Hi guys
I am a 29 year old single guy who is interested in getting into the scene. I have been browsing this site for a while and all in all I think it is fantastic and full of, in the main, very nice and genuine people.
The impression I get though is that, as a single guy, it is very hard to get into the scene, as most places are couples only and even when they are not, us single guys are given a bad rep by sad desperate chaps who don't seem to be able to act normally. I would always want to get to know the people I meet and can't imagine behaving like some of the people seem to.
Are there any "normal" single guys out there that have met couples who are after genuine guys and are there even women out there in the same position as me (I doubt it obviously)?
Anyway, thanks for reading the post.
Cheers
Rich
Hi Rich
There are genuine women and couples out there. I'm a single women myself. Recently - Friday - I placed a couple of ads here. I got loads of responses and I met with one of them yesterday and he screwed me half senseless... great. (It's been pulled now, BTW. It'll take me weeks to sift through the replies I had.)
But the thing I find when I place an ad is that I get flooded with replies... and an awful lot of them will come to nothing. Some guys are time wasters just fanticising about swinging. Some guys really want to but are too timid to go through with it and sometimes just don't show up.... and this just buggers up my schedule for weeks and weeks as I can only play at the weekends. And as a result I get pissed off and usually tell the lot of them to forget it.... until the next time I get horny and place an ad!
If you are 100% up for it, you'll get it if you show you are sincere. If you reply to an ad and they say they've had too many reponses, it's always worth dropping the girl or couple a line a few weeks later. By that stage often they are thinking they'll never get what they were asking for.
Stay with it, be polite and patient.... and be prepared to go out of your way. I once had a guy write to me saying he would 'split the cost of a hotel room and train tickets...' Cobblers to that! I had 50 other guys to wade through most of whom had their own houses and offered to drive me door to door.
May the Force be with you!
Julie.
Hi guys
Thanks for the advice. It is much appreciated.
I was thinking of visiting a naturist place like Rios in London to see how it goes.
I don't really know what to expect but I suppose there is only one way to find out.
I am hoping that me just looking relaxed and not actually hasseling anyone will make me stand out a bit from the others. If not though, it will still be good to go and see what it is all about.
Cheers guys
Rich
H,
I'm new to the site but have had the same problem. Being single suits me at the moment but haveing some fun with other genuine swingers seems hard to arrange.
Aside from the fact that females get loads and loads of replies, thus the majority of guys have to cope with rejection (ie. no replies :cry: ) on a regular basis in this game, there's also as shavendave points out the possiblity of further rejection :shock: In my experience, sometimes I used to reply to a guy who originally sounded OK, but a couple of emails down the line, and getting to the "arranging the date/time" part of it, I got cold feet, not because I don't wear socks, but because it became obvious that he wasn't what he said he was. E.g. the 35 year old, athletic bodied, well endowed sports man, admitted that his pic was actually an old one, and he hadn't played footy since at school - get my drift! OK, a flippant example, but because so many guys are dishosent with their descriptions it used to put me a bit on the defensive. Therefore, this goes back to the point of being HONEST and being yourself throughout the process, you save everyone's time if you are! 8)