Does this site work for single guys?

8 Apr 2007

Hi there,
I've been a member here since 2004, I admit it's not full time but I have given the site on a number of occassions for reasonable spells but am still yet to meet anyone for anything more than that first drink.
I have the disadvantage of not being able to accommodate and being financially disabled (due to disasterous relationship) so struggle to afford to go to swinging clubs.
However, I was hoping as a single guy who's not just after quick one off sex but looking to meet people as part of the swinging community I would be able to manage some success.
I'd like to here from single guys who are struggling as well as those who have managed to find success here. In fact I'd like to hear from anyone as a woman's perspective's good too!
Happy Easter to y'all, hope to hear from you soon
Steve biggrin

8 Apr 2007

All I can say is that one way that may help you is to get better known on here. Join in the Threads. Let people get to know you. Ask to go to Munches (they don't have to be expensive things to go to...I'm no rich myself.)
I'm not saying that I'm successful at the swinging side of things, but I damn well know that the social side of my life is fantastic! biggrin

Good luck....and remember all good things come to those who wait.....and put in some effort wink

8 Apr 2007

Hi steve

I notice that although you have been a member for a while, this is your first post on the forums.
I think it might be a good move to come in here more.
I say this because as a single fem, I am much more likely to meet up with someone I have got to know through postings on the forum, (and subsequent pms) than through answering one of the thousands of ads.
I think it's the best way to get yourself known, for people to see you are an interesting person rather than an ad which is very limited.
Good Luck :thumbup:

8 Apr 2007

Pretty much same as dleps post
Its not as much about success or failiure as its not a competition so try not to think of it like that
Keep posting and join your local chatroom and get to know them socially and go from there.
My social side is so much better too since i came here and anything else will go from there

8 Apr 2007

Some rapid replies & good tips....much appreciated thanks, a couple of positive replies make all the diference....thanks for your time biggrin

8 Apr 2007

Quote by Stevedb076
I'd like to here from single guys who are struggling as well as those who have managed to find success here. In fact I'd like to hear from anyone as a woman's perspective's good too!

I think you've made the right move, coming into the forum!
I think it might not be a good idea to hear from those who struggle though - when people struggle they come in here and moan - making themselves appear desperate and bitter because they haven't been offered sex on a plate! lol

8 Apr 2007

We've met a single guy from here who is a lovely lovely man. The only reason we decided to meet him was because we got to know him better through chatting both MSN and Chatrooms/Forums.
What others have said is right, you need to 'get to know people better' let them get to know you, and it's all about trust also.

8 Apr 2007

The only meets I have had have been with single guys and there have been mre than one occasion ( you don't really expect met to give the exact number do you?? :twisted: ) when it has been more than just a drink and chat.
So basically, yes, the site works for single men. biggrin

8 Apr 2007

My take on it...
Does this site work for single guys who sign up and expect an easy shag with anyone they like the look of? .... nope
Does this site work for single guys who sign up, know what they're looking for and are prepared to put time and effort into finding compatible people who fit the bill? ... yup it does.
You get out of life (and this site) only what you're prepared to put in wink

8 Apr 2007

Just to elaborate on earlier post, certainly not here for quick shag. I'm looking for quality time with quality people, if anything sexual comes of that then that's a bonus in my opinion.
The hard part's getting noticed, I've spent a lot of time on the chatroom but it is a competitive environment there...I like the forum, much more relaxed with room to breathe and be myself, seems like a more positive way to get to know people.
Thanks to all who've taken the time to reply biggrin

8 Apr 2007

Having met several single guys, i'd say yes- it does work! If the single guys in question would agree with that is another matter lol

Having just read your profile & the rest of your posts in this thread, i'll stick my neck out & say that from first impressions, you're the kind of single guy it works for! Stick around, and good luck! :welcome:

8 Apr 2007

Hi Steve, good posts :-)
We chat a lot with people on the forum and are quite friendly with a lot, but it isn't our top way of meeting people. Having said that if we are going to meet up with anyone, we usually have a wee nosey at their posts (if any) first of all which is why chatting away in the forum is good!
The main ways we meet people however, are either through them responding to our ad or vice versa, or through chatting in chat.
For me, a single guy would stand out if he had a decent profile that had a good bit of chat about him, and not just telling me what he can do for the girl, but what he wants too!!!
In chat, i like to see who I'm chatting to, so a webcam is always good, but I don't like to see too much, ie anyone wanking and i switch to another cam straight away (I'm not picky am I) (actually ,i might watch for a wee bit if i'm in the mood ... wink

)
If we're looking to meet, we usually choose a room that's relevant, like scottish room or north east as thats the best locations, or a room like 'young couples' so i would suggest maybe even opening your own room like single guys looking for....
The first guy that I fancied from here and would have considered meeting built up a bit of chat in one of the rooms over a few weeks, and looked v hot on his camera, but you could also tell he wasn't trying to impress, he was just here to enjoy himself.
One of my pet hates is the guys that try too hard- the ones that are the first to defend when you;re being directed and the first to shun the whisperers- usualy in the 'pick me, I'm not like all these other bastards!'
I guess what I'm trying to say in the simplest way is, be yourself! Everyone likes something different, for everyone that likes what i've said, there'll be 10 more that disagree, so just get chatting and have fun! oh,and stop by scottish chat one night!
:twisted: maz xx

9 Apr 2007

Quote by mazandden
One of my pet hates is the guys that try too hard- the ones that are the first to defend when you;re being directed and the first to shun the whisperers- usualy in the 'pick me, I'm not like all these other bastards!'

