Does anyone ever meet up or is it all just fantasy

I've messaged a few couples who sound up for it but I'm beginning to think it's just a site for timewasters 

I've ?? Maybe there in lays your problem!

There is so much choice now on here and the many others sites on the internet. People have become very picky..they want this they want that..they must look like this and not like that..The new generation of swingers are totally different to when we started. We had no internet..we met through sneaky ads or word of mouth..We just got on with it.

And although you have not asked for profile advice...but..you have no text on it, to tell folk what you are about, so how would you expect folk to reply back to you when there is nothing to go on..Your profile is your shop window..if there is nothing to see , folk will go to the next shop along with a better display.

Although not been on this site long we have started talking to some lovely couples on and off site from here and when all available looking to meet up soon. Not found any to be time wasters here yet, just friendly and polite people who like to see if match so to speak before meet.

Suppose you could call us part of the new generation of swingers lol. Although would say not picky we do have preferences like all do.  Would not meet just anyone.

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I've messaged a few couples who sound up for it but I'm beginning to think it's just a site for timewasters 

 You messaged them thinking they're up for it and they've not jumped on you?  How very dare they?!! 

Seriously, put some more effort in: finesse your profile, add some more photos with less emphasis on a covered backside and a cock, describe you and your partner in more detail, and be clear about what you're looking for and what you can offer.   And think about getting photo verified - that goes a long way to reassuring people that YOU are genuine.   

had a meet for 1pm today still waiting lol

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had a meet for 1pm today still waiting lol
May be they got the wrong day?

turning into a fantasy just talk shite in chat expect us to drop everything straight bored with like just stick to dogging

Although new to this site, and not not encountered here yet (sure we will). We are active on other sites and found there to be a number of fantasists and time wasters. So every site you going we guessing you are going to find.

Just got to take the 'oh well' attitude and move on.

We find our own personal filters and spider senses do us well and whittle these out though.

So far here, has done us well and been chatting to some great genuine people and starting to meet some next week.

Were a genuine couple and are willing to me.. Kids and work make it hard but should we arrange a meet with people we would turn up, even dispite our bad encounter were we had been led on to the point of a meet with a female but only a male coke dealer turned up at the venue, aside that 2 days of pestering fone calls that we ignored.. Some doddgy fucks out there guys so be careful

Check our profile out and if anyone feels interested and meet our requirements please gwt in touch 

Yes. We started talking to a lovely couple and yesterday we met them for some morning fun! We had a great time. I think taking the time to finesse your profile; ensuring you post decent pictures and engaging in some good conversation will all help to find the right people.

Yes you are right dont rush this. We have been active on another site for over a year so we thought last week was a good time to dive in ? wwwwrrrrrrrooooooong was we ? butbon the plus side a lovely couple made contact with us earlier they are new to the scene  and very nervous to say the least.. Come across as a very nice couple and werw looking forward to the future that is out there.. Meet socially in an open place is our first move ?

meet a lovely couple for a bit of outdoor fun last Sunday. 

does anyone want to meet up 

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I've messaged a few couples who sound up for it but I'm beginning to think it's just a site for timewasters 

 I've paid my money, I want a fuck!.. Some peoples expectations of this site are better than comedy.

Yep, I think a lot (not all!) of those complaining about not getting the response they'd like have totally unrealistic expectations. In their world they must imagine cock shots/winks//cut and paste one liners from total strangers are all that's required in order to secure what they want. Even in chat we all too often get those super polite 'what you into then?' introductions from people who display no manners, clearly don't bother to read profiles and seem to believe that everyone here should be up for anything they want. It is quite sad really but a sign of the times I feel in these days when increasingly it seems that anything much more than swiping, liking and text like messaging is deemed just too much effort...

Is there a reason everyone has assumed its the male with the original post? lol

Yep, I'd imagine it's an assumption based on experience here like most things in life.  

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I've messaged a few couples who sound up for it but I'm beginning to think it's just a site for timewasters 

 I've paid my money, I want a fuck!.. Some peoples expectations of this site are better than comedy.

Yep, I think a lot (not all!) of those complaining about not getting the response they'd like have totally unrealistic expectations. In their world they must imagine cock shots/winks//cut and paste one liners from total strangers are all that's required in order to secure what they want. Even in chat we all too often get those super polite 'what you into then?' introductions from people who display no manners, clearly don't bother to read profiles and seem to believe that everyone here should be up for anything they want. It is quite sad really but a sign of the times I feel in these days when increasingly it seems that anything much more than swiping, liking and text like messaging is deemed just too much effort...

It's not a site for time wasters, but it's heavily populated by them. Don't you just love those people who think a quick barrage of questions in whispers is all that's needed to start the ball rolling. Sometimes we just can't resist coming out with any old nonsense, just to see how long it takes before they realise they could have saved time by reading our profile. One bloke... I mean,, errr! couple told me in the first ten minutes he/she was a size 10 dress with 38DD boobies... lol, lol. It took him..... sorry, them two weeks to realise he/they were wasting their time..

