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Sex God
Quote by flower411
So many profiles say 'we are not into e mail tennis', who first said that anyway? In my opinion there is nothing wrong with this practice, for goodness sake, how else do you get to know folk before meeting them?
There`s a verification system on its way .... You`ll not even have to talk to people :roll:
Spot on!
If yer verified it'll be like being given the nod.
Then a nod will be as good as a wink to get you into the speed shagging World Championships.
Shit - all winks get deleted don't they? Back to the drawing board.......
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Sex God
Whatever you want I guess.
Sex God
New Balls anyone? 
Orgasminator
Email Tennis :- The lost art of continuously exchanging pleasantries with a prospective meet via email for a yet undrterminable medium-to-long-term duration before establishing whether or not a meet legitimately is viable.[/i
A guy I know on one site said he had to be establish a friendship with one couple first (fair enough I thought) - this took him six (6) years to do before he got to finally have a meet with them, despite having met them socially a few times and exchanged countless emails over the years. It paid off though, they shag like rabbits every week.
I'm just not sure if I can wait 6 years for a meet - I tend to think "If you can't make your mind after the first year, you're clearly either not horny enough, or not interested at all, so I'll make it up for you and no longer darken your inbox - Happy Swinging" (and apologies to those who get offended).
Imagine I start chatting to a couple who prefer under 30's (say I was 29 then),... and definitely no 35's or over. By the time the 6 years had past, I WOULD be 35, thus eliminating myself - back to the drawing board!
A guy I know on one site said he had to be establish a friendship with one couple first (fair enough I thought) - this took him six (6) years to do before he got to finally have a meet with them, despite having met them socially a few times and exchanged countless emails over the years. It paid off though, they shag like rabbits every week.
I'm just not sure if I can wait 6 years for a meet - I tend to think "If you can't make your mind after the first year, you're clearly either not horny enough, or not interested at all, so I'll make it up for you and no longer darken your inbox - Happy Swinging" (and apologies to those who get offended).
Imagine I start chatting to a couple who prefer under 30's (say I was 29 then),... and definitely no 35's or over. By the time the 6 years had past, I WOULD be 35, thus eliminating myself - back to the drawing board!
Quote by Ahabs
Email Tennis :- The lost art of continuously exchanging pleasantries with a prospective meet via email for a yet undrterminable medium-to-long-term duration before establishing whether or not a meet legitimately is I start chatting to a couple who prefer under 30's (say I was 29 then),... and definitely no 35's or over. By the time the 6 years had past, I WOULD be 35, thus eliminating myself - back to the drawing board!
Sorry that made me :giggle: :giggle:
Sex God
I like PM/email tennis. It's how I work. I like the banter and the cheek and the nonsense that comes as part of that. I also like the time it affords for me to get to know someone. I also like the time it affords that someone to make it or break it for me.
I've been chatting to a guy whom I thought had a lot of potential. The chat has gone back and forward over the last few days and then suddenly he came out with something that made my skin crawl. That saved a me whole lot of time!
What works for me might not work for the next person but I like to get to know how someone's mind works before I meet them. :mrgreen:
I've been chatting to a guy whom I thought had a lot of potential. The chat has gone back and forward over the last few days and then suddenly he came out with something that made my skin crawl. That saved a me whole lot of time!
What works for me might not work for the next person but I like to get to know how someone's mind works before I meet them. :mrgreen:
Quote by Dirtygirlie
I like PM/email tennis. It's how I work. I like the banter and the cheek and the nonsense that comes as part of that. I also like the time it affords for me to get to know someone. I also like the time it affords that someone to make it or break it for me.
I've been chatting to a guy whom I thought had a lot of potential. The chat has gone back and forward over the last few days and then suddenly he came out with something that made my skin crawl. That saved a me whole lot of time!
What works for me might not work for the next person but I like to get to know how someone's mind works before I meet them. :mrgreen:
So PM'ing you twice with "Fancy a shag" won't work then?
Oh bugger
Dave_Notts
Quote by Dirtygirlie
I've been chatting to a guy whom I thought had a lot of potential. The chat has gone back and forward over the last few days and then suddenly he came out with something that made my skin crawl. That saved a me whole lot of time!
Jeez,
I only called you babe!
