My sex drive and my wife's have been different for a long time. I've only ever had sex with her, never anyone else but my curiosity to explore different things soon surpassed her comfort zone.
I managed to get her to indulge in watersports and tried anal once or twice and the occasional outdoor fuck, but i wanted more. I wanted to try fisting and more anal sex and the obvious sex with others, which is how i ended up on this site. She however was not interested at all and the sex between us dwindled. At one point she accused my of straying, but I didn't and as a result we haven't had sex for a couple of years, but I still love her.
Which gets to my point - how can two people live with vastly differing sex drives? I love my wife, but am now at the point where I want to fuck almost anything in a skirt, but I know that if she ever found out it would end our marriage in an instant and i still really love her. I just wish that society was more open to open relationships and swinging in general. In my opinion an open minded society and government run brothels would save many a marriage!
Any advice gladly received.
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my wife accepts that we now want different things when it comes to sex.
she never instigates sex but still loves a good fucking when she has had a drink & i talk her into it she still is happy to dress to please & when we go on holls she shaves off & sun bathes in the nude but she is not adventurous & just isn't interested in playing
we talked about it when i wanted more than she did & we agreed that i could get some pleasures elsewhere
she never instigates sex but still loves a good fucking when she has had a drink & i talk her into it she still is happy to dress to please & when we go on holls she shaves off & sun bathes in the nude but she is not adventurous & just isn't interested in playing
we talked about it when i wanted more than she did & we agreed that i could get some pleasures elsewhere
Quote by Luvincouple
My sex drive and my wife's have been different for a long time. I've only ever had sex with her, never anyone else but my curiosity to explore different things soon surpassed her comfort zone.
I managed to get her to indulge in watersports and tried anal once or twice and the occasional outdoor fuck, but i wanted more. I wanted to try fisting and more anal sex and the obvious sex with others, which is how i ended up on this site. She however was not interested at all and the sex between us dwindled. At one point she accused my of straying, but I didn't and as a result we haven't had sex for a couple of years, but I still love her.
Which gets to my point - how can two people live with vastly differing sex drives? I love my wife, but am now at the point where I want to fuck almost anything in a skirt, but I know that if she ever found out it would end our marriage in an instant and i still really love her. I just wish that society was more open to open relationships and swinging in general. In my opinion an open minded society and government run brothels would save many a marriage!
Any advice gladly received.
You say this and yet since 2004 you have had an active COUPLES profile claiming that you AND your wife are looking to expand your sex life together.
Your a timewaster and a liar.
The advice you seek, run for parliament and lobby the Government to change the laws on prostitution, though that has nothing to do with this site and lobby the Government and Religious bodies to accept a more open view of marriage and sex.
Quote by dave__firth
my wife accepts that we now want different things when it comes to sex.
she never instigates sex but still loves a good fucking when she has had a drink & i talk her into it she still is happy to dress to please & when we go on holls she shaves off & sun bathes in the nude but she is not adventurous & just isn't interested in playing
we talked about it when i wanted more than she did & we agreed that i could get some pleasures elsewhere
That is swinging, at least one aspect of it, swinging is, having sex with people outside your relationship WITH your partners consent, though I have to say your profile could be construed in another way as you make no mention in it of having your wife's permission to play and say in it that you are seeking to have an affair, an affair being sex with someone on a regular basis without the consent of your partner.
Quote by MidsCouple24
My sex drive and my wife's have been different for a long time. I've only ever had sex with her, never anyone else but my curiosity to explore different things soon surpassed her comfort zone.
I managed to get her to indulge in watersports and tried anal once or twice and the occasional outdoor fuck, but i wanted more. I wanted to try fisting and more anal sex and the obvious sex with others, which is how i ended up on this site. She however was not interested at all and the sex between us dwindled. At one point she accused my of straying, but I didn't and as a result we haven't had sex for a couple of years, but I still love her.
Which gets to my point - how can two people live with vastly differing sex drives? I love my wife, but am now at the point where I want to fuck almost anything in a skirt, but I know that if she ever found out it would end our marriage in an instant and i still really love her. I just wish that society was more open to open relationships and swinging in general. In my opinion an open minded society and government run brothels would save many a marriage!
Any advice gladly received.
You say this and yet since 2004 you have had an active COUPLES profile claiming that you AND your wife are looking to expand your sex life together.
Your a timewaster and a liar.
The advice you seek, run for parliament and lobby the Government to change the laws on prostitution, though that has nothing to do with this site and lobby the Government and Religious bodies to accept a more open view of marriage and sex.
