My apologies if this has already been covered, and feel free to slap me if it has.
My partner and I have been swinging now for over 6 years (not constantly!), and naturally, we've met a wide and varied bunch of people in that time.
However, while at a club some weeks back, we played with a couple we've chatted to on a few occasions and discovered that the lady of the couple does not kiss anyone else other than her own partner while swinging, as she considers this too personal.
While it surprised me for a moment, it certainly didn't spoil the situation, and I fully accept that everyone is different, with individual ideals, and that there is no right or wrong 'answer'.
What I am wondering is, is there anyone else who feels they only save kissing for their partner? I apologise in advance if people deem this too personal to answer and that I should mind my own business!
My own personal opinion is that I love kissing, pure and simple, it's a big turn on for me and is as much a part of foreplay as all the rest.
So what do you think?
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Sex God
Quote by SexySara
My own personal opinion is that I love kissing, pure and simple, it's a big turn on for me and is as much a part of foreplay as all the rest.
pretty much spot on with this, bit of an odd analogy but i sort of see it like warming up before doing sports. nothing better than a long, passionate snogging session to get you up to full hornyness
I love kissing and being kissed and have never thought about NOT kissing when we get down to things though I did have one meet where the woman kissed like she was going to swallow me. That put me off a bit I must say. I spent the rest of the time trying to avoid her mouth :shock:
Kissing to me is an essential part of foreplay though things like bad breath etc can be a turn off. I'm not sure how I would react if someone said they don't do kissing or if it would spoil my enjoyment of the meet
Kissing to me is an essential part of foreplay though things like bad breath etc can be a turn off. I'm not sure how I would react if someone said they don't do kissing or if it would spoil my enjoyment of the meet
Quote by Sassy-Seren
I love kissing and being kissed and have never thought about NOT kissing when we get down to things though I did have one meet where the woman kissed like she was going to swallow me. That put me off a bit I must say. I spent the rest of the time trying to avoid her mouth :shock:
Kissing to me is an essential part of foreplay though things like bad breath etc can be a turn off. I'm not sure how I would react if someone said they don't do kissing or if it would spoil my enjoyment of the meet
We are made for each other!! Hence my name - no kissing means no sex!
I love kissing and could (and do) kiss for hours - it's my fave sexual act - kinky huh?!!
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I love kissing and could (and do) kiss for hours - it's my fave sexual act - kinky huh?!!
Not kinky in the least hun. I find kissing gets me incredibly horny if the other person is a good kisser. I love it before, during and after sex, anytime of the day or night and for no other reason than you want to. Though I'm not sure how you could rate your own kissing
I've had no complaints anyway 
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I can't imagine having sex without kissing.
ummmmmmm it is the best foreplay and essential.
those little nibbles and gently exploring each others' mouths and the tender little movements that get deeper and harder and ............................. ffs... another underwear change
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I can't imagine having sex without kissing.
ummmmmmm it is the best foreplay and essential.
those little nibbles and gently exploring each others' mouths and the tender little movements that get deeper and harder and ............................. ffs... another underwear change
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Orgasminator
damn good question!
not to sure of the answer though,
we have spoken to each other before now on our change of oppinion on what constitutes "cheating".
when i was younger i didn`t consider kissing or a "bit of a play" to be cheating, where as penitration was.
now, on the other hand, nower days i would be devestated if i saw choozy kissing someone else. that may seem strainge as we are "swingers" and enjoy going to clubs but as yet have not done any swapping.
we do feel that we will only be soft swingers due to the pain we think we may feel seeing other people touch the one we love. now all that said choozy is also bi curious and i would not consider her being with another fem as cheating on me nor would i mind her kissing another fem.
so i suppose the answer to the question on my part is, i don`t know :doh:
not to sure of the answer though,
we have spoken to each other before now on our change of oppinion on what constitutes "cheating".
when i was younger i didn`t consider kissing or a "bit of a play" to be cheating, where as penitration was.
now, on the other hand, nower days i would be devestated if i saw choozy kissing someone else. that may seem strainge as we are "swingers" and enjoy going to clubs but as yet have not done any swapping.
we do feel that we will only be soft swingers due to the pain we think we may feel seeing other people touch the one we love. now all that said choozy is also bi curious and i would not consider her being with another fem as cheating on me nor would i mind her kissing another fem.
so i suppose the answer to the question on my part is, i don`t know :doh:
Sex God
As usual we will have to be Devils Advocate.