:mrgreen: lol
i know what you mean DG,
ive chatted to people before,and thankfully for email tennis i have sussed alot of people out, it also gives you the oppertunity to say what you dont like.
i have had initial emails where the person seems fine, they have a well presented profile but after just a few emails you find stuff out that makes you think thank god we didnt meet, bid them a fond farewell and move on.
xx fem xx
i know what you mean DG,
ive chatted to people before,and thankfully for email tennis i have sussed alot of people out, it also gives you the oppertunity to say what you dont like.
i have had initial emails where the person seems fine, they have a well presented profile but after just a few emails you find stuff out that makes you think thank god we didnt meet, bid them a fond farewell and move on.
xx fem xx
Sex God
Quote by cockslut
i interpret " no email tennis" as the writer is saying i'm not looking for a "penpal" im looking to meet for nsa fun, which could be construed as "swinging" not "dating".
Just because I don't jump into bed with everyone I meet and choose to take a bit of time to get to know them certainly doesn't mean I want to date them! :shock: :lol:
For me, the word dating implies that I'm looking for a relationship which I'm not, that's what dating sites are for. I'm not sure I'm a swinger either since it would appear we can't define what that actually means but I wouldn't contact someone who said "no email tennis" as this is my opportunity to allowing my instincts to make a decision on whether I meet that person in the first place. Although out of sheer twitchiness I wouldn't call it PM Tennis at all!
But what works for one, doesn't work for everyone and I'm seriously glad that we're all different or I'd have run a mile ages ago cause I'd have been bored to death! :mrgreen:
Orgasminator
I think the question here is time.
How long of continuous communication would make "feeling each other out" (oer!) become "email tennis". At one point I got so irritated I put on my profile "If you'd prefer to chat continuously for 6 - 9 months first, then I might not be right for you" as I had wasted time on countless women who "wanted to be friends first before deciding" over 10, 12.. 14 months. The current record is 18 months (but had met q fair few times at different socials - at the end of which I jokingly dropped in "So, you think we should take the next step?" to which they implied "Am still thinking about it, haven't decided".
Fuck me! If you haven't decided afterall this time, that's as loud a hint as any!
How long of continuous communication would make "feeling each other out" (oer!) become "email tennis". At one point I got so irritated I put on my profile "If you'd prefer to chat continuously for 6 - 9 months first, then I might not be right for you" as I had wasted time on countless women who "wanted to be friends first before deciding" over 10, 12.. 14 months. The current record is 18 months (but had met q fair few times at different socials - at the end of which I jokingly dropped in "So, you think we should take the next step?" to which they implied "Am still thinking about it, haven't decided".
Fuck me! If you haven't decided afterall this time, that's as loud a hint as any!
Quote by Ahabs
I think the question here is time.
How long of continuous communication would make "feeling each other out" (oer!) become "email tennis". At one point I got so irritated I put on my profile "If you'd prefer to chat continuously for 6 - 9 months first, then I might not be right for you" as I had wasted time on countless women who "wanted to be friends first before deciding" over 10, 12.. 14 months. The current record is 18 months (but had met q fair few times at different socials - at the end of which I jokingly dropped in "So, you think we should take the next step?" to which they implied "Am still thinking about it, haven't decided".
Fuck me! If you haven't decided afterall this time, that's as loud a hint as any!
Then take the hint
How long is a piece of string though. I have played as a single and as a couple. I find it takes longer as a couple because there are more of you to consider. As a single I met within 1 hour of chatting online for the first time once. As a couple, there are some people we have not played with in 3 years........more to do with time, real life, jobs, etc, getting in the way. Are the people who met with me within one hour more genuine thatn the ones we are yet to meet? I don't think so. They are as genuine as the next.
To me......it is more the build up to meeting is as erotic a sthe meeting itself. Some people just want to skip that excitment, then that is up to them. I just wonder what else do they want to skip. Shall we just lay there and say, crack on and wake me up when you have finished? To me it is the full catalogue and not just "hop on". The hop on expression is what someone told me to do at a club :shock: I burst out laughing and had to leave. I ain't making love but having , there has to be some eroticism in there somewhere, and "hop on" is not :lol:
Dave_Notts
I like a bit of email tennis. It has worked for me.
It appears to me that people can maintain a level of almost normal for a short time before their loon bag tendencies escape and I am left reading an email which makes me think..ooh Im glad that I didnt agree to meet you straight away!!
But it also does depend on how much tennis there is - 10 emails a day compared to 1 a fortnight would make for a quicker meet but not necessarily a better one.
But hey ho - its all part of the fun.
It appears to me that people can maintain a level of almost normal for a short time before their loon bag tendencies escape and I am left reading an email which makes me think..ooh Im glad that I didnt agree to meet you straight away!!
But it also does depend on how much tennis there is - 10 emails a day compared to 1 a fortnight would make for a quicker meet but not necessarily a better one.
But hey ho - its all part of the fun.
