Emailed various folks regarding their ads, always reading the ad first so making sure that I may be what they are after and not one reply has surfaced and I always attach a pic when requested.
Ok if there not intrested but a quick mail back saying no thanks wouild be nice, anyone else get this treatment or is it just me ?
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Do people actualy return emails on there ads?
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Hiya Gibbles,
We also respond to all e-mails, even those responding to ads on other sites that we have never even visited! (Yes - still getting them
) But that is another story.
Remember this though - most of the folks that post ads are not registered to the forums. The people you talk to in here are the ones who also enjoy being in the forums for a laugh and a chat. Preaching to the converted in here.
lhk
Kat
We also respond to all e-mails, even those responding to ads on other sites that we have never even visited! (Yes - still getting them
) But that is another story.Remember this though - most of the folks that post ads are not registered to the forums. The people you talk to in here are the ones who also enjoy being in the forums for a laugh and a chat. Preaching to the converted in here.
lhk
Kat
Hi Gibbles,
As has already been posted we also always reply to e-mails providing that they include what we have asked for and that they also meet our criteria.
You say that you make sure you only reply to ads where you meet the above and we have no reason to think otherwise so all we can say is that not everyone is rude enough not to reply to you. The decent ones will if only to say "thanks but no thanks"
We get our share of idiots and as has already been said, we ignore these.
The thing to remember is do you really want to meet someone who doesn't have the decency to reply.
Good luck and keep trying, there are lots of good and decent people on this site.
As has already been posted we also always reply to e-mails providing that they include what we have asked for and that they also meet our criteria.
You say that you make sure you only reply to ads where you meet the above and we have no reason to think otherwise so all we can say is that not everyone is rude enough not to reply to you. The decent ones will if only to say "thanks but no thanks"
We get our share of idiots and as has already been said, we ignore these.
The thing to remember is do you really want to meet someone who doesn't have the decency to reply.
Good luck and keep trying, there are lots of good and decent people on this site.
Sex God
What we find *really* annoying is when someone emails us, perhaps requesting a meet up, we reply and ask a few questions, which we think are reasonable and then because we don't send pics right away (or Terry's underwear!) they don't reply anymore 
There are one or two who post regularly requesting meetings with folks like us, they are even in our local area for gawds sake and they still back off at the last minute. Grrr! Their loss as far as we're concerned. Anyone who's had a BJ from Terry can confirm she does a great job!
Foolishly we did once send some pics of Terry in action (faces blurred of course!
) to a bloke who had been having quite a long correspondence with us and whom we thought was up for a meet, here in Dorset. However, the twerp never got back to us and is obviously just a collector as he *still* advertises that he is desperate to have his first go at dogging. Pah!
Just wanted to let you know that it isn't always the advertisers who can let someone down by their complete bad manners. We've seen both sides of the coin, but at the end of the day, you have to take it on the chin - Terry does quite often
Jon
There are one or two who post regularly requesting meetings with folks like us, they are even in our local area for gawds sake and they still back off at the last minute. Grrr! Their loss as far as we're concerned. Anyone who's had a BJ from Terry can confirm she does a great job!
Foolishly we did once send some pics of Terry in action (faces blurred of course!
) to a bloke who had been having quite a long correspondence with us and whom we thought was up for a meet, here in Dorset. However, the twerp never got back to us and is obviously just a collector as he *still* advertises that he is desperate to have his first go at dogging. Pah!Just wanted to let you know that it isn't always the advertisers who can let someone down by their complete bad manners. We've seen both sides of the coin, but at the end of the day, you have to take it on the chin - Terry does quite often
Jon
Hi Gibbles,
We have to admit we are one of those cpls who are guilty of not replying to E-Mails from those that are not for us.
We do have good reason for this and that is we firmly believe if we say no thanks we do not have to give reasons, however, we have on a few occassions then had the recipients open into further bouts of e-mailing trying to find out why.
One thing your query has bought to our attention though is we do not (or did not) state this in our add so ty we have now updated our add to read none response means you are not for us.
We all have different oppinions of what is the right or wrong protocol to use within the swinging world but one thing we are sure about is it is individual choice and although you may upset some people some times you need to do what is right for yourselves.
Good luck in your endeavures
:P Paul n Olive
We have to admit we are one of those cpls who are guilty of not replying to E-Mails from those that are not for us.
We do have good reason for this and that is we firmly believe if we say no thanks we do not have to give reasons, however, we have on a few occassions then had the recipients open into further bouts of e-mailing trying to find out why.
One thing your query has bought to our attention though is we do not (or did not) state this in our add so ty we have now updated our add to read none response means you are not for us.
We all have different oppinions of what is the right or wrong protocol to use within the swinging world but one thing we are sure about is it is individual choice and although you may upset some people some times you need to do what is right for yourselves.
