Do women actually bother with the photo ads section at all?

10 Jun 2005

I have a few ads: 1) My girl & me are looking for a bifem 2)Me by myself looking for a woman 3)Me by myself looking for a blow job from a guy (im curious).
Guess whick one i got replies to? rolleyes

But thinking about it, why would women go out of their way to find this site then to actually reply or place their own ad.
If a woman is after easy sex, she can find it in a variety of places - bars, clubs, even supermarkets etc. That way she can see what the guy actually looks like so she knows what she is getting into, flirt a bit, see if chemistry is there & take it from there. No matter how many pics a guy sends you, you dont know for sure that it is him plus you may not have that chemistry when you actually meet him.
But on the other hand i could be talking out my arse, it has been known! :moon:

10 Jun 2005

Quote by Newcnewbie
If a woman is after easy sex ....

i think this is where you hit the mark.
I may also be speaking out my arse but I think you'll find it's the guys looking "easy sex" (not all of them of course!) and the women are looking to swing. cool

10 Jun 2005

Quote by Marya

If a woman is after easy sex ....

i think this is where you hit the mark.
I may also be speaking out my arse but I think you'll find it's the guys looking "easy sex" (not all of them of course!) and the women are looking to swing. cool

Im talking about the photo ads section. Which is ads looking for sex, men & women.

10 Jun 2005

Quote by Newcnewbie
But on the other hand i could be talking out my arse, it has been known! :moon:

You mean === LIKE NOW ????
Fred

10 Jun 2005

Quote by Marya

If a woman is after easy sex ....

i think this is where you hit the mark.
I may also be speaking out my arse but I think you'll find it's the guys looking "easy sex" (not all of them of course!) and the women are looking to swing. cool

Sex should never be easy, always hard lol

10 Jun 2005

Quote by Marya

If a woman is after easy sex ....

i think this is where you hit the mark.
I may also be speaking out my arse but I think you'll find it's the guys looking "easy sex" (not all of them of course!) and the women are looking to swing. cool

and what an arse, but no, i dont think your speaking out of it, (although a good trick if you can really do it......like most mp's)
i do not actually look for sex here, but if i do get any it's a plus, what i look for is people with the same outlooks and interests as myself, people i can laugh with, and, on some occasions share emotions with.

10 Jun 2005

Quote by teppic

If a woman is after easy sex ....

i think this is where you hit the mark.
I may also be speaking out my arse but I think you'll find it's the guys looking "easy sex" (not all of them of course!) and the women are looking to swing. cool

and what an arse, but no, i dont think your speaking out of it, (although a good trick if you can really do it......like most mp's)
i do not actually look for sex here, but if i do get any it's a plus, what i look for is people with the same outlooks and interests as myself, people i can laugh with, and, on some occasions share emotions with.
Thats fair enough, but im talking about the ad section. It is set up, rightly or wrongly, as a quick fuck service.

10 Jun 2005

Quote by Newcnewbie

If a woman is after easy sex ....

i think this is where you hit the mark.
I may also be speaking out my arse but I think you'll find it's the guys looking "easy sex" (not all of them of course!) and the women are looking to swing. cool

Im talking about the photo ads section. Which is ads looking for sex, men & women.
Yes, I read it the first time, mate.
You are suggesting that women don't need to use this site or look at the ads because they can get "easy sex" from virtually any social situation in ordinary everyday life.
What I suggested to you, is that it is more likely to eb the men that look for the wasy lay than the women.
What this means is that 1) There are more men on this site than women. 2) They are lloking for different things. 3) Women can pretty much afford to pick and choose. 4) A lot of women don't feel the need to advertise or if they do, they don't need to respond to other ads bacause they get such a huge response to theirs.
The difference between the swinging and the easy sex is bit is basically the social side. This is not just a quick fix, easy lay, one night stand site. As much as some people wish it was, it just doesn't work like that. Sorry!
Women do look at the ads. You are in the same position as everyone else who advertises on the site, no different. Everyone struggles to get replies to their ads or has to trawl through loads of crap replies to even find one "maybe".
Maybe you need to look at your ads and see how they can be improved upon in order to stand out from the crowd?