Thanks for your reply,
Initially I always hoped that we could explore and expand our sexual lives together, but have now realised that this is not going to happen. So maybe I should change the text within the profile. As I'm still part of a couple then should I not have a profile relating to that or should I change it to a single male, which I'm not?
I have signed many petitions to legalise prostitution as I think it would be a good thing for society in general, but as you rightly say that is a discussion for elsewhere and not here.
The truth is swinging is a natural act for human beings.
We are humans not animals, the same old doggy position in the same fur coat doesn't do it for us.
Human beings require variety in everything they do, a dog doesn't get bored with doggy style sex, a cow doesn't get bored with eating grass.
Try eating your favourite food 3 times a day for the rest of your life, use the same wallpaper in every room of your house with the same pictures on each wall in each room or worse no pictures and no wallpaper and no ornaments, just paint it all green or white or blue.
Factories worked out many years ago that production lines move faster with a little music or variety for the workers.
Humans need variety in everything including in our sex lives, you can love one person all your life but we yearn for sex with others, and swinging is just that, sex with others, no love, no deep emotion, no long term relationship.
Even monogamous couples crave variety, not just the missionary position, different outfits, different rooms in the house etc.
It is only Governments and Religious groups that have turned peoples minds towards monogamy in their sex lives, and when it is not controlled such as in the days of the Roman Empire, orgies were common place occurrences for married men and women.
Where is it written that you should only have sex with your partner, in Bibles and Government laws.
We are humans not animals, the same old doggy position in the same fur coat doesn't do it for us.
Human beings require variety in everything they do, a dog doesn't get bored with doggy style sex, a cow doesn't get bored with eating grass.
Try eating your favourite food 3 times a day for the rest of your life, use the same wallpaper in every room of your house with the same pictures on each wall in each room or worse no pictures and no wallpaper and no ornaments, just paint it all green or white or blue.
Factories worked out many years ago that production lines move faster with a little music or variety for the workers.
Humans need variety in everything including in our sex lives, you can love one person all your life but we yearn for sex with others, and swinging is just that, sex with others, no love, no deep emotion, no long term relationship.
Even monogamous couples crave variety, not just the missionary position, different outfits, different rooms in the house etc.
It is only Governments and Religious groups that have turned peoples minds towards monogamy in their sex lives, and when it is not controlled such as in the days of the Roman Empire, orgies were common place occurrences for married men and women.
Where is it written that you should only have sex with your partner, in Bibles and Government laws.
Quote by MidsCouple24
Your a timewaster and a liar.
Thats a bit harsh don't you think? I mean, on your own profile it states:
Jed, average endowment, 5ft 7ins, slim, fit, fun with gsoh.
Now I have no idea as to your appendage or various stats...but sense of humour? Really? You sure?
Quote by MidsCouple24
The advice you seek, run for parliament and lobby the Government to change the laws on prostitution, though that has nothing to do with this site and lobby the Government and Religious bodies to accept a more open view of marriage and sex.
Neither has some of your latest forum thread offerings, such as ' Priests', 'Banning Smoking in Cars' 'footie thread' and ' no work- no workers morelike' it takes all sorts, 'appen Luvincouple was just sounding off about a situation he finds himself confronted with and as it's an adult theme re relationships (of sorts) I'd say his post was much more on topic than some of your offerings?
*Hands Jed a phillips 8w = 48 watt Phillips LED bulb* ... lighten up meluvvly.
PS: Caterpillar
Personally I did not see it as harsh, just honest, gsoh, yes, I don't think misleading people with your profile is the slightest bit funny, saying your a couple seeking fun as a couple when you later admit that you never have and never will seek fun as a couple is a lie, it wastes peoples time who contact you seeking to play as a couple, how else can that be interpreted, are you as a moderator saying it is ok to have a couples profile when your playing as a single ?
I am sure you don't need reminding how often my posts try to help people in the swinging section when they ask about the lifestyle or clubs or socials etc, but in the general topic area I do try to create topics for discussion and thought, I enjoy these debates, I learn from them and some but not all others enjoy them, those that don't generally ignore them and move on to topics they do enjoy.
The topics I choose are normally inspired by headlines and stories in the news that day.
On another site I use there are over 100 new topics a day discussed, another 100 frivalous topics designed to be fun and amusing, here on SH we are lucky to get one serious and 3 jovial topics a week, I am trying to get some interest going in the forums, there is a place in my life for serious thought and a place for humour.