As a couple we Swing to fulfil horny fantasies. Kissing is intimate and personal. Having said that - Mrs Hot does kiss women, but not men. Mr Hot doesn't kiss anyone axcept Mrs Hot
We may be weird to you, but we are normal to us!!
As a couple we Swing to fulfil horny fantasies. Kissing is intimate and personal. Having said that - Mrs Hot does kiss women, but not men. Mr Hot doesn't kiss anyone axcept Mrs Hot
We may be weird to you, but we are normal to us!!
Sex is an intimate act surely, even within the realms of swinging.
Kissing is the tester pot you try out on the wall before you go and buy 20 litres of the stuff only to find you don't like the colour.
If I don't feel comfortable enough to kiss someone I'm not going to feel comfortable enough to have sex with them.
H.x
Kissing is the tester pot you try out on the wall before you go and buy 20 litres of the stuff only to find you don't like the colour.
If I don't feel comfortable enough to kiss someone I'm not going to feel comfortable enough to have sex with them.
H.x
Sex God
Kissing here please.
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Sex God
We love to kiss and agree that it's part of the whole sexual experience. :twisted:
Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
Someone correct me if I've got the wrong film, but wasn't it Julia Roberts character in Pretty Woman that didn't kiss on the lips?
Maybe that's where she got the idea from
Yes it was.
But swinging should be for mutual satisfaction shouldn't it? what I mean is Julia Roberts' character was a prostitute and there is a world of difference between that and swinging.
Each to there own but I'm not going to feel happy playing with someone who doesn't feel at ease enough to kiss me.
H.x
Sex God
Quote by H-x
Someone correct me if I've got the wrong film, but wasn't it Julia Roberts character in Pretty Woman that didn't kiss on the lips?
Maybe that's where she got the idea from
Yes it was.
But swinging should be for mutual satisfaction shouldn't it? what I mean is Julia Roberts' character was a prostitute and there is a world of difference between that and swinging.
Each to there own but I'm not going to feel happy playing with someone who doesn't feel at ease enough to kiss me.
H.x
yup was just thinking that, It was a common theme for prostitutes not to kiss clients as that was considered too intimate, and thats when you knew she'd 'fallen in love' in the film, when she kissed him when she was sleeping!
I used to think of kissing as not cheating, but now I think Its just the same as if you were to go off and shag someone, you're still getting pleasure on the sly from them!
I think in swinging terms we feel the same as Hx- we would feel much hornier if there was some sexy snogging for starters!
xx
Orgasminator
Kissing is great, its one thing guaranteed to light my fire 
A kiss can convey so much, touch, taste, smell :D
You can't beat a great kiss :D
A kiss can convey so much, touch, taste, smell :D
You can't beat a great kiss :D
Sex God
Just can't beat a real long, passionate snogging session
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Orgasminator
Well I am glad this subject has come up. I will sleep better tonight knowing that the kiss I got at the munch meant nothing much really. I was under the impression that swingers don't kiss, so you can imagine how confused I felt about its meaning!
However, I think I wouldn't want to kiss just anyone that I had sex with. For me a kiss is an expression of tender and caring feelings and I would rather reserve it for someone special.
However, I think I wouldn't want to kiss just anyone that I had sex with. For me a kiss is an expression of tender and caring feelings and I would rather reserve it for someone special.
Sex God
Quote by da69ve
We enjoying the kissing part as well.......surely wouldn't having a cock in your mouth be considered very intimate aswell
No, not for us
Strange huh
Sex God
Quote by da69ve
We enjoying the kissing part as well.......surely wouldn't having a cock in your mouth be considered very intimate aswell
No, not for us
Strange huh
Sex God
i understand the "kissing is too intimate and personal" thing completely. infinitely more intimate than oral sex, for example, IMO, and i completely understand it could be a kind of boundary that reserves at least one act of intimacy for the couple, and only the couple?
but . . . sex without kissing just seems wrong? it's just soooooo mechanical if you dive straight down without so much as a snog? it's definitely the most pleasurable part of foreplay, and the single biggest turn on, so without it it's kind of hard work to get started?
and tania, as for kissing at munches, it's the SH equivalent of a handshake! ;) at least for those of us comfortable with it anyways, though you always have to be careful on that one! ;)
neil x x x ;)
but . . . sex without kissing just seems wrong? it's just soooooo mechanical if you dive straight down without so much as a snog? it's definitely the most pleasurable part of foreplay, and the single biggest turn on, so without it it's kind of hard work to get started?
and tania, as for kissing at munches, it's the SH equivalent of a handshake! ;) at least for those of us comfortable with it anyways, though you always have to be careful on that one! ;)
neil x x x ;)
