We were having a chat about Heather mills and Paul McCartney the other day, and about the amount of cash-ish she will be getting from their divorce settlement.
So, what do you all make of this? Is it fair to 'battle' for a divorce settlement?
What do you make of divorce?
Have any of you been through divorce?
I have a lot of thoughts on the matter, but with regards to heather mills, I couldn't believe why she could possibly need so much of her ex husbands hard earned cash! (not that he has to worry about tightening the purse strings...)
I think that it is entirely fair to get what is rightly yours, especially if one partner has given up work to look after children and has had no income for however many years- I wouldn't ever dispute a divorce settlement for that- but for £25 million?!Eh!?!?
Why is she entitled to so much?
Maz xx
I've been through a divorce and as jaymar said it's not nice (especially when there are children involved).
What made it worse for me was how my family reacted.I was the one who walked out on my husband and my family couldn't understand as my ex in their eyes was a wonderful for the first couple of weeks I was not only having to deal with solicitors etc.I was getting unpleasant phone calls of my she calmed down and when I told her my reasons she came round.
Anyway I gave everything to my husband only taking what was mine to begin with and what I'd bought since,but when it came to the divorce itself it was my solicitor that said I was entitled to half and went for it on my behalf .
Four years later I was finally divorced and he had no money and hadn't kept the payments up on the house,so the building society got it.
In the end all I got was my life back and that was all that mattered
in the case of the McCartneys i think she is just grabbing what she can get and for no other reason, she never had when she went in so why should she be entitled to such a large sum later. Shes the one who will suffer as in years to come when daughter is old enough to read all the press coverage whats she going to think about her mum then.
im right in the middle of mine right now and its extremly painfull. i just spent 15 minutes writing my current experiance and have just deleted it as if for some reason my being is found out about i bet she would use what i was going to say against me.
and thats all im going to say on as i been down enough as it is and i have been having a good time recently and im not going to let it spoil me any more
my parents divorsed when i was 6 and i still think it was for the better they were always argueing and we were always around to hear it we stayed in our own home with our mam (was rented of the council) n my dad found a flat and we saw him once a week my mam just recently remarryed to a man she has been with for 15 years and they have always been better matched
deks marraige was completely different they had bought a house together and with deks job taking him away alot she started having an affair (to the man she is still with)they had 3 young kids when they split up so dek moved out and she kept all firniture etc and stayed in the house dek carried on paying the morgage which they both decided on until the kids left home,
he paid all of the morgage except the last 18 months and now she is in the process of selling the house but wants to keep all of the sale money to herself and of course derek is fighting for half of it
divorse should only been considered if its deemed for the better and the children r affected by the argueing/unhappyness in the house and it should be done always with the children in mind and as least stressed as possible
I would love to get divorced but my ex has done a runner - i think hes in Thailand but not 100% sure. I had been with the man for over half of my life and i realise now i didnt know him at all.. not one little bit.
Hes still on the mortgage, so there we are struggling to keep the repayments going (he remortgaged before he left me). I get no maintenance for the children whatsoever, the kids have no idea where there father is and its all a bloody mess.
Still my personal life is good now, my kids are fine and settled and things could be worse.
Hopefully i should be able to get divorced after hes been missing for a certain length of time (thinks its 2 yrs).
Suze xx
Yep - 2 years from the date of desertion you can file for divorce as long as you have had no contact with your ex.
Started to write my thoughts on my experiences but kept deleting them - still too raw to share.
Still, can honestly say I'm happier than I have been in years and my kids are happy, healthy and settled.
Must be doing something right!
I do think its fair to share things 50/50 that you've built together while married, but getting back to the McCartney / Mills scenario, i have to disagree on what shes asking i also disagree with the fact she could be entitled to it due to being married even though he made the money before they even met, further more some of it belonged to his dead wife, and how anyone can say they need at least £10,000 a day to live on is beyond me, i know theres a child involved but surely the money should go to a childs trust fund rather than go to her, she's not thinking of the child she's just looking after her own needs which is purely just greed.
Really as was stated earlier on - what is £25,000,000 to McCartney? I mean would it make a difference to his lifestyle that Mills has it? I wouldn't of thought so.
I suppose you could say, well why does Mills deserve it? Why not? Mills has been with McCartney for a long time now and previous to Linda's death was on the scene as a friend to both. Previous to marryng Paul.
The fact that Mills has for a substancial part of her life now been used to the lifestyle afforded and lavished on her by Paul - Should that mean that when there is an option that many of us would not get i.e. to carry on her lifestyle in the same or nearly the same way as when married. Why not take it!
Most of us lesser well off mortals would, and do suffer the financial hardships of marriage breakdown. Even if its just a downgrade of a car or the possibiity of ending up relying on state assistance. But it's different so rules have to be made and followed fairness shown. Financially in the short term not many individuals in a divorce gain.
Ok. So i have missed out the kid stuff i am really trying to look at this dispassionately but hoping that whatever the outcome then the child fairs no ill.
The biggest gut wrenching stomach churning (dispassionate) fact of all of this is that it is the lawyers that are looking to make out of this. I don't mean your average decent solicitor who works in an office in town type guy. He like us all is getting by doing the best for him and his own. I mean the big fat cat corporate lawyers. The guys with not only teams behind them but accountants behind these teams just squeezing the last £ out of what is ostensibly a sad affair.
Oh yeah. Lets not forget those models of decency and community mindedness the media......... oh nooooo dont get me on that now for crying out loud.
Soapbox has given out now! - finished - sorry there is a 'lil ol rant' in there innit
Love is blind and it can make you blind.
I think if you are a super wealthy person then pre-nups should be allowed. Wiser non loved up heads should prevail that an amicable provision is put in place in the event that things dont works out. Golddigging is a sterotype but one with a grain of truth to it. Also seeking a windfall settlement seems to be taking on an element of combat. That one side is seeking to get even by really hurting the others financial health.
As far as in aware pre-nups are not legally binding in here. Any solictors in the house?
Friday x
never been divorced so i cant comment from experience, but i do think some people take the piss with what they expect when they do divorce.
i got divorced over 10 years ago and it was the best thing i did has i met such a lovely man who im still married to
but when i did get divorced i left every thing to my ex hub except for the kids
feel like a failier .
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