So the long awaited meet up has arrived........you're chatting and relaxed in eachothers' presence...
What makes that final decision for you...... the one that says... yes... i really want to drag this person off to a room and enjoy all the pleasures that two people can give eachother.... whether passionate and furiously fast or langourously slowly teasing and touching until you cannot take any more....???
Is it the meeting of the eyes..... the silent message that passes between you.... the one that says yes............. i really want to make love to you.........???
Or something else?
equi-princess xxx
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Decisions................. and how you make them.
Sex God
Quote by equi-princess
So the long awaited meet up has arrived........you're chatting and relaxed in eachothers' presence...
What makes that final decision for you...... the one that says... yes... i really want to drag this person off to a room and enjoy all the pleasures that two people can give eachother.... whether passionate and furiously fast or langourously slowly teasing and touching until you cannot take any more....???
Is it the meeting of the eyes..... the silent message that passes between you.... the one that says yes............. i really want to make love to you.........???
Or something else?
equi-princess xxx
Something else.
If I've arranged to meet them, I have already decided to fuck them. It could only be if they behaved like a total arsehole that I would change my mind. I don't recall anyone ever turning up who was such a complete prat that I didn't give it a go.
So, for me, I guess the question should be... what makes me want to meet them.... but that is a different topic and I won't hijak this one.
Sex God
A bit like a job interview, first 2 mins that is all it takes
For me eye contact, the smile, the knowing look, the casual brush of hand or leg against each other...................
(sorry mind wandered off then)
For me eye contact, the smile, the knowing look, the casual brush of hand or leg against each other...................
(sorry mind wandered off then)
Its quite a hard question actually cause its not something i can put my finger on, i think blue has a point tho in saying if u have decided to meet someone u have decided to shag them, i know there's always the chance that after meeting u may change your mind so to me its more a question of what does the person do to make u decide not to have sex with them after meeting 
if that makes sence, but i think u just know if u like someone enough to want to have sex, and if u like them enough looks wise to arrange a meet unless they are total twats the chances are u will take it further.
if that makes sence, but i think u just know if u like someone enough to want to have sex, and if u like them enough looks wise to arrange a meet unless they are total twats the chances are u will take it further.
Sex God
Quote by Mister_Discreet
Are they breathing?
Oh and now we all feel so bloody special
Me.... I am rubbish at making any decisions about anything.
Sexlightened
I have to disagee that if you have arranged to meet that you have already disided to have sex. I would say that there is a bigger chance that you will end up enjoying the pleasure of each ohers bodies. Maybe this is because i am single so don't have anyone to bounce off, in regard to what i think & feel when first chatting.
I never diside 100% until i meet as i have had pic's that are misleading & though you can chat with people on here & get on like a house on fire i have met people that you find it hard to communicate with in person & sorry but when i need a breather or a glass of water break you need to be able to converse with whoever you are having sex with.
I can't explain what it is that makes me say yes. fluttering in my tummy, look that passes between you but when it happens the juices just flow & a BIG Yes slips out of my month
I never diside 100% until i meet as i have had pic's that are misleading & though you can chat with people on here & get on like a house on fire i have met people that you find it hard to communicate with in person & sorry but when i need a breather or a glass of water break you need to be able to converse with whoever you are having sex with.
I can't explain what it is that makes me say yes. fluttering in my tummy, look that passes between you but when it happens the juices just flow & a BIG Yes slips out of my month
hmmmm, I've had a grand total of 3 meets; 2 that I knew before-hand I fully intended to have sex (and did) and one where I had no intention of having sex (and didn't).
I go by personality mostly, and you can get a rough idea of someone's personality from chatting casually in chatroom. My first two meets were people I talked to regularly in there.
Interestingly, the one I didn't meet via the chatroom (email ad response) was a total disaster from the minute I stepped out of the car!
As we are now only looking for fems, personality is a huge issue for me; I definately need to be relaxed and comfortable for anything to come of a meet.
xx
I go by personality mostly, and you can get a rough idea of someone's personality from chatting casually in chatroom. My first two meets were people I talked to regularly in there.
Interestingly, the one I didn't meet via the chatroom (email ad response) was a total disaster from the minute I stepped out of the car!
As we are now only looking for fems, personality is a huge issue for me; I definately need to be relaxed and comfortable for anything to come of a meet.
xx
I cannot have sex with someone unless I am physically attracted to them ... I learned this a long long time ago. So for me, I have to chat to someone for a while, get to know them, see honest pics of them and THEN I decide if I want to meet them, but, like Blue, if I have decided to meet them I have already decided that if sex is in the offing then that's fine by me. In a club I have a slightly different approach (a bit like speed dating) whereby someone may catch my eye (the physical attraction), followed by a brief chat (compatibility), then followed by fast n furious sex. Sex is always better with someone you actually feel a real desire to have sex with as opposed to 'wham bam thank you mam' sex - that does sweet FA for me.