I am sure you don't need reminding how often my posts try to help people in the swinging section when they ask about the lifestyle or clubs or socials etc, but in the general topic area I do try to create topics for discussion and thought, I enjoy these debates, I learn from them and some but not all others enjoy them, those that don't generally ignore them and move on to topics they do enjoy.
The topics I choose are normally inspired by headlines and stories in the news that day.
On another site I use there are over 100 new topics a day discussed, another 100 frivalous topics designed to be fun and amusing, here on SH we are lucky to get one serious and 3 jovial topics a week, I am trying to get some interest going in the forums, there is a place in my life for serious thought and a place for humour.
Quote by Toots
Your a timewaster and a liar.
Thats a bit harsh don't you think? I mean, on your own profile it states:
Jed, average endowment, 5ft 7ins, slim, fit, fun with gsoh.
Now I have no idea as to your appendage or various stats...but sense of humour? Really? You sure?
Quote by MidsCouple24
The advice you seek, run for parliament and lobby the Government to change the laws on prostitution, though that has nothing to do with this site and lobby the Government and Religious bodies to accept a more open view of marriage and sex.
Neither has some of your latest forum thread offerings, such as ' Priests', 'Banning Smoking in Cars' 'footie thread' and ' no work- no workers morelike' it takes all sorts, 'appen Luvincouple was just sounding off about a situation he finds himself confronted with and as it's an adult theme re relationships (of sorts) I'd say his post was much more on topic than some of your offerings?
*Hands Jed a phillips 8w = 48 watt Phillips LED bulb* ... lighten up meluvvly.
PS: Caterpillar
If we called someone a time waster we would banned from the site or at least warned…
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Quote by MidsCouple24
Your a timewaster and a liar.
Your quote above is out of order. You are in absolutely no position to judge someone on here, especially when you can't back it up. Just because you post a lot of what you personally see as interesting and amusing doesn't give you the right to be abusive to another member. His profile may be wrong, but so are thousands of others, some more than others. We cannot police every single word posted on the site and we certainly do not publicly abuse another member because we feel they are in the wrong. If you see a profile you think is factually incorrect, then feel free to report it to us so we can take action, not you openly abuse them in the forum.
Timewaster? You prove it, not assume it. You have no idea if he has wasted anyones' time. Liar? That's fighting talk. Whatever he may have on his profile does not give you the right to openly declare he's a liar. As already stated, your profile says you have a GSOH. From your posts on here I disagree, but that is my opinion. Does that mean I can openly call you a liar? No. That's not starting a debate, just being argumentative
Just because you think you are talking the truth does not give you the right to openly declare it on this site. If you know of sites more interesting and accepting of your 'talents', perhaps you might be more comfortable posting there.
Mal
Quote by Mal
Your a timewaster and a liar.
Your quote above is out of order. You are in absolutely no position to judge someone on here, especially when you can't back it up. Just because you post a lot of what you personally see as interesting and amusing doesn't give you the right to be abusive to another member. His profile may be wrong, but so are thousands of others, some more than others. We cannot police every single word posted on the site and we certainly do not publicly abuse another member because we feel they are in the wrong. If you see a profile you think is factually incorrect, then feel free to report it to us so we can take action, not you openly abuse them in the forum.
Timewaster? You prove it, not assume it. You have no idea if he has wasted anyones' time. Liar? That's fighting talk. Whatever he may have on his profile does not give you the right to openly declare he's a liar. As already stated, your profile says you have a GSOH. From your posts on here I disagree, but that is my opinion. Does that mean I can openly call you a liar? No. That's not starting a debate, just being argumentative
Just because you think you are talking the truth does not give you the right to openly declare it on this site. If you know of sites more interesting and accepting of your 'talents', perhaps you might be more comfortable posting there.
Mal
Statin
Stating facts is not abuse it is stating facts, He has had a couples profile since 2004 but now admits that his partner has never sought to meet others with him, I don't have to prove it the evidence is clear.
It is a pretty clear assumption that in 10 years of having a fake couples profile he will have wasted peoples time, if people contact him believing him to be a couple and seeking to meet them as a couple he is wasting their time.
And no I don't see it as duplicitous which is for example, saying one thing for a time but then doing what you say you did not do or to quote the Oxford Dictionary change your mind which by his own admission he did not do as his partner has never been part of his couples meeting agenda.
