All you gotta do is call.
(and depending on MSN)
I will be there, yes i will.
Thankyou Gurl, good post.
I use this forum to get what I want to get out of it, and as long as it doesn`t interfere with the forum as a whole, it has sod all to do with what anyone else *thinks* it should be used for. I also like to think I give back what I take.
Venusxxx
There's so many different types of friends . . . maybe like when you throw a pebble in a lake and the ripples spread out . . . there's close reciprocal friends, there's close friends where you both get something different (but roughly equal) from each other, there's best-est friends I'd trust with my life and vice versa, there's friends who are just on a similar wavelength and maybe we keep regularly in touch and maybe we don't.
I think friendship is a basic need, but friends can't always be the same friends for ever. One of my closest friends may be emigrating to America soon and I will miss her enormously and obviously won't be able chat nearly every day as we do now, but then I think of a past friendship like that as a jewel still in my memory and think how lucky I am to have had that experience and memory.
On SH, one of the things I think both Carol and I were looking for was simply chatting to people who are into the same hobby. It's nice to be able to share it - there's only a few non-swinging friends that I've mentioned swinging to and can talk to about it. People so far have been very friendly, but we don't really 'know' others on here in any sort of close emotional way. It's a bit like (for me) on the dance scene (I'm into modern jive and salsa) where I have lots of 'dance buddies' that are like a ripple further out on the lake to those inner close friends. There's buddies I know on one scene (dance or swinging) but when I call them 'friends' it usually implies we meet up as well for things that don't involve our 'hobby'!
Occasionally (thinking of the start to this thread) a friendship is based on a misunderstanding. In that case we have to correct the misunderstanding and move on. Never lose faith in people though - they are too precious. It's finding the people we gel with, not judging the ones we don't.
Chris
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looking forward to the Munch!
