What happens is I'll be in the middle of a little soft swing, and my playmate, male or female will start out with a little nibble here and there, some nice licking, but then they do this thing you see in porn films where they take their fingers and either ram them into me like a jack hammer, or rub it back and forth across my clit as though they're trying to remove it.
A couple of times I've said 'please be a little more gentle' and they've jumped off of me like a scalded rabbit, totally embarrassed, where I still wanted to play, just abit they're scared to come near me again.
The other thing I find is large busted women tend to take my tiny nipples and twist them like bottle caps, and it's all I can do to stop tears forming.
I wondered if it's because I am quite small and thin, and maybe too sensitive, whereas most other ladies have abit more padding down there or need abit of a heavy handed approach.
Just food for thought if you find yourself with a smaller lady than you're used to, and wondering if I'm the only one who has this dilema. The problem is I lurveeee the ladies, but in all my experiences, only one has ever given me an orgasm.
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Do you ever fake an orgasm at a swingers club?
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Sex God
OK being a male dumbass, I always assumed/thought that a woman would know how to turn another woman on in ways that men have to work hard to master...... seems like I'm wrong.
If you was with your regular partner and he/she was a bit rough you would say something, and they would alter the way they did things to you. Personally if I was with another woman and she said ouch or whatever, I'd not leap off but instead change what i did to suit her, I thought everyone was like this............. obviously not, very interesting
Should you fake?, well personally I would prefer people not to fake, If i don't turn them on enough then I am sorry, but I ain't comfortable with faking
M
If you was with your regular partner and he/she was a bit rough you would say something, and they would alter the way they did things to you. Personally if I was with another woman and she said ouch or whatever, I'd not leap off but instead change what i did to suit her, I thought everyone was like this............. obviously not, very interesting
Should you fake?, well personally I would prefer people not to fake, If i don't turn them on enough then I am sorry, but I ain't comfortable with faking
M
Sex God
I've had to tell too many folk to be more gentle with me and I'm not a skinny minnie in any way shape or form.
I've had my nipples bitten when I didn't want them to be, clit bitten when I've just come :scared: (that one made me scream in pain) , a guy who hadn't shaved mauling me trying to kiss me and tearing my face apart- had to hold his back by the forhead to stop his head coming near me...
And the pounding... 
What's that all about??? It's like a comp to see how fast, how hard and how many fingers they can squeeze in. :roll:
And yeah.. I faked a couple of times cos I was bored and wanted to move on to have some fun elsewhere, didn't want the other person feeling bad and so spent two mins faking, jobs a goodun...
I've not done it with anyone off here though, I woudln't dare- I'd get my arse so kicked, just done it with random folk in clubs... and I know I shouldn't fake but I haven't got all night while they try to get it right after ignorring every gentle instruction given and the more blatant commands too. 
ops:
Gem. x
I've had my nipples bitten when I didn't want them to be, clit bitten when I've just come :scared: (that one made me scream in pain) , a guy who hadn't shaved mauling me trying to kiss me and tearing my face apart- had to hold his back by the forhead to stop his head coming near me...
And the pounding... What's that all about??? It's like a comp to see how fast, how hard and how many fingers they can squeeze in. :roll:And yeah.. I faked a couple of times cos I was bored and wanted to move on to have some fun elsewhere, didn't want the other person feeling bad and so spent two mins faking, jobs a goodun...
I've not done it with anyone off here though, I woudln't dare- I'd get my arse so kicked, just done it with random folk in clubs... and I know I shouldn't fake but I haven't got all night while they try to get it right after ignorring every gentle instruction given and the more blatant commands too. ops: Gem. x
Sex God
I suppose given the situation Gem, faking would be better than saying "get the feck out of here you hairy arsed, stubble chinned, neandethal, and let me find someone who knows what they are doing" :grin:
LIttle Gem; Oh thank goodness, I'm not alone in this deception.
So do you think that how boney or unboney a person is has no relation to sensitivity? I wasn't sure. I was two stone heavier at one time, and I needed a better pounding than I do now, but it could have been because of the pill.
Sorry if I'm getting too personal, but you can't really talk about this with people you've just met at a club.
To Himn'her; I thought women knew women better too, but everything I learned about eating pussy, I learned from my husband and from watching Seymour Butts TV show. That come hither thing he does on the G-spot is wonderful.