But if it offends you all so much, then to him, I apologise for calling him a liar, and I will accept that his profile is legit here, hell I might even contact him to arrange a meet with him and his partner in accordance with his profile and accept them for what his profile says they are, never again will I report or comment on anyone's profile that I ASSUME to be false, wrong or fake.
So OP you have my unreserved apology and we would be have to chat to the two of you with regards to meeting up soon.
As for posting on another site, surely you cannot be ASSUMING that I don't ? because according to you making assumptions without proof is wrong ! and judging, you have stated in this open profile that I am lying and do not have a gsoh, you have openly judged me and if you do not believe I have a gsoh you must believe I am lying about that in my profile.
I have said my piece and answered your post, I have apologised to the OP as far as I am concerned I have nothing more to add to this thread.
Quote by MidsCouple24
Your a timewaster and a liar.
Your quote above is out of order. You are in absolutely no position to judge someone on here, especially when you can't back it up. Just because you post a lot of what you personally see as interesting and amusing doesn't give you the right to be abusive to another member. His profile may be wrong, but so are thousands of others, some more than others. We cannot police every single word posted on the site and we certainly do not publicly abuse another member because we feel they are in the wrong. If you see a profile you think is factually incorrect, then feel free to report it to us so we can take action, not you openly abuse them in the forum.
Timewaster? You prove it, not assume it. You have no idea if he has wasted anyones' time. Liar? That's fighting talk. Whatever he may have on his profile does not give you the right to openly declare he's a liar. As already stated, your profile says you have a GSOH. From your posts on here I disagree, but that is my opinion. Does that mean I can openly call you a liar? No. That's not starting a debate, just being argumentative
Just because you think you are talking the truth does not give you the right to openly declare it on this site. If you know of sites more interesting and accepting of your 'talents', perhaps you might be more comfortable posting there.
Mal
Statin
Stating facts is not abuse it is stating facts, He has had a couples profile since 2004 but now admits that his partner has never sought to meet others with him, I don't have to prove it the evidence is clear.
It is a pretty clear assumption that in 10 years of having a fake couples profile he will have wasted peoples time, if people contact him believing him to be a couple and seeking to meet them as a couple he is wasting their time.
And no I don't see it as duplicitous which is for example, saying one thing for a time but then doing what you say you did not do or to quote the Oxford Dictionary change your mind which by his own admission he did not do as his partner has never been part of his couples meeting agenda.
But if it offends you all so much, then to him, I apologise for calling him a liar, and I will accept that his profile is legit here, hell I might even contact him to arrange a meet with him and his partner in accordance with his profile and accept them for what his profile says they are, never again will I report or comment on anyone's profile that I ASSUME to be false, wrong or fake.
So OP you have my unreserved apology and we would be have to chat to the two of you with regards to meeting up soon.
As for posting on another site, surely you cannot be ASSUMING that I don't ? because according to you making assumptions without proof is wrong ! and judging, you have stated in this open profile that I am lying and do not have a gsoh, you have openly judged me and if you do not believe I have a gsoh you must believe I am lying about that in my profile.
I have said my piece and answered your post, I have apologised to the OP as far as I am concerned I have nothing more to add to this thread.
If and when you do get meet with this couple, can we get an invite as well Jed? We don't meet many couples but would be very interested in meeting this one.
We gave up on reporting the false, wrong and fake profiles a while ago as the community façade began to crack. You soon realise you were only throwing pebbles in the reservoir anyway.
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Quote by MidsCouple24
Your a timewaster and a liar.
Your quote above is out of order. You are in absolutely no position to judge someone on here, especially when you can't back it up. Just because you post a lot of what you personally see as interesting and amusing doesn't give you the right to be abusive to another member. His profile may be wrong, but so are thousands of others, some more than others. We cannot police every single word posted on the site and we certainly do not publicly abuse another member because we feel they are in the wrong. If you see a profile you think is factually incorrect, then feel free to report it to us so we can take action, not you openly abuse them in the forum.
Timewaster? You prove it, not assume it. You have no idea if he has wasted anyones' time. Liar? That's fighting talk. Whatever he may have on his profile does not give you the right to openly declare he's a liar. As already stated, your profile says you have a GSOH. From your posts on here I disagree, but that is my opinion. Does that mean I can openly call you a liar? No. That's not starting a debate, just being argumentative
Just because you think you are talking the truth does not give you the right to openly declare it on this site. If you know of sites more interesting and accepting of your 'talents', perhaps you might be more comfortable posting there.