Been there, done that, got the tee shirt..  lol  Odd how it rarely seems to be single females or the female half of a 'couple' who complains about a lack of action, turns up alone, cams alone, makes endless excuses for their partner not being around blah blah blah eh? That's not to say that timewasters, idiots etc. don't come in both sexes, but a large majority of members here are males and a good number of couples profiles are being run by males who're either single or whose partners don't know or aren't interested. 

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I've messaged a few couples who sound up for it but I'm beginning to think it's just a site for timewasters 

 I've paid my money, I want a fuck!.. Some peoples expectations of this site are better than comedy.

Yep, I think a lot (not all!) of those complaining about not getting the response they'd like have totally unrealistic expectations. In their world they must imagine cock shots/winks//cut and paste one liners from total strangers are all that's required in order to secure what they want. Even in chat we all too often get those super polite 'what you into then?' introductions from people who display no manners, clearly don't bother to read profiles and seem to believe that everyone here should be up for anything they want. It is quite sad really but a sign of the times I feel in these days when increasingly it seems that anything much more than swiping, liking and text like messaging is deemed just too much effort...

It's not a site for time wasters, but it's heavily populated by them. Don't you just love those people who think a quick barrage of questions in whispers is all that's needed to start the ball rolling. Sometimes we just can't resist coming out with any old nonsense, just to see how long it takes before they realise they could have saved time by reading our profile. One bloke... I mean,, errr! couple told me in the first ten minutes he/she was a size 10 dress with 38DD boobies... lol, lol. It took him..... sorry, them two weeks to realise he/they were wasting their time..

Been there, done that, got the tee shirt..  lol  Odd how it rarely seems to be single females or the female half of a 'couple' who complains about a lack of action, turns up alone, cams alone, makes endless excuses for their partner not being around blah blah blah eh? That's not to say that timewasters, idiots etc. don't come in both sexes, but a large majority of members here are males and a good number of couples profiles are being run by males who're either single or whose partners don't know or aren't interested. 

 Once again.... Is it the single guys fault? All they're doing is what nature tells them to do... trying to find someone to fuck!! Undoubtedly the vast majority of them thinking it's a good way to get a free go on someone else wife without having to explain away being married themselves. Some of them even come along and expect other members to call them Sir or Master. Anyone, no matter what their interest in swinging is allowed to join the site unchecked then left to do whatever they will. In all seriousness we should only expect to be contacted by those who have little or no understanding of the people they're trying to mix with. It's just a pity so many of them seem to think we're all idiots.

Yes we all want something here but some of us know that there are ways and means to achieve that ambition. ;)  I don't have a problem with guys wanting to fuck or anything else they desire.  I just don't have any sympathy for those who pitch up here expecting sex in return for virtually zero effort and then complain about timewasters or even argue when they're politely turned down... 

Thanks, being 90 isn't what it used to be...  ;)

This was an interesting thread for us to read. Sammy and I dove straight into swinging as a couple, first meet went a little wrong so we came here and read up on the forums and advice. Tyres being slashed and windows smashed dogging. Guys pretending to be a couple arriving at a meet and pretending his partners on his way for an hour, on top of our first meet at home and the abusive messages for not replying in 2 minutes! (15 messages getting more abrupt and abusive over a 20 minute period whilst Sam was at work) it does make you considerably more cautious as a couple. I think the "newer generation", unfortunately have more access to the horror stories and abuse that comes with the internet whereas when it was ads and word of mouth you were, possibly,  less likely to get the volume of time wasters and dozens of abusive contacts so quickly and frequently. We now insist on socials before a play meet unless we've been chatting for a while (I say we, it's mainly Sammy who has those rules, I'm happy telling someone just to sod off if they aren't who they say they are or become needy, demanding or abusive ?)

It'd be interesting to hear different stories of people's experiences getting into swinging and how the first few meets went. Not so much the sex, but the process, and see how that effected the way people deal with new meets.

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This was an interesting thread for us to read. Sammy and I dove straight into swinging as a couple, first meet went a little wrong so we came here and read up on the forums and advice. Tyres being slashed and windows smashed dogging. Guys pretending to be a couple arriving at a meet and pretending his partners on his way for an hour, on top of our first meet at home and the abusive messages for not replying in 2 minutes! (15 messages getting more abrupt and abusive over a 20 minute period whilst Sam was at work) it does make you considerably more cautious as a couple. I think the "newer generation", unfortunately have more access to the horror stories and abuse that comes with the internet whereas when it was ads and word of mouth you were, possibly,  less likely to get the volume of time wasters and dozens of abusive contacts so quickly and frequently. We now insist on socials before a play meet unless we've been chatting for a while (I say we, it's mainly Sammy who has those rules, I'm happy telling someone just to sod off if they aren't who they say they are or become needy, demanding or abusive ?)