It would take A). a horendous meet for sex to not take place B). that it was already established that sex was not on the menu at a first meet C). lack of opportunity.
This doesn't stop me wanting to meet someone though.
It would take A). a horendous meet for sex to not take place B). that it was already established that sex was not on the menu at a first meet C). lack of opportunity.
This doesn't stop me wanting to meet someone though.
Casanova
We are of the opinion that when we meet up with someone, we tell them before that we dont shag on first date,so to speak, but if the meet goes really well nothing is to stop us from changing our mind.
There has got to be some kind of attraction there for us in the first place, be it in the mind or in the looks. Whatever way we hope to have a good time be it socially of sexually.
(by the way hi Saffy, good to see you back babe xxxxxxxxxxxx)
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There has got to be some kind of attraction there for us in the first place, be it in the mind or in the looks. Whatever way we hope to have a good time be it socially of sexually.
(by the way hi Saffy, good to see you back babe xxxxxxxxxxxx)
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Quote by Phoenix
(a bit like speed dating)
So it takes 4 minutes then
Hijack off...
I agree there has to be some physical or personal attraction.
ermmmmmmmm Yup!............. the club scene is fast and frantic in my opinion...... if I see someone I like I just have to have her before anyone else gets to her but then I've always been like that (old caveman instincts kicking in here methinks :lol: ) ... takes a bit longer than 4 minutes though.
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Sex God
Quote by Wishmaster
(a bit like speed dating)
So it takes 4 minutes then
Hijack off...
I agree there has to be some physical or personal attraction.
ermmmmmmmm Yup!............. the club scene is fast and frantic in my opinion...... if I see someone I like I just have to have her before anyone else gets to her but then I've always been like that (old caveman instincts kicking in here methinks :lol: ) ... takes a bit longer than 4 minutes though.
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Nah 4 minutes in a club is too long... you'd start holding up the queue, fights would break out amongst the impatient ones at the back, security would be called, they would get angry and call the police and everyone would end up spending the night in the slammer to calm down :uhoh:
Quote by bluexxx
(a bit like speed dating)
So it takes 4 minutes then
Hijack off...
I agree there has to be some physical or personal attraction.
ermmmmmmmm Yup!............. the club scene is fast and frantic in my opinion...... if I see someone I like I just have to have her before anyone else gets to her but then I've always been like that (old caveman instincts kicking in here methinks :lol: ) ... takes a bit longer than 4 minutes though.
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Nah 4 minutes in a club is too long... you'd start holding up the queue, fights would break out amongst the impatient ones at the back, security would be called, they would get angry and call the police and everyone would end up spending the night in the slammer to calm down :uhoh:
we must use the same clubs
:rotflmao:
Quote by Wishmaster
(a bit like speed dating)
So it takes 4 minutes then
Hijack off...
I agree there has to be some physical or personal attraction.
ermmmmmmmm Yup!............. the club scene is fast and frantic in my opinion...... if I see someone I like I just have to have her before anyone else gets to her but then I've always been like that (old caveman instincts kicking in here methinks :lol: ) ... takes a bit longer than 4 minutes though.
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Ooh the caveman thing again!
Quote by angelnn66
(a bit like speed dating)
So it takes 4 minutes then
Hijack off...
I agree there has to be some physical or personal attraction.
ermmmmmmmm Yup!............. the club scene is fast and frantic in my opinion...... if I see someone I like I just have to have her before anyone else gets to her but then I've always been like that (old caveman instincts kicking in here methinks :lol: ) ... takes a bit longer than 4 minutes though.
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Ooh the caveman thing again!
Angel...... but don't quote me on that! ............ please.... DON'T QUOTE ME .. hehehe
Edit: Angel.. check your profile hon.... I think you may have HTML or BB code switched off .... that maybe why ur quotes are not showing on your posts hon.
having arranged to meet....then only once turned it down.....
never forget as soon as i got to the house I thought...oh dear.....the grass on the front was over the front window sill.....when inside the house...it was grubby and unkept...and worse still so were the couple...never forget they both had dirt in their fingernails....sorry but personal hygiene is a must for me.....I made some excuse about never doing anything on first meet and got away as quick as possible.
never forget as soon as i got to the house I thought...oh dear.....the grass on the front was over the front window sill.....when inside the house...it was grubby and unkept...and worse still so were the couple...never forget they both had dirt in their fingernails....sorry but personal hygiene is a must for me.....I made some excuse about never doing anything on first meet and got away as quick as possible.
Quote by equi-princess
So the long awaited meet up has arrived........you're chatting and relaxed in eachothers' presence...
What makes that final decision for you...... the one that says... yes... i really want to drag this person off to a room and enjoy all the pleasures that two people can give eachother.... whether passionate and furiously fast or langourously slowly teasing and touching until you cannot take any more....???