Mal
Statin
Stating facts is not abuse it is stating facts, He has had a couples profile since 2004 but now admits that his partner has never sought to meet others with him, I don't have to prove it the evidence is clear. I'm sorry you find it so difficult to not know when you are being abusive
It is a pretty clear assumption that in 10 years of having a fake couples profile he will have wasted peoples time, if people contact him believing him to be a couple and seeking to meet them as a couple he is wasting their time. Assumption again, not fact.
And no I don't see it as duplicitous which is for example, saying one thing for a time but then doing what you say you did not do or to quote the Oxford Dictionary change your mind which by his own admission he did not do as his partner has never been part of his couples meeting agenda. I never mentioned duplicitous, perhaps you should address that at the member who did?
But if it offends you all so much, then to him, I apologise for calling him a liar, and I will accept that his profile is legit here, hell I might even contact him to arrange a meet with him and his partner in accordance with his profile and accept them for what his profile says they are, never again will I report or comment on anyone's profile that I ASSUME to be false, wrong or fake. Who would be a timewaster now, bearing in mind you now know his wife doesn't meet?
So OP you have my unreserved apology and we would be have to chat to the two of you with regards to meeting up soon. But you know he would only meet on his own and you don't meet 'single' guys???
As for posting on another site, surely you cannot be ASSUMING that I don't ? because according to you making assumptions without proof is wrong ! I never assumed you didn't post elsewhere, I said "If you know of sites more interesting and accepting of your 'talents', perhaps you might be more comfortable posting there." - Where's the assumption in that sentence??
and judging, you have stated in this open profile that I am lying and do not have a gsoh, you have openly judged me and if you do not believe I have a gsoh you must believe I am lying about that in my profile. You need to re-read that bit again. You will see I never called you a liar. I said I disagreed with you. Not the same thing
I have said my piece and answered your post, I have apologised to the OP as far as I am concerned I have nothing more to add to this thread
Why use one word when a thousand will do!
Mal
Quote by Mal
Your a timewaster and a liar.
Your quote above is out of order. You are in absolutely no position to judge someone on here, especially when you can't back it up. Just because you post a lot of what you personally see as interesting and amusing doesn't give you the right to be abusive to another member. His profile may be wrong, but so are thousands of others, some more than others. We cannot police every single word posted on the site and we certainly do not publicly abuse another member because we feel they are in the wrong. If you see a profile you think is factually incorrect, then feel free to report it to us so we can take action, not you openly abuse them in the forum.
Timewaster? You prove it, not assume it. You have no idea if he has wasted anyones' time. Liar? That's fighting talk. Whatever he may have on his profile does not give you the right to openly declare he's a liar. As already stated, your profile says you have a GSOH. From your posts on here I disagree, but that is my opinion. Does that mean I can openly call you a liar? No. That's not starting a debate, just being argumentative
Just because you think you are talking the truth does not give you the right to openly declare it on this site. If you know of sites more interesting and accepting of your 'talents', perhaps you might be more comfortable posting there.
Mal
Statin
Stating facts is not abuse it is stating facts, He has had a couples profile since 2004 but now admits that his partner has never sought to meet others with him, I don't have to prove it the evidence is clear. I'm sorry you find it so difficult to not know when you are being abusiveSomeone abuses a child, you call him a , a name sometimes used abusively, if the person was convicted of the crime would calling him a be abusive or a statement of fact, if someone lies in a profile for 10 years, then admits the profile statement is a lie is it being abusive to call that person a liar ?
It is a pretty clear assumption that in 10 years of having a fake couples profile he will have wasted peoples time, if people contact him believing him to be a couple and seeking to meet them as a couple he is wasting their time. Assumption again, not fact. Yes it is, I make no apology for making assumptions based on the facts put before me.
And no I don't see it as duplicitous which is for example, saying one thing for a time but then doing what you say you did not do or to quote the Oxford Dictionary change your mind which by his own admission he did not do as his partner has never been part of his couples meeting agenda. I never mentioned duplicitous, perhaps you should address that at the member who did?I merely answered the comments in the thread in general, only when I quote like this post do I aim my comments at specific people
But if it offends you all so much, then to him, I apologise for calling him a liar, and I will accept that his profile is legit here, hell I might even contact him to arrange a meet with him and his partner in accordance with his profile and accept them for what his profile says they are, never again will I report or comment on anyone's profile that I ASSUME to be false, wrong or fake. Who would be a timewaster now, bearing in mind you now know his wife doesn't meet? His profile says they are a couple seeking to meet as a couple, now that is either a lie or they are seeking to meet as a couple you can't have it both ways, if I believe the profile then I would not be wasting his time to request a meet as a couple, if I believe his statement in the forums that his wife has no interest in meeting then I would indeed be wasting his time, but since I have been castigated for doubting his profile and saying it is a lie, what can I do, please tell me, which statement do I believe ?.