10 Jun 2005

Quote by Newcnewbie
..... im talking about the ad section. It is set up, rightly or wrongly, as a quick fuck service.

OOOH! Now you've opened a can of worms!

10 Jun 2005

Quote by Newcnewbie
I ask this question mainly about the photo ads section. I have a few ads: 1) My girl & me are looking for a bifem 2)Me by myself looking for a woman 3)Me by myself looking for a blow job from a guy (im curious).
Guess whick one i got replies to?
But thinking about it, why would women go out of their way to find this site then to actually reply or place their own ad.
If a woman is after easy sex, she can find it in a variety of places - bars, clubs, even supermarkets etc. That way she can see what the guy actually looks like so she knows what she is getting into, flirt a bit, see if chemistry is there & take it from there. No matter how many pics a guy sends you, you dont know for sure that it is him plus you may not have that chemistry when you actually meet him.
But on the other hand i could be talking out my arse, it has been known! :moon:

oh i think i can answer the first two points of your question...
in the last 30 days.....
number of ads of couples seeking women...1271
number of ads of women seeking couples...140
so roughly 10 times as many..
in the last 30 days....
number of ads of men seeking women...7176
number of ads of women seeking men...159
so roughly 50 times as many....
it is very much a case of supply and demand and you are on the wrong end of it in both cases...... so unless you stand out it is going to be hard to make yourself noticed (this time for all the RIGHT reason), i had a look at your ad, it is nice but it doesn't look any different to a lot of the other ads....it is going to be hard...sell yourself and give people a reason to want to get the know you...

10 Jun 2005

Im new to this so i know i dont understand the culture and ethics of "swinging". I dont mean to offend the people who live this lifestyle, i actually want to learn more & start getting involved.
I was first attracted to this site by the photo ads section. Im sure alot of other people were too. I admit im a horny bastard & i love sex. I seen this as a way to get my end away & also to explore other aspects of sexuality. I think im slowly starting to learn im going about this the wrong way.

10 Jun 2005

Quote by Marya

..... im talking about the ad section. It is set up, rightly or wrongly, as a quick fuck service.

OOOH! Now you've opened a can of worms!
You have inded opend a can of worms mad

As we have replied to few adds on there and hope to meet and get know at least a little anyone who replies to us bofore or even if we get to the sex bit and do not see it as a quick fuck service :x
Carol

10 Jun 2005

Quote by Newcnewbie
But on the other hand i could be talking out my arse, it has been known! :moon:

i just can not believe that :haha:

10 Jun 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
But on the other hand i could be talking out my arse, it has been known! :moon:

i just can not believe that :haha:
Neither can i as it has been known on more than one occasion on here! rolleyes

Carol

10 Jun 2005

Just as the cafe is not used strictly by "swingers" only, neither are the photo ads.
I've used the photo ads for both a quick fuck and to find a bedbuddy. Strange thing that. rolleyes

quick fuck became bedbuddy, bedbuddy fuck one.
So yes, guess what I'm trying to say is, yes, woman do actually bother with the photo ad section.
Though for me personally?
Not anymore.

10 Jun 2005

I think you need to understand the swinging ethic properly before you even start to bemoan the fact that no-one has replied to you...
For me.... its not so much what the person looks like, as to whether or not there is a connection of interest sparked by chatting in the room or pm'ing or whatever... then and only then if i'm interested in the person would i even think about going to see what they look likein the photo ads section...
So... be patient... you are in the minority in both areas that you are interested in... enjoy the site and the company and if something further happens then so be it...
equi-princess xxx

10 Jun 2005

The way it comes across on this board is that there are "swingers" & there is people here wanting quick no-strings sex (mainly men, granted). Some, NOT ALL, "swingers" tend to look down on the people who want to just fuck. Is that not hypocritical since "swinging" is originaly based on (& hopefully still is) sex. Is there some sort of class system or set rules to this lifestyle? Or is it just this site & its regulars?

