Truly sorry here if I offend anyone on my first night on the board.
But the disgracefully preachy nature of the site and its suggestion that God is the answer to lust just mystifies me - this was in the DAILY MIRROR :shock:
So I typo'd whoops !!...Corrected now
Why does it always happen in the moist awkward places ??
I'm just trying to work out why sex addiction would be considered a problem.
There's a difference between a healthy appetite and an addiction. A real addiction can be a serious problem. If you lose your job because you're taking too many five hour lunch breaks for a quick bit of fun, if half of your income goes to prostitutes, if you're led to because you can't find a consenting partner: then you need to do something about it.
I don't have any problem with SAUK's religious approach. It won't work for everyone, but if it works for some of the people who need it, then good for them. Major lifestyle changes take a lot of willpower (as our ex-smokers know). An all-seeing benevolent father figure, imaginary or not, does help some people find the strength that they need.
OK, lets have a go at this -I usually refuse to do questionnaires, but it is all in the name of quality scientific research, isn't it?
1)Are you leading a secret life ?
No, not at all. Everyone involved knows what's going on and discusses it openly. Isn't that one of the points?
2)Are you unable to stop acting out sexually ?
To be honest, I am not sure what the question means so there is a danger that any answer I give will be misinterpreted.
3)Are you engaging in sexual behaviour, like masturbation, long after you think you should have stopped ?!*!??
Possibly. But why should I think I should have stopped? Have not yet got to point of irreversible physical injury.
4)Do your behaviours conflict with your moral code ?
No. See answer to Q1.
5)Are you speding excessive amounts of time and money on sex related activities ?
No. Not spending any money and the time spent is less than on other hobbies. Unless you want to count sleeping with someone as the whole 9 hours instead of the 2 hours of activity.
Well, there you go. To be honest, it reminds me why I don't do questionnaires. Sooner or later you get a question that you know that whatever answer you put down, it will be interpreted according to someone else's agenda and not according to what you meant.
Regards to everyone. Addicts or not.
Red Baron
addicted not me my only problems seem to be thinking of it 24/7 and not getting it 24/7
Yes i fit all those catagories." Good init"
a sex addict??.. mm...
Well i find there is different levels of addiction.
I reckon my sex drive does dictate how i act and what i do... a lot.
And i do tend to find myself in situations where after i just think "oh my god"(in a shy and face in the hands type of way).... ha ha
Oh well..
Addiction is science fiction!..What the?!
Magik
Fair enough John and Blue, its easy to take a lighthearted look at such a subject, especially when the questions are so open ended and subject to personal perception.
Some people may actually see this as a real problem and im sorry if i have been insensitive in my posting. Personally, I do occasionally worry about the time i spend on SH or the situations i consider putting myself in !! At the end of the day im a highly sexed individual and it can be difficult to fulfill my needs in the confines of my 9-5 and partner based lifestyle. My sexuality is something that I do not wish to share with everyone, so I guess to some extent that a side of my life is 'hidden', or at least distinct anyway.
I think that a matter of discipline and choice are required, especially with the multitude of varied material on the web. It is easy to find people or graphical interpretations on the web whose ideas/views are far different from your own or those you would choose to experience. You can therefore find youself subjected to experiences that you are not entirely happy with. I know for certain that I have seen and been exposed to material on the web that has concerned me. It is important to have a strong belief in your own sense of self value and take all experiences and you them in your future choices.
I guess what I am trying to say is that, there is an inherent risk with exploring our sexualities in the modern technology based world. It is how we deal with and build on our experiences that defines whether we have a problem or not, and are in fact 'addicted'.
At the end of the day, a sexual urge, is one of our most primal and powerful. Part of life is learning how to cope and enjoy this. Its up to everyone to decide wether masturbation, abstinance, monogamy or otherwise is what suits them and what they can handle.
At 29 myself, I know that this can be difficult, but i think im doing ok. I have never seriously offended anyone and only have a few regrets (alcohol was partly to blame as well !!). I do however have doubtful periods, but i guess thats part of human nature.
Blue, I would be interested though in the info you have from a real person. Too much information never hurt anyone, you never know it might have the answer to some of my own questions & doubts. Anyway, here endeth the self therapy session I have just shared, and thanks to anyone who got to the end.
Funkyfish,
Thanks for that ... honest and considered, and perhpas even heartfelt.. I suspect that there many around here who would feel /think/hold values not dissimmilar to yours. Whilst I may not be walking an identiacl path , I am certainly on a similar one.
Regards
Gman
Funkyfish,
That's deep.
I think you have to understand the nature of addiction in general (not just to sex) to gain some understanding.
In my life I have been addicted to two things: Adrenaline and Nicotine. But I also had a, for the want of a better word, massive sex drive. Because of that I can understand how someone can become addicted to sex. You aren't actually addicted to sex per se, but the hormones which are produced when having/thinking about sex. You need to wean yourself off the "rush" you get from heightened levels of these hormones.
There was a time when, if I didn't get some sort of sexual relief 4 to 5 times a day, yes you read me correctly, a day if not more, then I started to get irritable. I felt it was a problem and saw my Doctor. He recommeded a change in diet and cut out virtually all red meat.
For me it works, if I keep off the red meat, my sex drive returns to, what I consider, normal levels. Even now (in my late 40's), if I eat red meat, my sex drive goes off the scale to such an extent it can become an embarrassment. Way better than Viagra without the headache.
:rotflmao: :rotflmao:
:roll: 
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There is a section on the sexaddict site entitled is your spouse a sex addict ?. This is gonna leave a lot of partners very worried, well the gullible ones at least.