So OP you have my unreserved apology and we would be have to chat to the two of you with regards to meeting up soon. But you know he would only meet on his own and you don't meet 'single' guys??? I arrange meets based on what the profile says so he is not a single guy is he, if he was he would have a single male profile or his profile would say something to the effect that it is only him seeking meets and not him and his wife.
As for posting on another site, surely you cannot be ASSUMING that I don't ? because according to you making assumptions without proof is wrong ! I never assumed you didn't post elsewhere, I said "If you know of sites more interesting and accepting of your 'talents', perhaps you might be more comfortable posting there." - Where's the assumption in that sentence?? the assumption is there plain to see otherwise you would have stated something to the effect of "why don't you just stick to the other sites you post on". since it did not then you must have assumed I do not post on the other sites.
and judging, you have stated in this open profile that I am lying and do not have a gsoh, you have openly judged me and if you do not believe I have a gsoh you must believe I am lying about that in my profile. You need to re-read that bit again. You will see I never called you a liar. I said I disagreed with you. Not the same thing To disagree with an opinion is everyone's right and I totally applaud that right, to say that a statement someone makes as I have made in my profile is not true is to say that person is lying, you don't have to use the word liar to accuse someone of lying.
I have said my piece and answered your post, I have apologised to the OP as far as I am concerned I have nothing more to add to this thread
Why use one word when a thousand will do!
I will use as many words as I want because that is within the site rulesand not subject to any self appointed word police opinions :lol:I have said I do not wish to discuss this anymore, if I have done wrong then the moderators should ban me from the forums or site, if I have not broken the rules then people should agree to disagree with what I said or to agree with it.
Mal
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Quote by MidsCouple24I will use as many words as I want because that is within the site rulesand not subject to any self appointed word police opinions :lol:
Why use one word when a thousand will do!
I have said I do not wish to discuss this anymore, if I have done wrong then the moderators should ban me from the forums or site, if I have not broken the rules then people should agree to disagree with what I said or to agree with it.
Mal
Site rules on number of words? :grin: Ban you?
Believe me, if we felt you warranted a ban we wouldn't be discussing this now.You've missed the point on so many levels that it will be pointless of me trying to explain them to you, so I'll let it go now.
Have a nice day :lol:
Mal
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Sex God
:silly: i can't believe we got profile police
some people take swinging far to seriously:rotflmao:
some people take swinging far to seriously
:rotflmao: Well we do, and we don't like meeting people who don't.
Inviting people to our home does, in our opinion require some thought as to just who you are going to invite, we take what we eat seriously because it can be dangerous.
Having sex with strangers is in our opinion quite an important thing in our lives, we take crossing the road seriously because it can be dangerous.
Allowing people to have intimate time with my partner and ensuring that she is comfortable and happy to play with the people we meet.
I am just as surprised as you that so many people take swinging so friviously and don't take it seriously, at the amount who risk their lives and health with bareback sex or allowing men to use their own condoms, or pre-arranging meets in remote locations when dogging without taking their safety seriously, and those who put on public sites exactly what remote car park or woods they are going to be in and when, who think the instances of and muggings that have occurred at many dogging sites are not worth taking seriously at the amount of people who don't care if their time is wasted.
Happily many people do take swinging seriously and safeguard their addresses, their identities in order to protect their jobs, family, friends, they do only meet in public places or have friends watching their backs when meeting alone or in secluded woods, who do use their own trusted protection etc.
There is a big difference between taking it seriously and letting it rule your life.
Profile Police, ha, ha, whenever someone makes a comment about fashion, food, lifestyles, sport or any other subject people call them xxxxxx Police, what a cop out.
But since this thread have shown that I am the only one who believes that misleading statements or errors or lies on profiles is wrong I have to accept that it must be me that has it wrong and therefore in future I will actively support such profiles and encourage them when offering advice when asked about what should be said in profiles. I might even change ours to cut my age in half, put a few pictures of some hunky guy on there instead of my honest and up to date pictures, increase the written size of my willy and enhance the general attractiveness of what I am to get more meets perhaps if I change it to that of a single female then just "be there" when couples turn up to meet Sasha on her own I will get a lot more meets.
