How can you convince(not force or make) your gf/wife interested in swinging or a 3 some?
As you guessed I have no clue about swinging. So in advance am sorry if I ask a boring question, or open a topic that probably has been openned before.
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Encouraging gf/wife to be interested in swinging/3some?
Quote by newone
How can you make your gf/wife interested in swinging or a 3 some?
Make ? imposible to force someone against their will to do anything, i think youre asking for trouble. Best thing i can suggest is to get her on here , introduce her to the social aspect which would maybe dispel any pre concieved ideas she may have ...
good luck
Cops
You can't is the short answer. Obviously we can only speak for ourselves, but it was Mrs. C who brought up the idea of swinging. She had had her first bi experience with a friend of ours, for vaious reasons (mainly geography) it wasn't likely to happen again very often if at all and she wanted to explore her sexuality.
So one morning at breakfast she suddenly said she felt she really wanted to experience more with another lady and what did I think of swinging so she could meet other bi ladies. Of course, being a bloke, I said yes! LOL
That first idea set the seal on our swinging, we only meet couples with a bi fem or single females (we've only met one of those in three years) and while we do do "full swap" she says shes not interested in the males (shes already got one) but rather the female. She has since told me she was worried how she would feel watching me play with the other female, but found she enjoyed seeing me get pleasure.
You are not going to trick her or entice her into it, I think, and unless she is bisexual you are going to be on sticky ground bringing it up.
So one morning at breakfast she suddenly said she felt she really wanted to experience more with another lady and what did I think of swinging so she could meet other bi ladies. Of course, being a bloke, I said yes! LOL
That first idea set the seal on our swinging, we only meet couples with a bi fem or single females (we've only met one of those in three years) and while we do do "full swap" she says shes not interested in the males (shes already got one) but rather the female. She has since told me she was worried how she would feel watching me play with the other female, but found she enjoyed seeing me get pleasure.
You are not going to trick her or entice her into it, I think, and unless she is bisexual you are going to be on sticky ground bringing it up.
Quote by newone
How can you make your gf/wife interested in swinging or a 3 some?
As you guessed I have no clue about swinging.
You can't. Nor should you try.
Have you tried asking her if she has any fantasies?
It might open the door for you to talk about it. It may just open Pandora's Box !!
It might open the door for you to talk about it. It may just open Pandora's Box !!
Quote by dambuster
Have you tried asking her if she has any fantasies?
It might open the door for you to talk about it. It may just open Pandora's Box !!
Well said DB... you can't force it on anyone and shouldn't think that way either... Remember... Mountain, Mohammed..... Mohammed, Mountain! Euphamisms eh!!! I think it would best be to test the water as it were and as DB said ask her her fantasies.. find out if she ever thinks about it... not expect it to happen like putting the light switch on!!!
Quote by chick0074
How can you make your gf/wife interested in swinging or a 3 some?
Find a really gorgeous, muscular, well endowed man to join you.
She'll thank you for it
Rachel
Gee... Thanks Rachel!!! Now I definitely would never stand a chance if that was what the women are looking for!!! There's no way I could spend that much time in a gym to become that muscular!!!
Quote by Benz2502
How can you make your gf/wife interested in swinging or a 3 some?
Find a really gorgeous, muscular, well endowed man to join you.
She'll thank you for it
Rachel
Gee... Thanks Rachel!!! Now I definitely would never stand a chance if that was what the women are looking for!!! There's no way I could spend that much time in a gym to become that muscular!!!
I wouldn't worry about it, Benz, that isn't what all women are looking for, or all swingers for that matter.
But newone is looking for someone to join him and his missus and needs something to "convice" her, so he tells us.
He might not enjoy watching it, but if his problem is convincing her, he needs to make the offer atractive to her.
Rachel
:wink:
Quote by chick0074
How can you make your gf/wife interested in swinging or a 3 some?
Find a really gorgeous, muscular, well endowed man to join you.
She'll thank you for it
Rachel
Gee... Thanks Rachel!!! Now I definitely would never stand a chance if that was what the women are looking for!!! There's no way I could spend that much time in a gym to become that muscular!!!