I couldn't agree more. That's because I'm not like all these other bastards .................. whoops!

9 Apr 2007

Quote by mazandden
One of my pet hates is the guys that try too hard- . . . . . . .
. . . usualy in the 'pick me, I'm not like all these other bastards!'
I guess what I'm trying to say in the simplest way is, be yourself! Everyone likes something different . . . . .
:twisted: maz xx

One thing I've always said in here is to be yourself.
If you're a comic - be a comic.
If you're sensitive - be sensitive.
If you're an arse - be an arse.
Somebody will like and want you. For who and what you are. NOT for being something you think they want you to be.
:thumbup: and good luck.

9 Apr 2007

yes the site works for single guys, i have only met with single guys in the 18 months i have been here
but like the others have said i tend to meet someone i have met on the forums, socials, munchs or chatroom
i never look at the ads and dont have one myself
i also agree i think you have made the right mood coming onto the forums, your posts wasnt a moan or dig at the site more of an advice seeking so that too is a step in the right direction
i must admit to seeing the thread and thinking oh no not another one only to be pleasantly surprised by your post
welcome to the forums
Earthy xx

9 Apr 2007

Wow, thanks again for more supportive responses and advice....why I never looked here before is beyond belief.
I certainly haven't posted to have a moan and glad people have taken the time to read and see that. The day I start moaning on here is the day I miraculously become perfect...though I suspect that might be pretty boring anyway...I'm waffling now, anyone still listening? wink

Thanks again

9 Apr 2007

welcome to the forum hun wave

enjoy & have fun. Its not as :scared: as some think. Like others have said above, just be you.
See you around the other threads

9 Apr 2007

Quote by Stevedb076
I'm waffling now, anyone still listening?

Yes, I was listening, hello wave

Have a feeling I have seen your photo before ;)

9 Apr 2007

Hi Steve and :welcome:
Nice post, nice profile, nice advert, nice pics. you'll do OK I am sure. Attitude goes a LONGGG way here. And yes this site does work for single guys.
pink x

9 Apr 2007

more or less its about being noticed.
Being active on the forums, is a good start, if you don't see a post about what you want feel free to post your questions, etc.
I'm pretty new to the site myself, although have been in the scene for little over a year now.
its more about being regularly noticed b4 you are allowed to enter into the circle of trust of teh regulars.
Its not that theyre really a secretive lot, its just they expect discretion, and a proven track record from us single guys.
if you expect things to happen quickly you will be disappointed. But if you put the time and effort in then you will be rewarded, and will never look back.
enjoy it.
and good luck steve.
Ps. The chatrooms are not really competetive, take your time get to knwo teh regulars and be polite, don't be pushy and respect NO means No.

9 Apr 2007

does this site work for single guys?
as has been said, only for those who are themselves, and put something into it, i cant speak for others, but i have made a significant number of friendships, and through those friendships, more has followed, there isnt a secret to it, and others have given sound advice, the site has worked for me, and its there if you want to make it happen

9 Apr 2007

Nah...it's crap for single guys :giggle:
bolt

Just joking hun. Yes it does work for some and not for others, but I believe that if you put effort in you get rewarded.
Love
Fire xx (who is married to someone who used to be a single guy)

9 Apr 2007

Quote by firelizard
Nah...it's crap for single guys :giggle:

Just joking hun. Yes it does work for some and not for others, but I believe that if you put effort in you get rewarded.
Love
Fire xx (who is married to someone who used to be a single guy)

Oh for the good old days.

9 Apr 2007

Quote by Stormwalker

Fire xx (who is married to someone who used to be a single guy)

Oh for the good old days.
rotflmao

A braver man than me, Gunga Din
bolt

9 Apr 2007

Quote by dambuster

Fire xx (who is married to someone who used to be a single guy)

Oh for the good old days.
rotflmao

A braver man than me, Gunga Din
bolt

Wings of steel mate :wink:

9 Apr 2007

Quote by Stormwalker

Fire xx (who is married to someone who used to be a single guy)

Oh for the good old days.
rotflmao

A braver man than me, Gunga Din
bolt

Wings of steel mate :wink:
who let batfink in?

9 Apr 2007

Quote by essex34m

Fire xx (who is married to someone who used to be a single guy)

Oh for the good old days.
rotflmao

A braver man than me, Gunga Din
bolt

Wings of steel mate :wink:
who let batfink in?
lol

9 Apr 2007

Quote by Stormwalker

Fire xx (who is married to someone who used to be a single guy)

Oh for the good old days.
rotflmao

A braver man than me, Gunga Din
bolt

Wings of steel mate :wink:
So you won't mind using them to flap off back to your own side of the bed tonight then flipa

9 Apr 2007

Quote by firelizard

Fire xx (who is married to someone who used to be a single guy)

Oh for the good old days.
rotflmao

A braver man than me, Gunga Din
bolt

Wings of steel mate :wink:
So you won't mind using them to flap off back to your own side of the bed tonight then flipa

So no change there then rolleyes

9 Apr 2007

Oh No! I've started an arguement, I'd feel bad if it wasn't so entertaining wink