Hi
We are a "soft swing" couple, who has talked lots about taking things further. Our conversations have always ended up asking the question of "do couples that enjoy full swap keep some things special for just them or does anything go"
Would love to hear peoples views!
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Do you keep some things special!
Quote by dajofun
Hi
We are a "soft swing" couple, who has talked lots about taking things further. Our conversations have always ended up asking the question of "do couples that enjoy full swap keep some things special for just them or does anything go"
Would love to hear peoples views!
We don't do sleep overs, unless they are really good and then never in the same bed (all a bit 'Charlie and the Choclate Factory') :P
Oh, and we nevershare ur chocolate with anyone
well it's a long road to travel ie/ once you cross 1 boundry (fantasy) you strife for another so in our case initially we did keep something special for just us two but as you meet more and more peeps and pass many boundaries (fantasies) you once had, theirs not much left sexually to keep special.
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To both of us - sex, kissing etc in a swing environment is not comparable with our own personal sex life. Yes, you may go through the same motions and really have fantastic sex, but with each other, there is the comfort and knowing how each one thinks and feels. On that level, the two, are poles apart.
Exactly what I was going to say Juniper :thumbup:
We have some things that are special, not going to mention them though!
We had originally decided on a no kissing rule but since I kiss naturally without even realising it... we scrapped it pretty quickly.
I agree wholeheartedly with what's been posted above - the acts can be the same but are not comparable to when we are alone.
xxxx
We had originally decided on a no kissing rule but since I kiss naturally without even realising it... we scrapped it pretty quickly.
I agree wholeheartedly with what's been posted above - the acts can be the same but are not comparable to when we are alone.
xxxx
Sex God
We keep everything special, for example, I have only ever 'made love' with Mr NWC, but I have had sex with other men whilst swinging
These are two completely different things and in our opinion, we cant even compare them. What we have as a couple is just so special, and even though we may do the same physical act with other person, the fact that it is with another person means it is not the same ie it is done purely for pleasure rather than for love.
Does that make sense
These are two completely different things and in our opinion, we cant even compare them. What we have as a couple is just so special, and even though we may do the same physical act with other person, the fact that it is with another person means it is not the same ie it is done purely for pleasure rather than for love.
Does that make sense
Sex God
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I'd never kiss anyone other than my partner. being that close and intimate to someone is so special to me, I couldn't share it.
We do kiss, but again, it is not the same as kissing your partner, it is a special kind of kiss you share when you in a loving relationship with someone.
I love kissing,orshould that be snogging, but again, it is a pleasure thing when it is part of swinging, it is loving when it is part of a relationship.
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We keep everything special, for example, I have only ever 'made love' with Mr NWC, but I have had sex with other men whilst swinging
These are two completely different things and in our opinion, we cant even compare them. What we have as a couple is just so special, and even though we may do the same physical act with other person, the fact that it is with another person means it is not the same ie it is done purely for pleasure rather than for love.
Does that make sense
not from my perspective - sorry NWC
I can understand what you mean, but through swinging I know it is possible to 'make love' with a swinging partner and with your own partner - took me by suprise but it is possible and totally WOW!
It does not in my experience anyway detract from what kat and I have together, but has added a whole new side to swinging for us.
Swinging is not just about sex - it is much more in so many different ways
Sex God
I do know exactly what you mean Kit, and if you do meet someone who is so special then I can fully agree with what you are saying. I do also have to say that sex (for us) is a very small part of swinging, and is definately not the be all and end all. The experience/feelings I mentioned above is the stage we are presently at/in.
At the moment we are not really active but in the past we did have a very special, close friendship, and I would say it was not just a sex thing, I would also say there were feelings involved for all four of us (dont think this is the thread to go into that) but it was not what I class as our making love, which is something only Mr NWC and I do. However, it was also not just sex, it was a close, personal thing, that we have never been lucky enough to experience since (which may account for the lack of activity at the moment).
I still think that whatever you experience as part of your swinging lifecycle, whether it be 'soft swing' or anything else, the relationship you have with your partner, husband, or as was shown in Kits post, your long term 'swinging relationship' is definately something which is very special, and something very difficult to explain to others, especially someone who has never experienced it.