It'd be interesting to hear different stories of people's experiences getting into swinging and how the first few meets went. Not so much the sex, but the process, and see how that effected the way people deal with new meets.

Our advice is not to rush.  The time wasters and fantasists either tend not to want to chat for long or just want someone to watch them wank on cam and listen to them talk dirty.  We've never had a bad meeting mainly because a) we take plenty of time to work out who we're dealing with before going any further, b) we want to see eachother on cam first and c) we always meet socially first before anything else happens.

I think that's why we prefer dogging atm, she gets an itch during the day but the time it takes to weed out time wasters means arranging a meet with a guy or couple after work and get ready it is impossible to be even reasonably sure of success. Once we've been here a while and  get to know some likeminded friends then we can swap to intimate gatherings at home and reduce the amount of random dogging trips (save fuel and save the planet ?)

There's a lot of compelling and interesting views and experience in your post. A more private platform would certainly be more productive and I'm sure would end up poaching genuine swingers from platforms that maintain this kind of business model, but we agree it's unlikely when the site is owned by individuals seeking quick profit. 

We have the time to get to know and make a few like-minded friends, then we'll probably just stick to private swinging and clubs and give up on wider hedonistic exploration of others using sites like this. 

Thanks for your input. It was a great insight we enjoyed reading. 

Sammy and Will

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Were a genuine couple and are willing to me.. Kids and work make it hard but should we arrange a meet with people we would turn up, even dispite our bad encounter were we had been led on to the point of a meet with a female but only a male coke dealer turned up at the venue, aside that 2 days of pestering fone calls that we ignored.. Some doddgy fucks out there guys so be careful
Check our profile out and if anyone feels interested and meet our requirements please gwt in touch 

Wow 

Had a near same experience. Our first meet were with a couple, we were so nervous, spent a fortune on hotel etc. 9pm meet and the male turned up with phone glued to his ear, saying that his wife was "Running late" a couple of phone calls later she would be here soon so we should go upstairs and "Get on with it" so that first meet was bad but not as bad as the 2nd when we met up with a female that I had flirted with, (I'm fem btw) exchanged pictures, camed and got on with. 

Again hotel booked we drove 80 miles, I was again nervous but tingling as she walked into the bar, we had a laugh and then she basically told us she had bought 100 quid of cocaine and wanted paying for it lol We said no thanks and she kicked off in the bar and had to be chucked out lol 

So we were put off for a long time and still have not met anyone yet even though we have a pretty good profile and I chat most days in the chatrooms for fun. Just have that SH cloud above our head but we still enjoy the site.   

So we were put off for a long time and still have not met anyone yet even though we have a pretty good profile and I chat most days in the chatrooms for fun. Just have that SH cloud above our head but we still enjoy the site.   

 Have you tried any of the clubs?

thank you.   But I do not wish to meet a couple . I just wish to have some nice good sex with a m Mmm man xxx 

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Were a genuine couple and are willing to me.. Kids and work make it hard but should we arrange a meet with people we would turn up, even dispite our bad encounter were we had been led on to the point of a meet with a female but only a male coke dealer turned up at the venue, aside that 2 days of pestering fone calls that we ignored.. Some doddgy fucks out there guys so be careful
Check our profile out and if anyone feels interested and meet our requirements please gwt in touch 

 

Wow 
Had a near same experience. Our first meet were with a couple, we were so nervous, spent a fortune on hotel etc. 9pm meet and the male turned up with phone glued to his ear, saying that his wife was "Running late" a couple of phone calls later she would be here soon so we should go upstairs and "Get on with it" so that first meet was bad but not as bad as the 2nd when we met up with a female that I had flirted with, (I'm fem btw) exchanged pictures, camed and got on with. 
Again hotel booked we drove 80 miles, I was again nervous but tingling as she walked into the bar, we had a laugh and then she basically told us she had bought 100 quid of cocaine and wanted paying for it lol We said no thanks and she kicked off in the bar and had to be chucked out lol 
So we were put off for a long time and still have not met anyone yet even though we have a pretty good profile and I chat most days in the chatrooms for fun. Just have that SH cloud above our head but we still enjoy the site.   

 and therein lies the problem.  Once bitten?  Twice, even more shy!  It pays to take time, be careful and be cautious.

We've very recently had contact from a guy who seemed quite nice but oddly familiar. It turned out he's on another site we're on but has slightly different profile which revealed the lies he was telling us here and were clearly designed to mislead people. He's not alone folks so beware of those who tell you what you want to hear!!

Clubs are fine but don't allow you much time to work out who you're dealing with. If you don't mind that, it's totally fine.  However, we aren't going to have sex with anyone we haven't taken time to get to know and reassure ourselves about over a period of time through chatting etc etc etc. Old fashioned maybe yes but clicks and swiping to determine matches are too simple to be true.