Do you lower your standards when swinging?

9 Oct 2012

We never lower our standards or break our playing/meet rules. It's just not worth it.

9 Oct 2012

I find that I may lower my standard on physical attraction if the person has a personality that I am attracted to. I can think of a couple of cases where I was not attracted to the person straight away but after getting to know suddenly found them a whole lot appealing.
Though this probably only applies to people a couple of "points" below me on the scale smile

haven't had the chance to properly research this!

9 Oct 2012

Quote by London_Olympian
I find that I may lower my standard on physical attraction if the person has a personality that I am attracted to. I can think of a couple of cases where I was not attracted to the person straight away but after getting to know suddenly found them a whole lot appealing.
Though this probably only applies to people a couple of "points" below me on the scale haven't had the chance to properly research this!

I think the main question everyone wants to know- standards or no standards- are you actually a london olympian??

11 Oct 2012

Well I did win a rather pretty medal for an elimination tournament I was in for my sport in August... Years of training coming down to about 6 minutes of actual competing for a bit of metal! Totally worth it.

12 Oct 2012

Quote by livelife_cpl
Hi all.
During our first visit to a club last week we got talking to a couple who were telling us about some meets they had in the last few weeks and went on to say "we lower our standards when looking for people to swing with". Whilst we completely respect their choices and understand their reason for this but we don't agree with the comment. For us to have fun with a male, female or couple we need to find them almost as attractive as we would if we were looking to date them and this includes the same sort of personalities we like as well as physical appearance. What's everyone's opinion on this?
J & M

I now swing as a single guy but have had similar discussions when i was part of a couple.
Just because swingers possess a liberated mind when it comes to physicality doesnt mean that they will or should play with anyone or that standards have been dropped.
Like any other situation there needs to be a connection and mutual attraction,between playmates.
If that means that the hunt takes a little longer in order to find it,then better that than a less than satisfying meet with "Johnny-just-around-the-corner".
DT x

6 Nov 2012

Wow it seems this thread has been very popular. We'd like to add that since we started this thread Mrs L has hooked up with a guy we know and even though he isn't her normal type and she doesn't fancy him she does like certain things about him including his personality so warmed to the idea of sex with him. Now don't get us wrong he is still a good looking guy with a good physique but not what Mrs L would usually go for... Not sure if this is classed as lowering standards or not but we are having a great time either way :-)

19 Nov 2012

Swinging is very diferent to dating forn a start you meet people from very different back grounds to those you did when you were single and dating as mosly we move within our own demographic groups
i wouldnt say you lower your standards but you certainly widen the people your willing to play with mainly because your not looking to spend the rest of your life with them
we made some great friends with people we probably wouldnt have met anywhere else our claim to fame is through this scene we have been taken as guests to a bikers club house and a barristers ball
we became more tolerant of other peoples ideas beliefs and sexualities thats for sure i still dont understand them all but i no longer look down on them
swinging was life changing for us we wasnt exactly shrinking violets prior but it definately change us

19 Nov 2012

in forgot to add shagging a minger is like riding a moped its great till your mates see you