Kit
Edit - just wanted to add that our swinging, part time, or full time, as also added something to our relationship. We have always been close and have always talked about our likes, dislikes, fantasise etc, but swinging added that extra dimension to it, It brought us even closer than I ever though possible. I didnt know at first how I would react if I saw him with another woman, now I can honestly say there is nothing I enjoy more than knowing he is enjoying himself, he is receiving pleasure and that in itself, makes what we have even better.
Right Ive rambled enough
At the moment we are not really active but in the past we did have a very special, close friendship, and I would say it was not just a sex thing, I would also say there were feelings involved for all four of us (dont think this is the thread to go into that) but it was not what I class as our making love, which is something only Mr NWC and I do. However, it was also not just sex, it was a close, personal thing, that we have never been lucky enough to experience since (which may account for the lack of activity at the moment).
I still think that whatever you experience as part of your swinging lifecycle, whether it be 'soft swing' or anything else, the relationship you have with your partner, husband, or as was shown in Kits post, your long term 'swinging relationship' is definately something which is very special, and something very difficult to explain to others, especially someone who has never experienced it.
Kit
Edit - just wanted to add that our swinging, part time, or full time, as also added something to our relationship. We have always been close and have always talked about our likes, dislikes, fantasise etc, but swinging added that extra dimension to it, It brought us even closer than I ever though possible. I didnt know at first how I would react if I saw him with another woman, now I can honestly say there is nothing I enjoy more than knowing he is enjoying himself, he is receiving pleasure and that in itself, makes what we have even better.
Right Ive rambled enough
Sure its along the same lines as whats already been said but for us when we play with others its more often just fun as such, still in a nice way but never as special as when its just us..
So in short yes, we keep everything we do as special but still share with others too.
Know what you meant though.. so hope it helps.
Mike
So in short yes, we keep everything we do as special but still share with others too.
Know what you meant though.. so hope it helps.
Mike
Sex God
Quote by dajofun
thanks for your views
Well, as we have all given some quite detailed answers to this, why not give us your perspective on it all, pheraps expand a little on your first post?
Thought we'd give our perspective as beginners.
We discussed this very thing just recently, what our limits should be, should we keep some things special.
We decided that if we were going to do this (and we are :grin
then we want to experience what we can, we haven't set any limits apart from we will play together, not separately and if one of us feels overwhelmed or shaky then we step back and slow down, reflect and regroup.
In terms of special I think the times you share cuddled up in front of a good film or watching the sun go down over the sea are special moments that only happen when you care emotionally, not just physically.
We've had sex which has been physically fantastic and made love which has been a different dimension.
We don't yet know what swinging will bring us, I'm guessing the physical highs, but we just plan to go with the flow and enjoy.
h & c
We discussed this very thing just recently, what our limits should be, should we keep some things special.
We decided that if we were going to do this (and we are :grin
then we want to experience what we can, we haven't set any limits apart from we will play together, not separately and if one of us feels overwhelmed or shaky then we step back and slow down, reflect and regroup.In terms of special I think the times you share cuddled up in front of a good film or watching the sun go down over the sea are special moments that only happen when you care emotionally, not just physically.
We've had sex which has been physically fantastic and made love which has been a different dimension.
We don't yet know what swinging will bring us, I'm guessing the physical highs, but we just plan to go with the flow and enjoy.
h & c
Personally, after we have swung (we full swap) with others, we go home and make love, that is the really intense bit when we are alone and the evening is still raw and we find the whole thing very erotic. Once after a meeting with a couple we nearly got caught by the taxi driver for playing in the back of the car 
the intensity of it is brilliant and that is special to us two alone.
the intensity of it is brilliant and that is special to us two alone. Quote by dajofun
Thanks again for all the reply's. Expanding on my original post my thought on this was about if you dont keep something "special" then does it /would it change those erotic nights of sex we have on our own & blend into one?
Everything tends to all blend into one, some nights you talk about what you have done, other times you make love normally other times you have a mad quicky, as long as you keep discussing your thoughts with each other you cannot go wrong. We find our erotic nights on our own have changed for the better.
