I don't think we can always be 100% certain what our children are up to when out, but all we can do is instill in them how we would expect them to behave and hope they would use their better judgement then to be lead into something we would not be happy with.
As I say to them, if you are there when someone else does something you could be seen as being guilty by assocaiation.
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Do you know what your children get up to ?
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Quote by Anoush
Interesting related question:
How would you feel if you found out that your child was a swinger? Sorry if that idea makes anybody uncomfortable.
My eldest (just 19) told me on her last visit what I suspected...
she has "an arrangement" with the young guy she's seeing. They're not a couple- she doesn't have time to get tied down as she's taking her studies far too seriously- but they have a casual, respectful, situation going on.
She pointed out that they've agreed she doesn't have to see him "exclusively." My first reaction was to say "well I hope he can do the same!"
So yeah- it's all cool.
Back to the op...my parents sure as hell don't know half of what I was up to- I'd be deluding myself to think I knew everything mine were up to.
Up to a certain age (12), I can say exactly where and who my kids were with and 99% of the time I knew what they were doing. After that age - I ran the local youth project that my kids attended. So again I knew where they were etc.
From 15/16 they travelled 25 miles each way to school and didn't get home till late or stayed over with school friends. That's when I really didn't have a clue what they got up to...except for youth club nights.
I always hoped I brought them up to be behave no matter where they were and treat others with respect. I'm sure that didn't always happen - experiencing life, learning from their actions and taking responsibility for them are all part and parcel of growing up.
Only once did my son get into trouble with the police (13 yrs old). He punched a neighbours lad on the nose making it bleed for trying to ruin his Sat job and paid the price for what he did (even the police thought it unfair but that's justice for ya).
Nowadays they are in the main a fun loving pair of minx's, cheeky, outgoing, caring and very close. They do me head in sometimes as there's never a dull moment around here
From 15/16 they travelled 25 miles each way to school and didn't get home till late or stayed over with school friends. That's when I really didn't have a clue what they got up to...except for youth club nights.
I always hoped I brought them up to be behave no matter where they were and treat others with respect. I'm sure that didn't always happen - experiencing life, learning from their actions and taking responsibility for them are all part and parcel of growing up.
Only once did my son get into trouble with the police (13 yrs old). He punched a neighbours lad on the nose making it bleed for trying to ruin his Sat job and paid the price for what he did (even the police thought it unfair but that's justice for ya).
Nowadays they are in the main a fun loving pair of minx's, cheeky, outgoing, caring and very close. They do me head in sometimes as there's never a dull moment around here
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Only once did my son get into trouble with the police (13 yrs old). He punched a neighbours lad on the nose making it bleed for trying to ruin his Sat job and paid the price for what he did (even the police thought it unfair but that's justice for ya)
He looked fine when I said hello to him the other week
Quote by Dawnie
Only once did my son get into trouble with the police (13 yrs old). He punched a neighbours lad on the nose making it bleed for trying to ruin his Sat job and paid the price for what he did (even the police thought it unfair but that's justice for ya)
He looked fine when I said hello to him the other week
Did he change ya battery for you? :lol2: :lol2:
Quote by anais
Only once did my son get into trouble with the police (13 yrs old). He punched a neighbours lad on the nose making it bleed for trying to ruin his Sat job and paid the price for what he did (even the police thought it unfair but that's justice for ya)
He looked fine when I said hello to him the other week
Did he change ya battery for you? :lol2: :lol2:
:lol2: No, I just said hello in passing smirking to myself :grin:
I was tempted to go back this week and tell him a few secrets about his Mum but I just haven't had the time
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My kids will make mistakes and do things their way, I've no doubt of that. What I do know is that they've had J & I bring them up well, This means that they have a history of knowing what right and wrong is so they can find their way back onto the right path if they stray, and at least they know what path they're looking for.
Quote by Dawnie
Only once did my son get into trouble with the police (13 yrs old). He punched a neighbours lad on the nose making it bleed for trying to ruin his Sat job and paid the price for what he did (even the police thought it unfair but that's justice for ya)
He looked fine when I said hello to him the other week
Did he change ya battery for you? :lol2: :lol2:
:lol2: No, I just said hello in passing smirking to myself :grin:
I was tempted to go back this week and tell him a few secrets about his Mum but I just haven't had the time
Bugga - you'd be there all day
:? Tho, he could probably tell you a few about me himself :lol2: :lol2: Stop and say hello, he has the time :lol2: There is a pun in their somewhere
Quote by markz
I am very proud of my children and very confident they will make good decisions in life.......
By the sounds of it your kids will grow up to be pretty sound adults Mark
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My son had a couple of run in's with the police when we lived in scotland - mainly to do with his anger issues... it was sorted out, and he is now a better teenager for it. I think its made my girls think about their actions!!! I am sure they shall make mistakes.. I know I did as a teenager.. Hanging around with a bad crowd in an act of defieance( sorry about spelling mistake)
As for the question that was raised about parents views on children who are swingers...
My parents have no idea, but my mum knows i have a 'friend with benefits'
A couple of years ago my brother got me to tell my mum that he n his ex had been swinging for 10 years!! They were divorcing - it was nasty - and she had said was going to tell my parents - and my brother wanted mum to know first!!! She was not amused!!
And I got a lecture!!! - which had me in giggles - given that not only my brother been a swinger, but so am I and so is my sister!!! ohh and my cousin..lol
luckily we have managed to not be on the same sites!!!
As for the question that was raised about parents views on children who are swingers...
My parents have no idea, but my mum knows i have a 'friend with benefits'
A couple of years ago my brother got me to tell my mum that he n his ex had been swinging for 10 years!! They were divorcing - it was nasty - and she had said was going to tell my parents - and my brother wanted mum to know first!!! She was not amused!!
And I got a lecture!!! - which had me in giggles - given that not only my brother been a swinger, but so am I and so is my sister!!! ohh and my cousin..lol
luckily we have managed to not be on the same sites!!!