10 Jun 2005

Quote by Newcnewbie
The way it comes across on this board is that there are "swingers" & there is people here wanting quick no-strings sex (mainly men, granted). Some, NOT ALL, "swingers" tend to look down on the people who want to just fuck. Is that not hypocritical since "swinging" is originaly based on (& hopefully still is) sex. Is there some sort of class system or set rules to this lifestyle? Or is it just this site & its regulars?

i think you are reading it wrongly.. and making a huge assumption
just because they have an ad it doesn't necessarily mean that they are after a "quick fuck" a lot of people on there would like to get to know people a little before they say yes or no.. a little bit like in the forums and the chatrooms where we have the advantages of munches where because they are social, you get to know people without the pressure of playing....
you are right, swinging is i suppose based on sex, but is it also based on the friendships as well......

10 Jun 2005

Thats fine fab i can understand the friendship side but if you look at the vast majority of the ads its pretty clear that sex is the object.

10 Jun 2005

I've haven't been with the site for all that long (a few months) but the only contacts I've had which have lead to real meetings were from women who picked out my ad.
In each case, they did not have adverts themselves and had had plenty of offers (out there in the /cough/ real world) but perfered to pick and choose from the ads.
So, they most deffinitely do work, but given the ratio it's bound to be slow going...

10 Jun 2005

Once more the old chestnut of swingers versus casual sex. the site is ultimately about sex, and is geared towards the swinging lifestyle, but is open to everyone and anyone as long as you abide by the rules. The ads cater for the complete spectrum of desires. I have found that being honest with the people on here, with the courtesy of a little time spent on your ad means that you get a good response. I have very rarely ever had people reply when I responded to their ad, for I am one in thousands, but have met a number of very special people who have responded to my ad.
just a few idle thoughts to while away the day!

10 Jun 2005

It's just the afternoon for long lazy idle sex, isn't it? Hot and sultry here. I can imagine working up a satisfying and wonderful sweat with someone.
cool

8-) 8-)

10 Jun 2005

Lucky you Jags :cry:
Down here in the Midlands youd have to put one of my many coats on to get a sweat on :cry:
Wheres the sun FFS mad

10 Jun 2005

what a lovely thought jags..working up slooooowly...working down..working up..working down...endlessly lazily, sensually, passionately, frantically, wildly..uncontrollably..and then collapsing together..before slowly but shorely things start to stir and move again....Oh god I should be working!!

10 Jun 2005

Quote by equi-princess
I think you need to understand the swinging ethic properly

I wish someone would explain the swinging ethic to us. We've been having casual sex for several years now without ever getting to know people first ... that's what we must have been doing wrong. Hopefully someone will teach us how to spend 6 months wooing couples before we get round to shagging them and we will then be able to call ourselves proper swingers. rolleyes

10 Jun 2005

Quote by warwick
Lucky you Jags :cry:
Down here in the Midlands youd have to put one of my many coats on to get a sweat on :cry:
Wheres the sun FFS

It's here - blazing away merrily and turning us all into little hot sweatpots just dying to take off clothes and collapse onto the bed, cool sheets and fan lazily turning the air. Slip, sliding bodies too... oh! hump

:hump: I just love summer sex.
wink

:wink:

10 Jun 2005

Quote by tall_dark_n_havesome
what a lovely thought jags..working up slooooowly...working down..working up..working down...endlessly lazily, sensually, passionately, frantically, wildly..uncontrollably..and then collapsing together..before slowly but shorely things start to stir and move again....Oh god I should be working!!

:happy: :happy: :happy:

10 Jun 2005

The answer to the question is NO !

10 Jun 2005

I don't know about the ads on this site as I haven't got one sorted here yet, having only just joined, but I do have an ad on another well known swingers site. I found I wasn't getting many responses from ladies, despite having a fairly good photo there. Then I updated my ad, expanded what I said about myself, was totally honest about my situation and exactly what I was looking for and BINGO! I am now at the happy stage of being able to choose which women want to see.
The secret is in the writing of the ad - be honest (if you are married then say so), be upfront about what you are looking for (in my case a lover and swing partner), don't waffle but say everything you need to.
BlackpoolMan2004

10 Jun 2005

I've posted a similar ad on here now, so I'll see what happens. No photo yet, but there will be soon.