Good luck in your endeavures
:P Paul n Olive
I for one will be delighted if timewasters can be eliminated from this site. Anyone who strings people along for a time only to obtain a picture simply doesn't belong here. I believe there are sites for people who want to post pics and exchange ... That isn't the purpose of this one. It's understandable that people don't get replies..the genuine ones can be lost in the mire of junk mails All we can do is be persistently civil. 
All we can do is be persistently civil. Well I think all my initial mails out are worded in a polite, but informative way.
I reckon I get about a 5% return on them, which is not a lot. Some correspondance has got quite lengthy....and then it stops....for no apparent reason, which is quite frustrating.
Stick with it, but it is a very timeconsuming process
I reckon I get about a 5% return on them, which is not a lot. Some correspondance has got quite lengthy....and then it stops....for no apparent reason, which is quite frustrating.
Stick with it, but it is a very timeconsuming process
Hi there,
We too always reply to ads whatever we decide. Now though if it is single guys after we reply we block their e-mail cause so many have insisted on continuing to email, and some have even been quite nasty about it.
Its simply a matter or being polite. Is someone goes to the effort of sending us an email then we think it would be rude not to respond.
Billy and Jane
We too always reply to ads whatever we decide. Now though if it is single guys after we reply we block their e-mail cause so many have insisted on continuing to email, and some have even been quite nasty about it.
Its simply a matter or being polite. Is someone goes to the effort of sending us an email then we think it would be rude not to respond.
Billy and Jane
Thanx for the replys guys.
If I get a reply saying not intrested then I won't email that advertiser again unless they contact me re getting re aquainted.
Being a single male I can understand that I am in the biggest group of users on here with the smalest demand for us so people can pick and choose between us.
Obviously some peeps must be flodded with emails ( single women I suspect ) and those who are must at some point either delete in blocks or just not reply due to sheer scale of replys.
If I get a reply saying not intrested then I won't email that advertiser again unless they contact me re getting re aquainted.
Being a single male I can understand that I am in the biggest group of users on here with the smalest demand for us so people can pick and choose between us.
Obviously some peeps must be flodded with emails ( single women I suspect ) and those who are must at some point either delete in blocks or just not reply due to sheer scale of replys.
Sex God
I've tried in the past to respond to all replies, if only with a polite "no thanks". In the main this worked OK, usually that was that, occassionally the guy would respond with "oh well, thanks for letting me know anyway", but sometimes (and this I guess would comprise about 5% of guys) that "no thanks" respose would obviously give the guy hope and he would send one or usually more emails, that were obviously designed to win me over - very annoying! So, what I did was stop replying to everyone unless I was almost positive they were a goer. Yes, this probably meant I missed out on some decent guys, but better than being hassled by dickheads. What I really don't like are guys who say" I sent you an email last week, you haven't responded, maybe you didn;t get my mail". I always reply back to those with sarcasm, whch often results in several more.
In short, guys, be polite, send one mail and if no reply, DON'T start hassling people. Believe it or not, I for one, remember email addresses, it's easy to spot the hasslers, and believe me, you've no chance.
In short, guys, be polite, send one mail and if no reply, DON'T start hassling people. Believe it or not, I for one, remember email addresses, it's easy to spot the hasslers, and believe me, you've no chance.
Gibbles,
Yes, they do and no they don't. Unfortunately we do not have a crystal ball, however there are some very genuine (and nice) people out there, and probably the most telling advice was to watch the forums. Better still the chat room unless like me you have the it skills of a dead cricket! bluexxx (as usual) is right.
We both need to keep at it and learn, but lets not get over anxious. Remember what seemed like a good idea after a bottle of Spumante on a Friday night may have lost its attraction on a Monday morning when the in-box has developed a mind of its own. That seems bitchy, but there is a nugget of truth in there somewhere.
As it says I have just popped in from freezing the crystals off so I am just going to warm them up
Joeblow
Yes, they do and no they don't. Unfortunately we do not have a crystal ball, however there are some very genuine (and nice) people out there, and probably the most telling advice was to watch the forums. Better still the chat room unless like me you have the it skills of a dead cricket! bluexxx (as usual) is right.
We both need to keep at it and learn, but lets not get over anxious. Remember what seemed like a good idea after a bottle of Spumante on a Friday night may have lost its attraction on a Monday morning when the in-box has developed a mind of its own. That seems bitchy, but there is a nugget of truth in there somewhere.
As it says I have just popped in from freezing the crystals off so I am just going to warm them up
Joeblow
Sorry to start this thread again however just received a email that makes me think if people did reply it would be a lot easier..
It went along the lines of this , I replied to a add on here and not knowing if she received my mail replied to it again a couple of weeks later when she refreshed her add...