My husband is great when I say it's abit too much. I think random people in clubs must thing the're bad lovers or something, when you say ouch, so they stop immediately.
So do you think that how boney or unboney a person is has no relation to sensitivity? I wasn't sure. I was two stone heavier at one time, and I needed a better pounding than I do now, but it could have been because of the pill.
Sorry if I'm getting too personal, but you can't really talk about this with people you've just met at a club.
To Himn'her; I thought women knew women better too, but everything I learned about eating pussy, I learned from my husband and from watching Seymour Butts TV show. That come hither thing he does on the G-spot is wonderful.
My husband is great when I say it's abit too much. I think random people in clubs must thing the're bad lovers or something, when you say ouch, so they stop immediately.
Sex God
Yes burnie personally I would now have to agree with you as I said in response to Gem. I can see now why sometimes it may be better to fake, but let this thread run and lets see what some of the heavyweights say later when they come in here :grin:
Sex God
Wooooah, Burnie, you are really putting people into boxes here and presuming that cause they are a certain size they like a certain type of play!!!
You cant presume just cause someone has more 'padding' that they like it a bit rough! The padding does not afect the nerve endings, so it has nothing to with whether a person is large, small or inbetween, it is just down to a persons preference of being rough or gentle (or anywhere in between).
At the end of the day it is down to you to tell or indicate to the person how you like to play, and if they dont like being told or shown then it is their loss, not yours. Move onto someone else who respects what YOU like and doesnt just do what they THINK you like!
You cant presume just cause someone has more 'padding' that they like it a bit rough! The padding does not afect the nerve endings, so it has nothing to with whether a person is large, small or inbetween, it is just down to a persons preference of being rough or gentle (or anywhere in between).
At the end of the day it is down to you to tell or indicate to the person how you like to play, and if they dont like being told or shown then it is their loss, not yours. Move onto someone else who respects what YOU like and doesnt just do what they THINK you like!
Sex God
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I suppose given the situation Gem, faking would be better than saying "get the feck out of here you hairy arsed, stubble chinned, neandethal, and let me find someone who knows what they are doing" :grin:
Exactly! :thumbup: Esp when they've spent ages on you and still not you getting you anywhere... it's a bit of an ego massage for them to let them think you've come and it does them no harm... and if their not taking the hints or instructions I'm giving... well it's kinda their fault.
On the subject of sensitivity... I'm not a small girl and at times I can be very sensitive. I think with me it depends on my place in my menstrual cycle. I can orgasm from nipple play a day or so before my period arrives and at some points I can have them practically chewed off and hardly feel a thing... so I think I personally depend on that.
I also think it depends on how much you fancy the person too. If I am really turned on and fancy the other person like mad I am way more sensitive than if I'm closing my eyes thinking of David Duchovny!
The build up gets my blood racing and I love to be teasd until the point I can't take any more teasing and I simply have to have the person I'm with, thats when the best orgasms happen and I don't have any need for faking. The build up for me can be intellectual things too and I find I am more sensitive if I conect with the other person on a mental level too.
So I don't think it has to do with weight or size so much as other factors such as personal preferences, body cycles, emotional stuff and being turned on.
Gem. x
Sorry don't fake it, just give them a helping hand 
and hope that if I'm not getting it quite right the person will move a little (so i can get the right spot) or help.
Of course sometimes you are just lucky and do everything correctly the first time, but from experience and peeps I have spoke to, it does take a little practice to get it right between the two of you.
I wish that just because I was a women, pleasuring another women would be natural, I know what I like, doesn't mean that its what they like. Also just because something works for one man doesn't mean it work for another. I'm just starting to explore my bi side and wish there was a handbook for handy hints and tips written for each person.maybe i should patent that idea. If you are going to judge anyone on the first sexual encounter with you, you may find that you feel there are a lot of bad lovers out there :)
Sometimes I think that when someone is playing with you, either male or female, they go by previous experiences, and if the person they have been with before fakes it, they think that they must have done a good job and carry that experience on to the next person. So PLEASE dont fake it, it may mean the next person gets a horrible/painful experience.
