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Is it customary for people to reply to an ad placed even if they arent interested?
I only ask as ive replied to a few potentials and not have anything back, i thought it would at least be polite to email back to say sorry but no thankyou (or words to that effect). I know i would.
Least then u know whats going on, and perhaps where u are going wrong lol.
Just my Two Cents
Matt
Matt,
unfortunately not everyone as you've discovered, shares the same level of decency/respect in replying even if to say thanks but no thanks. These certainly wont be the last that don't reply back, so all i can say is get used to it rolleyes
However, also remember that they might have recieved hundreds of replies to an ad, and that it might not be possible to reply to everyone. The ones that do are certainly a rare breed, and make a refreshing change. Whenever i recieve a thanks but no thanks, i allways reply just to say it makes a change to be told, and wish them good luck.
Just be polite, and don't expect too much, and thank those that do reply back.
Good luck Matt
Brumlad moi aussi... politeness is the most importnat thing... I would always hope that a polite informative response elicited a polite reply one way or another...
I do not bulshit... and expect likewise
but have been pleasantly surprised ( very ) replies with some of replies I have recieived.... Many thanks Kat...) smile :) :)
So matt for all be polite be honest....and who knows.... biggrin
Gmanxxx
I am sorry but I don't reply to all the people who respond to my add. The reason being I am one of the elusive single females. I have had an add up for less than a week, and had over 14,000 hits and over 200 replies. There is no way I can reply to them all. Most just get a quick glance to see if the contain an add number and are local to me. Which is what I asked for in my advert. The rest are binned. If it sounds harsh I am sorry but to reply to all would take hours each day.
Martha
Martha ... there aint nowt wrong in that... but on forum something akin to freindships are made slowly gradually as we get to know one another....trust is earned... it does not depend on ad number but on value ( however that is judged ) of ones post... and here we learn about one another...
yes a diff world from the ads site ... but a far more open honest area.... phoneys don't last long... lurk and see and then dip feet in ...
hav fun at liaisons
Gmanxxx
Another forum that I feel a need to respond to lol :lol:
Please dont anyone take offence :doh:
I joined a dating site (with my husbands consent) wink
I gave a good description of myself and what I was looking for, I didn't really expect much response, because I'm a 45 year old woman, and every profile I read were men my age' looking for' women 18 to 40 :doh:
Are they for real? rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
I was totally overwhelmed by the response I got, mostly by men that had no interest in meeting, they were just interested in showing/receiving 'rude' pics and cyber sex rolleyes :roll: (how many times can you describe a blow job before it gets boring)? :roll: :roll:
But I've slowly sifted through them (took me weeks)! And I eventually found one, we've met for a drink and hopefully, weather permitting, we're both meeting him on Friday night. boink :boink:
Think I've rambled on a bit Matt_for_all redface surprisedops:
BTW how old are you? kiss :kiss:
The point of my boring rambling post was....I've forgotten banghead :banghead:
Isn't senility a pain in the arse? :crazy: :crazy:
I put an ad on the site within hours of registering because I thought it was the done thing to do. I took it down when I realised that it would take something amazing for mine to stand out in the thousands of single male ads. So I've made comments in the forum and I've made some really good mates. I think that's definitely the way to go.
I've just read my post again, I think I had a few too many last night! redface surprisedops:
My point was, maybe you have been lucky, but your contacts are very slow at working through their replies, like me. wink :wink:
'Male looking for female' ads have very little chance of success. I can't say nil, because, just occasionally, they work. As Martha has said, you can't spend all your time saying 'Thanks, but no thanks' to 600 different replies, it doesn't leave any time for shagging!!!
But a tip I saw previously is that the females or couples, when placing their ad, put a type of disclaimer on it saying
' As we expect to have more responses than we can cope with and couldn't possibly reply to all, please check back on this advert after xx date and we will confirm on here if we have found who we are looking for. Thank you for your responses'
That way you don't feel like you have been ignored and don't get too despondent.
Most successful advert? I really don't know, but the one I placed in the 'Lets Meet Up' forum has had a good response rate, certainly well above nil. I hope to be publishing my 'help for Newbies' soon, which hopefuly will give some guidance to ads and what works and what doesn't. Whatever, have fun on the site and treat sex as a pleasant by-product of this fun. It can work, I assure you.
Mal
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Reputation as 'The Gent' truly cemented there, Mal!
Woohoo haven't i just got back home and logged on at a good time - such a lot of nice people in!
And Happy Birthday again James!
Thanks Alex!
Big wet sloppy MWAH going right out to you! x
Hi all, Slim. One thing NOT too do is go deleting the bloody ones you get? Done that this morning redface mad :cry: whether gen or not will probably never know. Alex doll, you look awfully nice, good too see the weather has improved down there, just in from the garden are we :smitten:
Hiya Slim
Yes the weather is lovely!!
Well it's been sunny anyway!
And - the pic - well we Lancashire lasses are no wimps you know!
Alex x x
Sorry Mr Writer (Alex) happy birthday. Hope you get, got, what you wished for.
Slim - I'm not Mr Writer
James is!
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Sorry Mr Writer (Alex) happy birthday. Hope you get, got, what you wished for.

I certainly hope to in the coming weeks!
Slim don't worry
young Mr W certainly would like to be one with Alex... :shock: :shock:
easy mistake to make...
Gmanxxx
I made a right arse of that last post, sorry again Mr Writer (James) :doh: its the thought of Alex getting the better weather. Slim.
Actually Alex could have been out in the sun... mmmmm no snow in Wigan today... but loads the other side of Bolton.
Worry not about taking the pratt pills... I tend to live on them
Gmanxxx
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young Mr W certainly would like to be one with Alex...

And how do you know the feeling isn't mutual?
Hey gman, don't know if you got my email reply but thanks for the e-card. We'll go for that pint soon!
Oh c***** its been one of those rare days when f****** everything goes wrong from the time you fall out of bed (stubbed me toe) until confused: and the day's not over yet. I know your not Mr Writer, Alex, I was just testing. See you all later. If I don't fall down the bloody stairs or other. Slim.
You take care Slim!!!!!!!!
muah for your toe!
just what chatroom needs... toe sucking
gmanxxx
Mr W... Cheers yes
Slim Where in Highlands.... used to be in Wick myself....
Gmanxxx
Have to say that I think anyone who expects to get an email back for every one they send is being a tad too idealistic!
I struggle to reply to all my work emails, and I guess as certainly the females have pointed out, that they get too much response to handle!
I have sent lots of emails, had very few responses back, but did get one saying thanks but no thanks. I think most people have the best intentions, but not all succeed confused