She replied to me saying yes she received my first reply but wasnt interested ( which is fine ) but then she gets shitty saying why cant single guys take a hint...Has anyone ever deleted mail by mistake I have and not knowing if she had got my first reply thought I'd resend is that so bad??
If she just said no thanks first time around I would never have sent again but because she is local to me (within 3 miles ) thought this was to good to be true...It was !!!
Rob
It went along the lines of this , I replied to a add on here and not knowing if she received my mail replied to it again a couple of weeks later when she refreshed her add...
She replied to me saying yes she received my first reply but wasnt interested ( which is fine ) but then she gets shitty saying why cant single guys take a hint...Has anyone ever deleted mail by mistake I have and not knowing if she had got my first reply thought I'd resend is that so bad??
If she just said no thanks first time around I would never have sent again but because she is local to me (within 3 miles ) thought this was to good to be true...It was !!!
Rob
Rob,
Get your own revenge - do the best ad for a single male, so that it is irresistible to her, and when she emails you ignore her, or tell her to take a hike! hahahahaha
I will tell Wilma off for you - not nice of her!
Why do people have to be so bloody ignorant! :x :x
Manners cost nothing - I can never find any boxes of them on the shelves though! If I did there are a lot of people on this website I would send them to!
BTW - what is your address in case I find any?
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Get your own revenge - do the best ad for a single male, so that it is irresistible to her, and when she emails you ignore her, or tell her to take a hike! hahahahaha
I will tell Wilma off for you - not nice of her!
Why do people have to be so bloody ignorant!
:x :x Manners cost nothing - I can never find any boxes of them on the shelves though! If I did there are a lot of people on this website I would send them to!
BTW - what is your address in case I find any?
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: Sex God
Ah, Flirt, you're so innocent! Sending a mail a week or two after the first saying something like "I don't know whether you got the first one" is without a doubt the oldest trick in the book in an attempt to get a response. Yes, people can delete messages by mistake, but it is so much more likely that the person in question deleted your reply on purpose. For a single female who gets literally hundreds of replies, it would be full time job to reply to them all. You must respect this side of things. Save yourself some time and don't re-send!
Well I think I'll have some input on this!
This is the only site I have actually used for this type of thing & am afraid was getting very demotivated. Then two weeks ago I get a PM from a couple asking me to look @ their ad and stated they were interested in me. YA DANCER I thought so replied politely asking how they would like it to progress from here. NOTHING SINCE.
Not the first time this has happened, so am unsure what I am doing wrong, but am holding my hands up in defeat.
I give up. I think the game's a bogey.
I wish you good luck in your quest & if you have any luck let me know as it may assist me in gaining some enthusiasm again.
For now I will be a quiet little voyeur
This is the only site I have actually used for this type of thing & am afraid was getting very demotivated. Then two weeks ago I get a PM from a couple asking me to look @ their ad and stated they were interested in me. YA DANCER I thought so replied politely asking how they would like it to progress from here. NOTHING SINCE.
Not the first time this has happened, so am unsure what I am doing wrong, but am holding my hands up in defeat.
I give up. I think the game's a bogey.
I wish you good luck in your quest & if you have any luck let me know as it may assist me in gaining some enthusiasm again.
For now I will be a quiet little voyeur
Hey Blue ,
Not saying im inocent but I hear people get 40 emails a day , if that being the case do they look at all of them or if they ' find ' what they are looking for in the first 10 would they even look at the rest ? I've learnt a lesson your right I wont resend and I certainly didnt do it to try and be sneeky so I guess it has taught me a lesson !!
Rob 8)
Not saying im inocent but I hear people get 40 emails a day , if that being the case do they look at all of them or if they ' find ' what they are looking for in the first 10 would they even look at the rest ? I've learnt a lesson your right I wont resend and I certainly didnt do it to try and be sneeky so I guess it has taught me a lesson !!
Rob 8)
Sex God
When I adverised as a single female, I placed an ad once and then immediately went away for two days to a conference. On my return I had several hundred emails in my inbox :shock: . 40 - I wish! Single females do not get just a few emails, they get LOTS! OK, you might not have been sneaky but some are. When I used to go through SEVERAL HUNDRED :shock: at one time, only the "best" replies got replies. But as I saved email addresses, I knew who's sent before - like I say it's the oldest trick in the book
We all live and learn, don't worry about it 8)
Yeah, blokes in clubs - too right! Once is a forgiveable sin, twice is a kickable offence :twisted: . Bah, who cares about being barred, not me :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
We all live and learn, don't worry about it 8)
Yeah, blokes in clubs - too right! Once is a forgiveable sin, twice is a kickable offence :twisted: . Bah, who cares about being barred, not me :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
Sex God
Hero? :shock:
For once I'm speechless...but thanks - I think :silly:
For once I'm speechless...but thanks - I think :silly:
