Define 'Timewaster'

7 Oct 2006

I have recently noticed a much wider ranging use of the term 'timewaster'...
Example:
"the timewasters who just don't reply to your PM's" (I always thought these were not timewasters - just not interested) confused

I could be wrong (but I doubt it.... it very rarely happens) wink

.... but....
to me a 'timewaster' is someone that goes through all of the process (whatever your process is) to arrange a meet and then disappears off of the face of the earth **30 minutes before prime-time in Funville and is never heard from again.
An addition to this could be the 'let's pretend' type - as in ... let's pretend I am a couple and see if I can string this person/couple along and may be get some wanking material or phone sex. But I am still in two minds as to whether they are 'timewasters' or just plain old bullshiters/wankers who need a little more interaction to jack-off :?
So - what do you understand to be a 'timewaster'?
** Please note - disappearance times may vary.

7 Oct 2006

Hard to say, think I agree with both of your examples stated above. problem is that you then become cynical and find it harder to trust the next reply you get and become furhter disillusioned because of the idiots out there who get their kicks out of it.
I feel bad for replying to a post, they replied promptly asking for pics etc but i've been away with work and unable to get on SH so took me ages to get back to them. So maybe they consider us to be timewasters due to my tardy reply and that my better half doesn't really log onto here preferring to browse profiles whilsti socialise lol

7 Oct 2006

1 minute before the end of a match and.........the ball is kicked out of play lol

7 Oct 2006

Quote by MrFC
1 minute before the end of a match and.........the ball is kicked out of play

7 Oct 2006

Quote by MrFC
1 minute before the end of a match and.........the ball is kicked out of play

That gets added to time added for stoppages...
Kinda like if you need to stop to go for a whizz wink

7 Oct 2006

Think you have covered it there Polo. If i'm sat at the pc replying to ads and i dont get a reply then i dont consider them as time wasters. I'm a bloke and i know how many pm's the ladies get.
However if i get into email tennis to sort out a meet and its cancelled at the last minute and hear no more, then yes i would consider that to be time wasted.
Then there is the scenario when you meet a female or a couple and nothing happens. That to me is not time wasted because until you actually meet you dont know if you are actually going to "click"
Had too much beer and i'm thinking to much lol
Off for another one
lol

7 Oct 2006

Quote by jesster
Think you have covered it there Polo. If i'm sat at the pc replying to ads and i dont get a reply then i dont consider them as time wasters. I'm a bloke and i know how many pm's the ladies get.
However if i get into email tennis to sort out a meet and its cancelled at the last minute and hear no more, then yes i would consider that to be time wasted.
Then there is the scenario when you meet a female or a couple and nothing happens. That to me is not time wasted because until you actually meet you dont know if you are actually going to "click"

Just about sums it up for me as well....

7 Oct 2006

Quote by PoloLady
to me a 'timewaster' is someone that goes through all of the process (whatever your process is) to arrange a meet and then disappears off of the face of the earth **30 minutes before prime-time in Funville and is never heard from again.

id say that my definition but they dont disapear as they never turned up anyway thus never appeared.

Quote by PoloLady
An addition to this could be the 'let's pretend' type - as in ... let's pretend I am a couple and see if I can string this person/couple along and may be get some wanking material or phone sex. But I am still in two minds as to whether they are 'timewasters' or just plain old bullshiters/wankers who need a little more interaction to jack-off

I'd say some are timewasters but like you said some maybe need more interaction to get their gratification and never intend to meet in person whether they actually tell you that or not is another question

8 Oct 2006

timewaster...=
35 mins
18 pm`s talking about what we want and enjoy
10 mins of silence .............
before you realize they are now trying to clean the keyboard and you wont hear from them again rolleyes

8 Oct 2006

Quote by PoloLady
to me a 'timewaster' is someone that goes through all of the process (whatever your process is) to arrange a meet and then disappears off of the face of the earth **30 minutes before prime-time in Funville and is never heard from again.

For me this sums it up ^^^ as PoloLady has already written.
All the ones that use to amuse me is the phone call 10 mins or so before, 'yes we are on our way' never to turn up!! lol

And the phone being off when you try to contact them again!

8 Oct 2006

Well for us a time waster is a cpl who for one reason or onother do not turn up for an arranged meet without calling to say that they wish to cancel esp after we have traveled maybe quite some distance for that meet, or a single gent turns up with excuses for his missing other half and they are the ones who really p*ss us off mad

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Up until the point of departure for said meet the time spent chatting and emailing is merely time spent interacting with someone and is therefor never really wasted time. So there you have it our twopenarth worth.

8 Oct 2006

agree with the general consensus here...
Chatting with someone and then maybe camming/chatting on the phone and deciding that they *aren't* for you isn't timewasting I don't think, providing you are honest and don't actually lead the people up the garden path by saying that you're going to meet and so on and so on - sometimes you need these extra methods of communication to decide whether the people are for you or not... its a shame that some people (no one this thread!) think that if you come on here and even talk to someone and then decide that they aren't what you are looking for that you are a 'timewaster' - I think its a crime that the more newbie people commit, as a lot of them think that signing up on here automatically assures them sex with anyone they fancy/anyone who talks to them.

8 Oct 2006

I think that a timewaster for me can be someone who doesnt show on arranged meets without a reasonable explanation, and there can be many reasonable explanations. If they dont get in touch and let you know the situation, whether it be nerves or a family crisis etc then i would consider it timewasting. We fortunately havent encountered any "timewasters" yet but have met people who have been let down quite a few times and i can imagine that it is not a nice thing to happen. So as with most undesirable situations you have to just take it on the chin and move on.
Louise xx

8 Oct 2006

Quote by rogerndi
Well for us a time waster is a cpl who for one reason or onother do not turn up for an arranged meet without calling to say that they wish to cancel .

yep, that's my definition of a timewaster :thumbup:

I think its a crime that the more newbie people commit, as a lot of them think that signing up on here automatically assures them sex with anyone they fancy/anyone who talks to them.

I agree in part, but I also think a few people who've been here a while are also very like that confused

I've agreed to meets on two occasions in the past where I've got there and 'something doesnt feel right/ I dont like their attitude/ approach/ whatever and it wasn't apparent in pm/ msn/ phone so I've backed out and said I'm sorry, this isnt going to happen - and both times been branded a timewaster. Do I care? not a jot, I'm happy to take the label from people who dont fit the standards if it makes them feel better lol

meeeiow.

8 Oct 2006

Quote by Darkfire
Well for us a time waster is a cpl who for one reason or onother do not turn up for an arranged meet without calling to say that they wish to cancel .

yep, that's my definition of a timewaster :thumbup:

I think its a crime that the more newbie people commit, as a lot of them think that signing up on here automatically assures them sex with anyone they fancy/anyone who talks to them.

I agree in part, but I also think a few people who've been here a while are also very like that confused

I've agreed to meets on two occasions in the past where I've got there and 'something doesnt feel right/ I dont like their attitude/ approach/ whatever and it wasn't apparent in pm/ msn/ phone so I've backed out and said I'm sorry, this isnt going to happen - and both times been branded a timewaster. Do I care? not a jot, I'm happy to take the label from people who dont fit the standards if it makes them feel better lol

meeeiow.
Actually turning up at a meet and finding after all the effort that the situation doesnt feel right and backing out is never timewasting in our book because until you actually meet someone you never really know if its right.
we have been to meets in the past and been turned down ourselves but have never thought of the other cpl as timewasters, we have also been to meets and said no to the other cpl as it didnt feel right and still talk to them as friends not as people to be shunned.
life is far too short to hold grudges biggrin

8 Oct 2006

Quote by PoloLady
..to me a 'timewaster' is someone that goes through all of the process (whatever your process is) to arrange a meet and then disappears off of the face of the earth **30 minutes before prime-time in Funville and is never heard from again....

I totally agree, although when the person desides to 'bolt' can have an effect on how much of a time waster I view them to be. A couple of weeks or regular emailing backwards and forwards then suddenly I never hear from them again, I just think that it's better for this to happen now rather than further down the line. But I did talk to somebody for a while, PM to chat to swapping mobile numbers and speaking - then one day my messages were left unanswered and my calls ignored, now that was a total waste of time. confused

Quote by PoloLady
An addition to this could be the 'let's pretend' type - as in ... let's pretend I am a couple and see if I can string this person/couple along and may be get some wanking material or phone sex. But I am still in two minds as to whether they are 'timewasters' or just plain old bullshiters/wankers who need a little more interaction to jack-off :?

Now this is actually more annoying to me! mad

And I wouldn't say they were the same as 'timewasters' who are what they say they are but have no intention of seeing anything through. I think the pretenders are simply rather sad twats that are extremely selfish and have no consideration for how being 'played' may feel. I just don't get this at all. I don't understand how anyone can get any pleasure from knowing that other people only wanting/desiring/liking them for a reason that is a lie. dunno

I suppose I know how it feels to some extent because before I 'came out' I always used to feel I was living a lie and my friends and family didn't love/like me because they didn't know the real me. I used to sit there sometimes and think to myself "But if you knew the real me, would you still love me?" It was truly awful thinking people only liked you because they didn't know the truth, and why anyone would seek to do this for kicks or pleasure is completely beyond me.
I guess I've gone off on a tangent again but I'll click post anyway.

8 Oct 2006

Quote by PoloLady
I have recently noticed a much wider ranging use of the term 'timewaster'...
Example:
"the timewasters who just don't reply to your PM's" (I always thought these were not timewasters - just not interested)
I could be wrong (but I doubt it.... it very rarely happens) .... but....
to me a 'timewaster' is someone that goes through all of the process (whatever your process is) to arrange a meet and then disappears off of the face of the earth **30 minutes before prime-time in Funville and is never heard from addition to this could be the 'let's pretend' type - as in ... let's pretend I am a couple and see if I can string this person/couple along and may be get some wanking material or phone sex. But I am still in two minds as to whether they are 'timewasters' or just plain old bullshiters/wankers who need a little more interaction to jack-off :?
So - what do you understand to be a 'timewaster'?
** Please note - disappearance times may vary.

I agree with you Polo! kiss

How could anyone disagree with that gorgeous eye of yours :smile2:

8 Oct 2006

Time waster; (1) anyone who does not give me what I want on demand. (2) anyone who thinks life it not to short.

(3) anyone who spends time talking about what a lot of time wasters there are about.
bolt

8 Oct 2006

timewasters?........its all bin said,the people who are not honest about themselvesn guy who says he,s single(when in fact er indoors dont know what he,s up to),people who misrepresent themselves in profiles,and really people who arrange meets but dont have the bottle to say" no thanks this isnt for me".summing up :honesty wins everytime :wary:

9 Oct 2006

yep. i agree with Polo's definitions entirely........
I wouldnt regard someone who doesnt reply to a PM or an advert reply as a timewaster...i think the timewasters are more those who fail to show up for a meet when one has been arranged..........which i happen to think is completely out of order.........
i definately believe that things can crop up once a meet has been arranged which can require it tobe cancelled.... but cancelling should be done the right way.......ie , phoning up and making your excuses........... to leave a prospective meet waiting at the rendevouz point is scandalous....

9 Oct 2006

Some-one who arranges to meet and then texts every ten munites apologising for their delay until you get fed up with it and leave and then they text you to ask where you've gone rolleyes

People who missrepresent themselves by lying on their profile and having pics that are a decade old, in my view, are bigger timewasters than those who don't show up.
H.x

9 Oct 2006

Quote by H-x
Some-one who arranges to meet and then texts every ten munites apologising for their delay until you get fed up with it and leave and then they text you to ask where you've gone
People who missrepresent themselves by lying on their profile and having pics that are a decade old, in my view, are bigger timewasters than those who don't show up.
H.x

think that prity much sum's it up realy
well sed H-x hun wink

9 Oct 2006

H-X Yes but some people still seem to have ideas about being 'fashionalbly late' and that can really annoy me too. Luckily for me it takes no time for the good lady here to get herself ready so long as I give her notice so don't have too much of a problem to drag her out of house!

9 Oct 2006

i think you got it spot on pololady!