I wouldn't worry about it, Benz, that isn't what all women are looking for, or all swingers for that matter.
But newone is looking for someone to join him and his missus and needs something to "convice" her, so he tells us.
He might not enjoy watching it, but if his problem is convincing her, he needs to make the offer atractive to her.
Rachel
:wink:
What's the record for the most posts within a post anyway?
Rachel
:wink:
Quote by chick0074
How can you make your gf/wife interested in swinging or a 3 some?
Find a really gorgeous, muscular, well endowed man to join you.
She'll thank you for it
Rachel
Gee... Thanks Rachel!!! Now I definitely would never stand a chance if that was what the women are looking for!!! There's no way I could spend that much time in a gym to become that muscular!!!
I wouldn't worry about it, Benz, that isn't what all women are looking for, or all swingers for that matter.
But newone is looking for someone to join him and his missus and needs something to "convice" her, so he tells us.
He might not enjoy watching it, but if his problem is convincing her, he needs to make the offer atractive to her.
Rachel
:wink:
What's the record for the most posts within a post anyway?
Rachel
:wink:
I meant quotes within a post
Quote by chick0074
How can you make your gf/wife interested in swinging or a 3 some?
Find a really gorgeous, muscular, well endowed man to join you.
She'll thank you for it
Rachel
Gee... Thanks Rachel!!! Now I definitely would never stand a chance if that was what the women are looking for!!! There's no way I could spend that much time in a gym to become that muscular!!!
I wouldn't worry about it, Benz, that isn't what all women are looking for, or all swingers for that matter.
But newone is looking for someone to join him and his missus and needs something to "convice" her, so he tells us.
He might not enjoy watching it, but if his problem is convincing her, he needs to make the offer atractive to her.
Rachel
:wink:
What's the record for the most posts within a post anyway?
Rachel
:wink:
I meant quotes within a post
No -
quotes within quotes within a post
Third time lucky
Rachel
:wink:
Quote by chick0074
How can you make your gf/wife interested in swinging or a 3 some?
Find a really gorgeous, muscular, well endowed man to join you.
She'll thank you for it
Rachel
Gee... Thanks Rachel!!! Now I definitely would never stand a chance if that was what the women are looking for!!! There's no way I could spend that much time in a gym to become that muscular!!!
I wouldn't worry about it, Benz, that isn't what all women are looking for, or all swingers for that matter.
But newone is looking for someone to join him and his missus and needs something to "convice" her, so he tells us.
He might not enjoy watching it, but if his problem is convincing her, he needs to make the offer atractive to her.
Rachel
:wink:
What's the record for the most posts within a post anyway?
Rachel
:wink:
I meant quotes within a post
No -
quotes within quotes within a post
Third time lucky
Rachel
:wink:
You sure you got it right that time, Chick???
Quote by dambuster
How can you make your gf/wife interested in swinging or a 3 some?
Find a really gorgeous, muscular, well endowed man to join you.
She'll thank you for it
Rachel
Gee... Thanks Rachel!!! Now I definitely would never stand a chance if that was what the women are looking for!!! There's no way I could spend that much time in a gym to become that muscular!!!
I wouldn't worry about it, Benz, that isn't what all women are looking for, or all swingers for that matter.
But newone is looking for someone to join him and his missus and needs something to "convice" her, so he tells us.
He might not enjoy watching it, but if his problem is convincing her, he needs to make the offer atractive to her.
Rachel
:wink:
What's the record for the most posts within a post anyway?
Rachel
:wink:
I meant quotes within a post
No -
quotes within quotes within a post
Third time lucky
Rachel
:wink:
You sure you got it right that time, Chick???
You know now I'm not so sure.
Oh well doesn't matter.
What was the original question again?
Rachel
:wink:
Quote by dambuster
How can you make your gf/wife interested in swinging or a 3 some?
Find a really gorgeous, muscular, well endowed man to join you.
She'll thank you for it
Rachel
Gee... Thanks Rachel!!! Now I definitely would never stand a chance if that was what the women are looking for!!! There's no way I could spend that much time in a gym to become that muscular!!!