If something is wrong/uncomfortable, I just move away slightly and if they try to do it again just push that part of the body away from mine.
kaz xx
by saying you I am not referring to anyone in particular, just in general
and hope that if I'm not getting it quite right the person will move a little (so i can get the right spot) or help.Of course sometimes you are just lucky and do everything correctly the first time, but from experience and peeps I have spoke to, it does take a little practice to get it right between the two of you.
I wish that just because I was a women, pleasuring another women would be natural, I know what I like, doesn't mean that its what they like. Also just because something works for one man doesn't mean it work for another. I'm just starting to explore my bi side and wish there was a handbook for handy hints and tips written for each person.maybe i should patent that idea
. If you are going to judge anyone on the first sexual encounter with you, you may find that you feel there are a lot of bad lovers out there :)Sometimes I think that when someone is playing with you, either male or female, they go by previous experiences, and if the person they have been with before fakes it, they think that they must have done a good job and carry that experience on to the next person. So PLEASE dont fake it, it may mean the next person gets a horrible/painful experience.
If something is wrong/uncomfortable, I just move away slightly and if they try to do it again just push that part of the body away from mine.
kaz xx
by saying you I am not referring to anyone in particular, just in general
Hi naughty wigan couple.
I didn't mean to put anybody in a box. I didn't know any other way to ask the question because in my experience, when I was bigger I could take more. It must of had to do with sensitivity loss from the pill or time of the month. I know that now from all your kind replies to my weird question.
I didn't mean to put anybody in a box. I didn't know any other way to ask the question because in my experience, when I was bigger I could take more. It must of had to do with sensitivity loss from the pill or time of the month. I know that now from all your kind replies to my weird question.
Sex God
The thing is Kaz... the person ou're with might be doing something to you that drove the last person they were with absolutely wild.... but it does nothing for you!
You've already said what works for one person might not work for another. So what do you do when you moved their hand to where you want it and they still do their own thing... you've verbally asked for something... and they still do their own thing... you've instructed them with phsyical examples saying "i'd really love it if you'd do this to me" and then guide them through it only to have them do thier own thing when you let go???
I've also done the whole just get up and walk away thing too when it's really not what I want and I end up apologising saying something like... I'm sorry, I'd rather not. Thanks.
I'd rather in some cases have a quick fake and then walk away guilt free. It's not my problem if the person can't adapt their techniques.
Gem. x
You've already said what works for one person might not work for another. So what do you do when you moved their hand to where you want it and they still do their own thing... you've verbally asked for something... and they still do their own thing... you've instructed them with phsyical examples saying "i'd really love it if you'd do this to me" and then guide them through it only to have them do thier own thing when you let go???
I've also done the whole just get up and walk away thing too when it's really not what I want and I end up apologising saying something like... I'm sorry, I'd rather not. Thanks.
I'd rather in some cases have a quick fake and then walk away guilt free. It's not my problem if the person can't adapt their techniques.
Gem. x
Warming the Bed
from me(a guy) if you are doing something a woman dis-likes,whats the point in doing it? surely the whole idea is to have fun and both enjoy what your doing, the more a woman enjoys herself the better it is for me.i can see the point in faking it, but is'nt it better to be honest? never been to a club,but it should be the same in all situations,being at a club does'nt giv any1 any right to do what they like to should listen more to what women want and no 2 women are ever the same.u gotta learn all over again,thats y swinging is so much fun .(am i rambling?)
We are all going to use our previous experiences as a starting point, aren't we? It's when we don't take any notice of the responses that the problem arises.
I can't say I blame anyone for faking if their hints/requests are being ignored if that's the best way to let the other person down gently. But the general idea that someone might have faked with me is a bit disappointing. I would much rather be (gently) told that I'm just not getting it right and they would rather move on. I would appreciate the honesty.
Tricky for a guy to fake effectively of course, though I did fib to one partner that I just wasn't going to be able to orgasm after all attempts to stop her pumping me like she was maching spuds had failed! (I'm sure it had worked for her before!)
I can't say I blame anyone for faking if their hints/requests are being ignored if that's the best way to let the other person down gently. But the general idea that someone might have faked with me is a bit disappointing. I would much rather be (gently) told that I'm just not getting it right and they would rather move on. I would appreciate the honesty.
