Hi there
Firstly, thanks for taking a look at this forum. I guess the title says it all. Do people actually arrange meets from here, or are most of those ''active'' people on here, simply timewasters and/or pic collectors?
What makes me say this? Well, my 'sent items' is full of emails to single fems and couples where I clearly state how i match their requirements, not only in the physical sense, but also if i can accom or pay for hotel etc, yet all i seem to get is a thanks but no thanks.
My letters are not pushy or arrogant - they are written with the readers in mind and are genuine letters of interest.
I appreciate that looks come into it and though im certainly no Brad Pitt, i'm no Peter Beardsley either.
Hopefully a fem, or a couple will read this and will restore my faith in this site.
Time will tell.
Thanks again for reading this - please feel free to respond on here, or ping me an email.
Ricardo
well we have met one guy on here, but had three no shows after arranging to meet
once sitting in the hotel waiting for the couple to turn up, once by a guy who was meeting us in the pub for a drink and chat and then one were we booked the hotel and he failed to show after chatting on the phone and camming.
Hey Maria
Thanks for posting your experience.
Interesting that you, as part of a couple looking for a single bloke (who according to those in the chatrooms are all ''up for it 24/7'') have had 75% of your meets as no-shows, sums up my original post and question.
Disappointing but sadly the stats dont lie.
Anyone up for a meet? pls check out my profile and let me know....
R
I used to contact cpls or single fems from advertisements and had a lot of 'sent items'in my outbox. I got no responses from anyone and that is annoying as I spent a lot of time sending them. I now only use chat room and even then you don't always get responses from other chat room users. I just say hello in different rooms.
I also sometimes comment on forum as now.
It is interesting to hear of cpls experiences in single men not being reliable in showing up for meets. I would always meet a cpls and would be excited at doing it.
Cabin1
Our experience is positive. We arrange our meets through the chat room here. We put a little work time and effort into chatting with the people we are interested in or who are interested in us whether single guys or couples and we have to date mostly had great results.
We have, of course, suffered time wasters and dreamers in the chat room but in seven years we have only had one actual no show from a single guy. As a matter of fact in those seven years we have had to cancel three times on others through various legitimate reasons so we're worse than some although we've always made up for and come good on the meets we had to renege on.
If you wish to meet people from the site then i'd advise going on cam in the chatrooms. Almost every meet I have ever had from the site was initiated in that way. As a single guy you're less likely to be taken as genuine anyway. Most single guys(single according to their profile)don't show up for meets. Further than that it takes time and effort; go to socials and meet people. If they like you then they may wish to meet you again. If you wish to advertise in the forums, then the "lets meet up" forum is the place to post, but as with Photo Ads don't anticipate success.
I would always meet cpl or single fem if I made arrangements. In fact I would be very excited at what may happen and be well prepared. But it is hard for single guys.
Cabin1
"do people meet on here"?
Absolutely, I always arrange a meet in the chat room, usually whilst I'm on cam, and so far the guys have always turned up... Even those that profess to be straight on their profiles!
So keep trying, chatrooms and being on cam seem to help...
I think another great way is to go the socials....as a guy this shows you are genuine...and also from everybody's point of view it firstly means you look like your pics posted and that also you are a sort of person you like to meet, personality wise. But in answer to your original question.....yes over the years met loads of people off here...and only once in the 8 years on here if I ever had a no show !!!!
I forgot to add that I've often met ladies for coffee or drink..... or fish and chips fer lunch even.
Would agree with most already said above. we as a couple go through phases, can go months not wanting to arrange meets then feel in the mood and start looking again. Finding the time is also another restraint and be a reason for people pulling out or not meeting. But we do have one solid rule, we will not meet anybody we have not talked to on the phone first we do fine that cuts alot of timewasting out, we do our very best to avoid picture collectors but have had plenty of both over the years. What we do find on SH is a lot of people that can’t seem to get through their first meet, getting off the mark as so to speak, we can understand that, we found it difficult the first time we met our first couple. Our advice is to be honest with people and you will in time be rewarded.
We are a couple and have had many meets on here. From experience 8 out of 10 single blokes who respond on here are time wasters. Even as a couple it takes loads of effort to find genuine single blokes who don't get a kick out of photos or even worse a kick from not showing and wasting time.
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I think it's worthwhile pointing out that, not only do people meet from the site, but quite a number, in recent years, have paired up as couples, some married, others just happily living together.
enjoy.
I'm really hoping people do meet up from this site, otherwise there's no point in being here!
I'm here to meet real swingers and have fun, not just look at photos and hang around in Chat Rooms - thought I do that as well!
Although it's been a leedle while I've met, we've met (my man and I) wiv some fab ppl and had some reet feelthy fun, site works for me. It takes a bit of effort but when I sse the various different ppl hooking up for fun it sorta makes me realise that there is always someone for someone ...just have to persevere.
