Rsxx :color:
I am a bi-curious female and am unsure what i'd like best - on one hand someone experienced might be able to help me stop being so nervous, on the other had.. another newbie might be more forgiving if I screw up!
Like others have said, communication is the key. I personally am 100% enthusiastic about playing with another woman but also 100% nervous. I am sure i'll be fine once started, I think women are far too critical of ourselves in some ways.
Wherever you start and whoever it's with - good luck ad enjoy playing.
xx
Like others have said, communication is the key. I personally am 100% enthusiastic about playing with another woman but also 100% nervous. I am sure i'll be fine once started, I think women are far too critical of ourselves in some ways.
Wherever you start and whoever it's with - good luck ad enjoy playing.
xx
As a bi-fem who hasn't been curious for..er..quite some time now I have no real preference if a lady I play with is experienced or not. Each one will be individual and you have to take time to learn what each different lady likes.
I suppose one could feel daunted if they meet a lady who has a lot more experience, wondering if they are doing this/that or the other right, but as has been mentioned already, communication is they key. If I was doing something wrong I would rather be told ;)
As thinkingnaughty (good post btw) has mentioned a lot of it is down to confidence when you are new to it and indeed when you are not new to it-I lack confidence with every man/woman/sheep (joke!!) I get naked with
(shut-up at the back). While I don't have the figure I had at 18 *sigh* (hence the lack of confidence) I have a lot more experience (hence more enjoyment) and given the choice I wouldn't swop it ;)
Minx x x
I suppose one could feel daunted if they meet a lady who has a lot more experience, wondering if they are doing this/that or the other right, but as has been mentioned already, communication is they key. If I was doing something wrong I would rather be told ;)
As thinkingnaughty (good post btw) has mentioned a lot of it is down to confidence when you are new to it and indeed when you are not new to it-I lack confidence with every man/woman/sheep (joke!!) I get naked with
(shut-up at the back). While I don't have the figure I had at 18 *sigh* (hence the lack of confidence) I have a lot more experience (hence more enjoyment) and given the choice I wouldn't swop it ;)Minx x x
I suspect it's one of those things you can't push. In the right situation at the right time I am sure you'll just feel comfortable and things will just happen. That's what I am hoping for me anyway.
Experimenting is a bit daunting in front of my hubby but then he'll be happy to enjoy the view. Part of my fear is criticism - I feel that women are harsher judges than blokes (may be wrong here). With hubby, he gets turned on by women in general... with me, I am terrified some woman will take one look at me and run a mile! Perhaps I feel men are easier to please whereas a woman is an unknown quantity... ah well.. am looking forward to finding out someday and getting it over and done with heehee... I'll be the one running round town wearing the 'I've finally done it' T shirt on ....
Whatever you decide, keep the battery supply for now and enjoy thinking about it until the time arrives to actually live the dream.
xx
Experimenting is a bit daunting in front of my hubby but then he'll be happy to enjoy the view. Part of my fear is criticism - I feel that women are harsher judges than blokes (may be wrong here). With hubby, he gets turned on by women in general... with me, I am terrified some woman will take one look at me and run a mile! Perhaps I feel men are easier to please whereas a woman is an unknown quantity... ah well.. am looking forward to finding out someday and getting it over and done with heehee... I'll be the one running round town wearing the 'I've finally done it' T shirt on ....
Whatever you decide, keep the battery supply for now and enjoy thinking about it until the time arrives to actually live the dream.
xx
Having read this post would like to put my opinion on why I class my self as “bi curiousâ€.
I have played with a few bi curious and bi ladies, and have found some bi lady’s or more like lesbians lol. I feel it is my choice to play that way not my partner’s or the other lady’s partners or the ladies. I have had a few experiences and can say I find it very of putting when pressure is put on anyone person to do something they don’t want to do. It is about relaxing and enjoying each other’s body’s with the right person and also about physical attraction whether it’s male or female.
After all said and done you don’t want to follow a script lol.
So I like to just go with the flow (so to speak) knowing everyone is happy.
Found sex is great that way and have had some mind blowing times.
I would say calling my self bi curios means is still open to trying new things
I have played with a few bi curious and bi ladies, and have found some bi lady’s or more like lesbians lol. I feel it is my choice to play that way not my partner’s or the other lady’s partners or the ladies. I have had a few experiences and can say I find it very of putting when pressure is put on anyone person to do something they don’t want to do. It is about relaxing and enjoying each other’s body’s with the right person and also about physical attraction whether it’s male or female.
After all said and done you don’t want to follow a script lol.
So I like to just go with the flow (so to speak) knowing everyone is happy.
Found sex is great that way and have had some mind blowing times.
I would say calling my self bi curios means is still open to trying new things