Tricky for a guy to fake effectively of course, though I did fib to one partner that I just wasn't going to be able to orgasm after all attempts to stop her pumping me like she was maching spuds had failed! (I'm sure it had worked for her before!)
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The thing is Kaz... the person ou're with might be doing something to you that drove the last person they were with absolutely wild.... but it does nothing for you!
You've already said what works for one person might not work for another. So what do you do when you moved their hand to where you want it and they still do their own thing... you've verbally asked for something... and they still do their own thing... you've instructed them with phsyical examples saying "i'd really love it if you'd do this to me" and then guide them through it only to have them do thier own thing when you let go???
quite rightly as you say below walk away, if they cant take gentle hits, then out and out......"I don't like that but i do like this"......then they are the ones in the wrong not you, so don't apologise...I know its the most natural thing to say "sorry but....." but if you feel you need to say sorry what about " if you can't do as I ask then I don't want to play with you, sorry"
I've also done the whole just get up and walk away thing too when it's really not what I want and I end up apologising saying something like... I'm sorry, I'd rather not. Thanks.
what ever you say, is your choice, but good for anyone that has the courage to walk away rather than continue because they feel they have to
I'd rather in some cases have a quick fake and then walk away guilt free. It's not my problem if the person can't adapt their techniques.
Gem. x
point taken Gem :) not my choice, but then again we all deal with things differantly, and at the end of the day, its yourself you have to feel comfortable with :)
kaz xxxx
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It's when we don't take any notice of the responses that the problem arises.
well said :thumbup:
Sex God
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Maybe I'm defective...
Come here then burnie lets have a look............ nah you ain't defective everything seems ok to me :grin:
Sex God
Quote by SirLee
ladys- dont waste time faking orgasms
most men dont care
and the energy you save could be used to do the hoovering after he's finished
where's my tin hat
Wish I was brave enough to post things like that :grin:
Bloody hell, you should have posted this thread earlier. I’ve just spent a fortune on a Pussylicious outfit for my fist swinging party and it’s non-refundable…just joking.
It’s funny I thought people go swinging to avoid the situation of faking orgasm with partner after a long spell of monogamous relationship but I get used to female pornstars doing it too unless the male pornstar is first class in his craft.
On the prospect of swinging in parties and clubs, I had thought about the possible problems you’ve outlined. Although your complaint was about some big women doing it a bit roughly with the foreplay, I wouldn’t even have liked them to touch me in the first place. If swinging is to be heaven for me, I'd prefer to have sexual encounter with someone I’m physically attracted to and being an average slim person, I’m just not sexually attracted to someone much bigger than myself.
Is it easier said than done in swinging clubs/parties where some people feel pressured to play the part even if you’re so hating a John Prescott look-alike man slobbering all over you. Freaking me out man, best stay at home?
It’s funny I thought people go swinging to avoid the situation of faking orgasm with partner after a long spell of monogamous relationship but I get used to female pornstars doing it too unless the male pornstar is first class in his craft.
On the prospect of swinging in parties and clubs, I had thought about the possible problems you’ve outlined. Although your complaint was about some big women doing it a bit roughly with the foreplay, I wouldn’t even have liked them to touch me in the first place. If swinging is to be heaven for me, I'd prefer to have sexual encounter with someone I’m physically attracted to and being an average slim person, I’m just not sexually attracted to someone much bigger than myself.
Is it easier said than done in swinging clubs/parties where some people feel pressured to play the part even if you’re so hating a John Prescott look-alike man slobbering all over you. Freaking me out man, best stay at home?
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Is it easier said than done in swinging clubs/parties where some people feel pressured to play the part even if you’re so hating a John Prescott look-alike man slobbering all over you. Freaking me out man, best stay at home?
If you are going to let yourself be pressured into playing with people that you would rather not play with then swinging is probably not for you. Clubs are actually no pressure places when it comes to playing, no should always mean no.
Sex God
Quote by burnie
.pleasuring them.
My favourite part of play :rascal:
When playing in clubs, my orgasm is always secondary.
The biggest turn on for me when swinging is when i am giving pleasure to all my play mates
H, red
Sex God
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When playing in clubs, my orgasm is always secondary.
The biggest turn on for me when swinging is when i am giving pleasure to all my play mates
H, red
Spoken like a true slut! :bounce: :bounce:
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