I wouldn't worry about it, Benz, that isn't what all women are looking for, or all swingers for that matter.
But newone is looking for someone to join him and his missus and needs something to "convice" her, so he tells us.
He might not enjoy watching it, but if his problem is convincing her, he needs to make the offer atractive to her.
Rachel
:wink:
What's the record for the most posts within a post anyway?
Rachel
:wink:
I meant quotes within a post
No -
quotes within quotes within a post
Third time lucky
Rachel
:wink:
You sure you got it right that time, Chick???
Or should it be "quotes within posts within a qoute within a post"
Quote by chick0074
How can you make your gf/wife interested in swinging or a 3 some?
Find a really gorgeous, muscular, well endowed man to join you.
She'll thank you for it
Rachel
Gee... Thanks Rachel!!! Now I definitely would never stand a chance if that was what the women are looking for!!! There's no way I could spend that much time in a gym to become that muscular!!!
I wouldn't worry about it, Benz, that isn't what all women are looking for, or all swingers for that matter.
But newone is looking for someone to join him and his missus and needs something to "convice" her, so he tells us.
He might not enjoy watching it, but if his problem is convincing her, he needs to make the offer atractive to her.
Rachel
:wink:
What's the record for the most posts within a post anyway?
Rachel
:wink:
I meant quotes within a post
No -
quotes within quotes within a post
Third time lucky
Rachel
:wink:
You sure you got it right that time, Chick???
You know now I'm not so sure.
Oh well doesn't matter.
What was the original question again?
Rachel
:wink:
Oh - I spelt "convince" wrong.
Sod it - I'm not going through all that lot to edit it out!
Rachel
:wink:
Quote by chick0074
How can you make your gf/wife interested in swinging or a 3 some?
Find a really gorgeous, muscular, well endowed man to join you.
She'll thank you for it
Rachel
Gee... Thanks Rachel!!! Now I definitely would never stand a chance if that was what the women are looking for!!! There's no way I could spend that much time in a gym to become that muscular!!!
I wouldn't worry about it, Benz, that isn't what all women are looking for, or all swingers for that matter.
But newone is looking for someone to join him and his missus and needs something to "convice" her, so he tells us.
He might not enjoy watching it, but if his problem is convincing her, he needs to make the offer atractive to her.
Rachel
:wink:
What's the record for the most posts within a post anyway?
Rachel
:wink:
I meant quotes within a post
No -
quotes within quotes within a post
Third time lucky
Rachel
:wink:
You sure you got it right that time, Chick???
You know now I'm not so sure.
Oh well doesn't matter.
What was the original question again?
Rachel
:wink:
Oh - I spelt "convince" wrong.
Sod it - I'm not going through all that lot to edit it out!
Rachel
:wink:
Yeah. Try bringing that lot into MSWord to spell check it !!!
Can't help you with the editing. I'm off for another riding lesson to see if C's monster can dump me on my arse. I swear to God if he refuses at the last second again, I'm out the side door.
Quote by dambuster
How can you make your gf/wife interested in swinging or a 3 some?
Find a really gorgeous, muscular, well endowed man to join you.
She'll thank you for it
Rachel
Gee... Thanks Rachel!!! Now I definitely would never stand a chance if that was what the women are looking for!!! There's no way I could spend that much time in a gym to become that muscular!!!
I wouldn't worry about it, Benz, that isn't what all women are looking for, or all swingers for that matter.
But newone is looking for someone to join him and his missus and needs something to "convice" her, so he tells us.
He might not enjoy watching it, but if his problem is convincing her, he needs to make the offer atractive to her.
Rachel
:wink:
What's the record for the most posts within a post anyway?
Rachel
:wink:
I meant quotes within a post
No -
quotes within quotes within a post
Third time lucky
Rachel
:wink:
You sure you got it right that time, Chick???
You know now I'm not so sure.
Oh well doesn't matter.
What was the original question again?
Rachel
:wink:
Oh - I spelt "convince" wrong.
Sod it - I'm not going through all that lot to edit it out!