Inviting people to our home does, in our opinion require some thought as to just who you are going to invite, we take what we eat seriously because it can be dangerous.
Having sex with strangers is in our opinion quite an important thing in our lives, we take crossing the road seriously because it can be dangerous.
Allowing people to have intimate time with my partner and ensuring that she is comfortable and happy to play with the people we meet.
I am just as surprised as you that so many people take swinging so friviously and don't take it seriously, at the amount who risk their lives and health with bareback sex or allowing men to use their own condoms, or pre-arranging meets in remote locations when dogging without taking their safety seriously, and those who put on public sites exactly what remote car park or woods they are going to be in and when, who think the instances of and muggings that have occurred at many dogging sites are not worth taking seriously at the amount of people who don't care if their time is wasted.
Happily many people do take swinging seriously and safeguard their addresses, their identities in order to protect their jobs, family, friends, they do only meet in public places or have friends watching their backs when meeting alone or in secluded woods, who do use their own trusted protection etc.
There is a big difference between taking it seriously and letting it rule your life.
Profile Police, ha, ha, whenever someone makes a comment about fashion, food, lifestyles, sport or any other subject people call them xxxxxx Police, what a cop out.
But since this thread have shown that I am the only one who believes that misleading statements or errors or lies on profiles is wrong I have to accept that it must be me that has it wrong and therefore in future I will actively support such profiles and encourage them when offering advice when asked about what should be said in profiles. I might even change ours to cut my age in half, put a few pictures of some hunky guy on there instead of my honest and up to date pictures, increase the written size of my willy and enhance the general attractiveness of what I am to get more meets
perhaps if I change it to that of a single female then just "be there" when couples turn up to meet Sasha on her own I will get a lot more meets. 
Master of Sex
Can I just say that the date that appears someone "joined" the website is not indicative of when they became "members". So you can't always accuse people of being on here for years behind their partner's back or as a misleading profile. I for once just realised (thanks to the mods) that the reason I couldn't have my username without a "1" instead of an "i" is because that username is taken..by me..:huh: back in 2008. HUH? What the? I do NOT remember joining?? Maybe it was one tipsy night I was trying to perv at some pictures? who knows..
Sex God
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fair point, and fair play to him, he did not deny what I said or try to make excuses, he held his hands up, it is only others that have taken offence at what I said.
yea about that bit
he started as a couple with hopes they could play together, probably in the hope his wife's sex drive would benefit and improve from it,
end result was it didn't happen the situation got worse, he wasn't advertising as a couple Jed he just had a couples profile, no admission of intent to mislead anyone though
and if the guy didn't feel bad enough about his situation along comes sensitive Jed and screams that the guy is a liar and a time waster from the highest moral mountain
if you read the thread properly you will see a little tactful approach from Mr cube who had a polite word in private no doubt and rectified the situation with none or little PUBLIC fuss.
and a prefect example of what being a mod is all about
no wonder you are always moaning about not getting any meets Jed your tact is abominable
Good job I can take it as well as give it then isn't it, because at the time of my statement his profile was misleading, I have since apologised to him for what I said yet still people make equally derogative statements about me whilst claiming to be innocent of what I did, I gave my opinion of what I thought someone to be, a bit like people saying I have no sense of humour yet they have never met me, people saying I get no meets because I have no tact but have never met me, it's ok to call me names like tactless and humourless but not ok to stay someone is a timewaster or lying in a written statement.
Witch hunts are such fun. But as I said, it has been interesting to see that the total support has been for the incorrect profile and it has completely changed my opinion of the people here, I now believe that an inaccurate profile is much more welcome one than an accurate or honest one on here.
Witch hunts are such fun. But as I said, it has been interesting to see that the total support has been for the incorrect profile and it has completely changed my opinion of the people here, I now believe that an inaccurate profile is much more welcome one than an accurate or honest one on here.
Master of Sex
Quote by MidsCouple24
Good job I can take it as well as give it then isn't it, because at the time of my statement his profile was misleading, I have since apologised to him for what I said yet still people make equally derogative statements about me whilst claiming to be innocent of what I did, I gave my opinion of what I thought someone to be, a bit like people saying I have no sense of humour yet they have never met me, people saying I get no meets because I have no tact but have never met me, it's ok to call me names like tactless and humourless but not ok to stay someone is a timewaster or lying in a written statement.