Is it the meeting of the eyes..... the silent message that passes between you.... the one that says yes............. i really want to make love to you.........???
Or something else?
equi-princess xxx
The thing that clinches it for me is when she says.........would you like a chip buttie???
:roll: 
I've only been 'officially' swinging a couple of months. The first guy I met off here was of the opinion that you don't need to fancy the person you are gonna swing with, you just do it for the experience.
I heartily disagreed with this. I don't know whether it's fancying them, feeling some sort of physical attraction, a chemistry, a 'spark' or whatever but there has to be something going on that makes me feel that tingle that makes me think "I want more.........."
I wish I could bottle that sensation!
I heartily disagreed with this. I don't know whether it's fancying them, feeling some sort of physical attraction, a chemistry, a 'spark' or whatever but there has to be something going on that makes me feel that tingle that makes me think "I want more.........."
I wish I could bottle that sensation!
I suppose that there are two ways of looking at this.
I can see that there might be the swingers whose attraction is for the simple pleasures of sex without the constraints of a relationship, for whom people of the opposite (or same) sex of similar perspective are natural and willing partners. I would imagine these are the ones that get classified as the "Hello ...... mmmm .... oooohhhh!!!! .... thanks and goodbye" type.
I can also see that, as liberated as swinging might allow you to be, the physical gyrations involved are still a very intimate and personal thing, and you would want to make a bit more than the indifferent contact required by the first type. This is where a bit more mutual compatibility would come in, I feel, even if this stops a long way short of wanting to have each other's children.
Of course, not speaking from great experience, the above could just all be so much bollox.
I can see that there might be the swingers whose attraction is for the simple pleasures of sex without the constraints of a relationship, for whom people of the opposite (or same) sex of similar perspective are natural and willing partners. I would imagine these are the ones that get classified as the "Hello ...... mmmm .... oooohhhh!!!! .... thanks and goodbye" type.
I can also see that, as liberated as swinging might allow you to be, the physical gyrations involved are still a very intimate and personal thing, and you would want to make a bit more than the indifferent contact required by the first type. This is where a bit more mutual compatibility would come in, I feel, even if this stops a long way short of wanting to have each other's children.
Of course, not speaking from great experience, the above could just all be so much bollox.
Quote by sexyjo
I heartily disagreed with this. I don't know whether it's fancying them, feeling some sort of physical attraction, a chemistry, a 'spark' or whatever but there has to be something going on that makes me feel that tingle that makes me think "I want more.........."
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This is why I cannot understand the "gloryhole" concept.
Well, have to be able to talk to them, a giggle, joke, just friendly chat........followed by eyes, if she has lovely eyes, then I'm hers, basically as useless as I am lol.....
but even if it a couple or group, the most important thing to me is to feel comfortable, if they or her aren't comfy, then I don't feel so either, and nothing will happen
Just like everything else, it should be about having a good time and being relaxed, whether NSA, or regular, :P :twisted:
curses being on the wrong bloody continent ! :doh:
but even if it a couple or group, the most important thing to me is to feel comfortable, if they or her aren't comfy, then I don't feel so either, and nothing will happen
Just like everything else, it should be about having a good time and being relaxed, whether NSA, or regular, :P :twisted:
curses being on the wrong bloody continent !
:doh: Sex God
Quote by Phoenix
I heartily disagreed with this. I don't know whether it's fancying them, feeling some sort of physical attraction, a chemistry, a 'spark' or whatever but there has to be something going on that makes me feel that tingle that makes me think "I want more.........."
!
This is why I cannot understand the "gloryhole" concept.
Oh if you're a cock-lover and you're not really interested in the rest of the body, glory holes are possibly that something - apparently
:twisted: Quote by bluexxx
I heartily disagreed with this. I don't know whether it's fancying them, feeling some sort of physical attraction, a chemistry, a 'spark' or whatever but there has to be something going on that makes me feel that tingle that makes me think "I want more.........."
!
This is why I cannot understand the "gloryhole" concept.
Oh if you're a cock-lover and you're not really interested in the rest of the body, glory holes are possibly that something - apparently
:twisted:take it the group box is for the more anatomically centered person then :P
nice to concentrate on one part at a time, but not all the time :twisted: 
Sex God
Quote by Colts23
Well, have to be able to talk to them, a giggle, joke, just friendly chat........followed by eyes, if she has lovely eyes, then I'm hers, basically as useless as I am lol.....
but even if it a couple or group, the most important thing to me is to feel comfortable, if they or her aren't comfy, then I don't feel so either, and nothing will happen
Just like everything else, it should be about having a good time and being relaxed, whether NSA, or regular, :P :twisted:
curses being on the wrong bloody continent !
hey colts, got you something
