Is anyone else in a relationship where they are with a man who wants to be cuckold?
I was looking for someone to date. I've been swinging for 4 years and single for 9 and decided it was time to have something with a bit more meaning. Finally I find someone on a dating site that seemed to be on my wave length and I enjoy talking to. We have arranged to meet, but haven't yet, it is coming up very soon.
Since texting and the subject of my boots coming up and him loving them, I asked him if he had any other kinks (I met him on a vanilla site) he said he would love to see his woman have sex with another man and would love to be dominated.
My jaw drops open at this stage and i'm wondering if I am doomed to swing for the rest of my life lol as it seems it doesn't matter where I meet men they want to swing hehe.
So... where I have done 3sums and gangbangs and do love them. What is the difference between a 3sum and being with a cuckold man? Am I supposed to behave differently? Do they join in or just watch? Is it as much fun as a 3sum?
I guess what I am looking for is reassurance as the more we talk the more I like him and the idea of having my cake and eat it is getting more appealing by the minute, but is it?
Also, how long would you leave it when embarking on a new relationship before you introduced swinging if it wasn't born from swinging? I really don't want to muck this up, I have a crap track record.
Ooooo a tricky one this.
From a position of complete ignorace on such matters may I offer an observation.
Many men (and women) fantasis about sex. So if asked do you fancy a bit of bondage they'll say yes. But will be completely freaked out if it actually happened. Personally I'd take what he said with a pinch of salt.
Remember not everyone has had your real experience of swinging so they only know what they see on the telly. Honestly I wouldn't push it.
Omg I'm starting to think this guy was made for me lol. (thanks for the wikepedia link x)
Still interested to hear of personal experiences and highs and lows, good and bad points though.
Correct me if I'm wrong, the definition of a cuckold is someone who always enjoys seeing his missus with another guy whereas, having a fantasy about it is different. I mean, I do fantasise about it and I wouldn't have any problems going on with it but that doesn't make me a cuckold. As a matter of fact, if it happens on a moment when I'm not in the mood for it i'll probably gonna snap! :twisted:
So make sure that "fantasising about my missus getting shagged by someone else" is a taste and not just a fantasy.
someone say over the knee :shock:
I'm told he experienced it once before with an ex of his and has wanted to do it again since. I have quizzed him on various things and I agree that it is not a 24/7 type of relationship in this manner that I am looking for, but he says it's a kink, something he would enjoy, but not a way of life. That I could work with.
We are looking at more than buddies, it's obviously too soon to say if it will go that far or not and we're not looking at jumping in both feet first, but taking it date by date until we have established exactly what we want from each other and if we can achieve it.
I'm quite open minded and I'm certainly not thinking of not meeting him because of this, in fact it might be just what I needed as I was worried about how I would be in a vanilla relationship (bored and frustrated) and in a swinging relationship I was concerned that I might feel jealous. I don't have to worry about that with this as he has already stated that he would be loyal to me and want anyone else.
To be honest if that were to change and he wanted to change to swinging at some point then hopefully our relationship would have grown by then and be able to sustain a healthy swinging relationship.
So... alot to consider, a lot to learn and a lot of patience a head I think.
Thanks for the thoughts so far, they have all be useful x
good luck with is one lucky guy.
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Hi Venus,
My view of a cuckold Is as Cuman put, it is where the male partner enjoys being humiliated.
My hubby and I meet men for my pleasure I couldn’t humiliate him so in true terms he isn’t a cuckold. Yet on meets he doesn’t always join in, all depends the mood on the day. He would sometimes be upstairs working and pop down every so often we are laid back and what ever happens, happens. He likes to see me have fun and pleasure and that is my buzz too. Yet I have the consent if I wish to meets guys on a one to one but again it isn’t about coming back and humiliating him.
I suppose what I am saying is there are different ways we all like to play, what you need to do is play it the way that you are both comfortable with.
I would say a lot of what we do we didn’t set out to do in the beginning we just kept communication open and moved in little steps at a time, but always been honest with each other along the way.
There will be obstacles to overcome talking is key.
I personally could not have done this in a new relationship we have been together 28 years so had a solid foundation to start with.
But only the two of you will know if it is right for you, so good luck to you both in what you decide.
I hope this makes sense!
Just remember that as with everything, Cuckoldry is black, white, and every shade of grey in between.
From a guy made to wash the sheets after his wife- who he is no longer allowed to touch- has screwed her lover...
....to a husband who goes shopping for lingerie with his wife, when he's paid for her to go away for a weekend with her lover. However, she'll have lots of juicy details to tell him whilst they're having sex when she returns.
For the cuckhold male- , the "torture" of knowing his wife/oh is going to be with someone else is the ultimate pleasure/pain trip. :thumbup:
THe mere fact that this subject has caused you enough concerns to raise it here should be ringing alarm bells.
You're, worried. You have doubts.
This is not a good foundation for a relationship
well ty for this thread it has answered some questions we been askin for a while me b is i suppose mildly cuchold and i'm certain he will want to explore it more once i can explain it further to him now i have read this not to the full extent of the meaning but more than we have been doing thats for sure
ty for an enlightening thread
Good luck though
Maybe I have it wrong, but I defo thought was more to it than just threesomes.
You're a bloke!