Witch hunts are such fun. But as I said, it has been interesting to see that the total support has been for the incorrect profile and it has completely changed my opinion of the people here, I now believe that an inaccurate profile is much more welcome one than an accurate or honest one on here.
Now you know that's not true or what people are suggesting..
Maybe sometimes it's just better to respond to a thread and never mind the profile that posted it. I for one, would like a bit more on the topic now..how DO couples deal with different sex drives?
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Sexpert
Am not quite sure what MidsCouple24 have done wrong here!
A question was asked in a forum and MidsCouple24 took the time and trouble to give an honest (if a little blunt)appraisal of the situations as he saw it.
This seems to have been taken by the author of the thread with good grace but the rest of the world wants to get offended on his behalf.
At least Mids offered an opinion, thought that was what forums were for.
A question was asked in a forum and MidsCouple24 took the time and trouble to give an honest (if a little blunt)appraisal of the situations as he saw it.
This seems to have been taken by the author of the thread with good grace but the rest of the world wants to get offended on his behalf.
At least Mids offered an opinion, thought that was what forums were for.
My only experience of "different sex drives" is kind of hearsay, it has been discussed in swinging circles, but I have always found that my partners have been equal to me in how much or how little they want sex.
I know couples, we probably all do, where one partner plays alone with their partners consent because they have a higher sex drive but that works just fine for them, as I said it is by mutual consent so the relationship is sound each getting what they want from it.
I know couples where the guy likes to watch his partner being fulfilled and that works too though if this is a different level of sex drive or not I don't know because though it is the female having the sex with others the guy is still getting sexual fulfilment from the encounter too and more importantly he gets a lots of mental stimulation from it too be that the knowledge that his partner is getting what she wants or the actual turn-on of watching her.
There are some couples I know where that is reversed and the female is the one watching.
In my humble opinion swinging has evolved and if both partners consent to what is happening then it is still swinging even if one person is not taking part in the play, it does seem to bridge the gap over sex drive inequalities.
Wouldn't it be wonderful if couples who do find themselves with a difference in their sex drives could all happily swing, albeit one partner swinging and one partner approving.
Sadly though this is not the common practice, for two reasons, firstly one partner is not comfortable with their partner having sex with others and secondly because the age old problem of being open and honest means that it is not discussed as much as it could be.
I think if I was faced with the situation I would put it to my partner that if as she doesn't want sex as much as me how would she feel about me swinging and having sex with others, perhaps take her to a club, not to play but to see how it is just about sex and not emotional ties, of course if she did not feel comfortable with it that would be an end to it and I would not do it behind my back.
Shoe on the other foot I would be comfortable with my partner swinging without me being involved in the actual sex but would like to be at the club with her when it happens. To some extent we do this now as Sasha will meet and play with other women on her own and at such times I am not in the room nor would I want to be (watching bores the ass off me).
I know couples, we probably all do, where one partner plays alone with their partners consent because they have a higher sex drive but that works just fine for them, as I said it is by mutual consent so the relationship is sound each getting what they want from it.
I know couples where the guy likes to watch his partner being fulfilled and that works too though if this is a different level of sex drive or not I don't know because though it is the female having the sex with others the guy is still getting sexual fulfilment from the encounter too and more importantly he gets a lots of mental stimulation from it too be that the knowledge that his partner is getting what she wants or the actual turn-on of watching her.
There are some couples I know where that is reversed and the female is the one watching.
In my humble opinion swinging has evolved and if both partners consent to what is happening then it is still swinging even if one person is not taking part in the play, it does seem to bridge the gap over sex drive inequalities.
Wouldn't it be wonderful if couples who do find themselves with a difference in their sex drives could all happily swing, albeit one partner swinging and one partner approving.
Sadly though this is not the common practice, for two reasons, firstly one partner is not comfortable with their partner having sex with others and secondly because the age old problem of being open and honest means that it is not discussed as much as it could be.
I think if I was faced with the situation I would put it to my partner that if as she doesn't want sex as much as me how would she feel about me swinging and having sex with others, perhaps take her to a club, not to play but to see how it is just about sex and not emotional ties, of course if she did not feel comfortable with it that would be an end to it and I would not do it behind my back.
Shoe on the other foot I would be comfortable with my partner swinging without me being involved in the actual sex but would like to be at the club with her when it happens. To some extent we do this now as Sasha will meet and play with other women on her own and at such times I am not in the room nor would I want to be (watching bores the ass off me).