Rachel
:wink:
Yeah. Try bringing that lot into MSWord to spell check it !!!
Can't help you with the editing. I'm off for another riding lesson to see if C's monster can dump me on my arse. I swear to God if he refuses at the last second again, I'm out the side door.
Am I allowed to come back in on this little game here??? this does make pretty little pyramid patterns as well eh? Still that's my two penneth!!
Orgasminator
Quote by newone
How can you make your gf/wife interested in swinging or a 3 some?
Have you told your gf/wife that this is something that you are interested in? Perhaps if you mention it as something that you have been thinking about and leave it at that for a while, it will give her chance to think about it.
I know that since I aired my feelings to DB, it is now so much easier to let my mind wander while I am on the train to work!!!!!! You know, that 'wonder what it would be like to ............' scenario!!!!!!
I am finally doing something about it now though as I have put my name down for the party on the 31st July and am going to the NW much in August. If I don't like it, I can say that I have tried and it is not for me, on the other hand, if I do enjoy it then..............who knows :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
I wish you good luck but PLEASE do not try to force the issue - it has got to be your gf/wife's choice.
CA xxx
Sex God
In answer to your question newone you cant make her do anything shes not happy with then expect her to enjoy it.
Try talking about fantasys introduce her to the idea see how she reacts, then take it from there.
I used to work in a Swingers Club and have seen first hand wives & g/f's there under duress . It is not nice to see. and for them to experience
This has to be something she will be happy and comfortable with.
Try talking about fantasys introduce her to the idea see how she reacts, then take it from there.
I used to work in a Swingers Club and have seen first hand wives & g/f's there under duress . It is not nice to see. and for them to experience
This has to be something she will be happy and comfortable with.
Quote by Benz2502
How can you make your gf/wife interested in swinging or a 3 some?
Find a really gorgeous, muscular, well endowed man to join you.
She'll thank you for it
Rachel
Gee... Thanks Rachel!!! Now I definitely would never stand a chance if that was what the women are looking for!!! There's no way I could spend that much time in a gym to become that muscular!!!
I wouldn't worry about it, Benz, that isn't what all women are looking for, or all swingers for that matter.
But newone is looking for someone to join him and his missus and needs something to "convice" her, so he tells us.
He might not enjoy watching it, but if his problem is convincing her, he needs to make the offer atractive to her.
Rachel
:wink:
What's the record for the most posts within a post anyway?
Rachel
:wink:
I meant quotes within a post
No -
quotes within quotes within a post
Third time lucky
Rachel
:wink:
You sure you got it right that time, Chick???
You know now I'm not so sure.
Oh well doesn't matter.
What was the original question again?
Rachel
:wink:
Oh - I spelt "convince" wrong.
Sod it - I'm not going through all that lot to edit it out!
Rachel
:wink:
Yeah. Try bringing that lot into MSWord to spell check it !!!
Can't help you with the editing. I'm off for another riding lesson to see if C's monster can dump me on my arse. I swear to God if he refuses at the last second again, I'm out the side door.
Am I allowed to come back in on this little game here??? this does make pretty little pyramid patterns as well eh? Still that's my two penneth!!
Quote by CarrieAnn
How can you make your gf/wife interested in swinging or a 3 some?
Have you told your gf/wife that this is something that you are interested in? Perhaps if you mention it as something that you have been thinking about and leave it at that for a while, it will give her chance to think about it.
I know that since I aired my feelings to DB, it is now so much easier to let my mind wander while I am on the train to work!!!!!! You know, that 'wonder what it would be like to ............' scenario!!!!!!
I am finally doing something about it now though as I have put my name down for the party on the 31st July and am going to the NW much in August. If I don't like it, I can say that I have tried and it is not for me, on the other hand, if I do enjoy it then..............who knows :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
I wish you good luck but PLEASE do not try to force the issue - it has got to be your gf/wife's choice.
CA xxx
Quote by Vicky_uk
In answer to your question newone you cant make her do anything shes not happy with then expect her to enjoy it.
Try talking about fantasys introduce her to the idea see how she reacts, then take it from there.
I used to work in a Swingers Club and have seen first hand wives & g/f's there under duress . It is not nice to see. and for them to experience
This has to be something she will be happy and comfortable with.
That didn't quite work. (Iwas under instruction) If we keep going, will we get it so there's only one word at the top of the pyramid, Benz??
(Just been suggested we should take this game to a less serious thread!!
Everyone,
Thanx for all of your replies. I have obviously used the wrong word 'make'. But I was in a hurry and I use wrong words when I am in a hurry. I have edited it to convince or try to make them interested. It is not my intention to force anyone to do anything they don't like. And anyway if my wIfe/gf told me she never wants to do something as far as am concerned it is fine with me. Sex is not everything in a relationship anyway. There is no point in being in a relationship with someone if they are not comfortable asking them to do things they don't like.
Thanx for all of your replies. I have obviously used the wrong word 'make'. But I was in a hurry and I use wrong words when I am in a hurry. I have edited it to convince or try to make them interested. It is not my intention to force anyone to do anything they don't like. And anyway if my wIfe/gf told me she never wants to do something as far as am concerned it is fine with me. Sex is not everything in a relationship anyway. There is no point in being in a relationship with someone if they are not comfortable asking them to do things they don't like.
Quote by dambuster
Have you tried asking her if she has any fantasies?
It might open the door for you to talk about it. It may just open Pandora's Box !!
She mentionned once that she would like to do it with a another girl. But she said it in a joking mode, so am not sure she was implying something or not.
Quote by CarrieAnn
How can you make your gf/wife interested in swinging or a 3 some?
Have you told your gf/wife that this is something that you are interested in? Perhaps if you mention it as something that you have been thinking about and leave it at that for a while, it will give her chance to think about it.
I know that since I aired my feelings to DB, it is now so much easier to let my mind wander while I am on the train to work!!!!!! You know, that 'wonder what it would be like to ............' scenario!!!!!!
I am finally doing something about it now though as I have put my name down for the party on the 31st July and am going to the NW much in August. If I don't like it, I can say that I have tried and it is not for me, on the other hand, if I do enjoy it then..............who knows :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
I wish you good luck but PLEASE do not try to force the issue - it has got to be your gf/wife's choice.
CA xxx
CA,
Thanx for advise. Again I used the wrong word 'make'. I would never do that, anyway there is no pleasure in seeing my partner not happy.
The reason I am worried of mentionning it to her is that she might think I don't care about her. She might think am only interested in sex. Am just worried that she might get the wrong idea. She is a bit sensitive.
Quote by JudyTV
How can you make your gf/wife interested in swinging or a 3 some?
I wasnt going to reply to this post but I have decided to to so here is my answer to a question that I find rather distastful newone. I am sorry but I feel very strongly about trying to make anyone get involved with any kind of sexual activity.
How would you feel if your girlfriend or wife wanted to make you have gay sex if you was a straight male.
I rest my case.
JudyTV
Again I used the wrong word 'make'. Can't you guys forgive me for using the wrong word LOL?
Quote by newone
Have you tried asking her if she has any fantasies?
It might open the door for you to talk about it. It may just open Pandora's Box !!
She mentionned once that she would like to do it with a another girl. But she said it in a joking mode, so am not sure she was implying something or not.
Just how well do you know this woman??
How does this sound - "Hey Sue(?) remember that time you said . . . . . . . "
Only you can find the right time/atmoshere. Just an idea.
Me? I'd be happy saying it in Tesco (quietly) in her ear. But I HAVE been slapped a few times
I give you this in the hope you just simply phrased it badly in your original post :!:
i found the best way to do it was just to bring the subject up dureing a drive we chatted he was calm ((phew)) but said he did nt think at the moment he could
as in me with another man
but for some reason he could if it was me and another woman
ive got to admit i was pretty wary of even bringing the subject up with him
so go for it she can only say yes or no..........
as in me with another man
but for some reason he could if it was me and another woman
ive got to admit i was pretty wary of even bringing the subject up with him
so go for it she can only say yes or no..........
Sex God
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