Ok, now I am usually a very tolerant person, but I must admit that I am starting to lose a little faith with people from this site.
Last night I was let down by a couple that I had arranged to meet at an hotel. Yet again, they were "no-shows" and subsequently won't even answer the mobile!
This is the third time out of four attempts to meet with couples that has not transpired and honestly I am beginning to question the motivation of some people on here. There seems to be a hell of a lot of timewasters and its beginning to make me think about just not bothering anymore.
Ok, rant over.
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we all get no shows its just part of swinging and a part we will never get rid of, i had that many guys not show that i just stopped meeting off here and now will only meet people if i have already met them via a social or i just go to clubs, for me its just so much easier, mind you saying that my fave story isnt of a no show but i aguy that did turn up and meet me and cause i didnt want to shag him he asked for me to give him all costs he had paid including the hotel room he had already booked even tho i made it clear i never commit myself to playing with anyone till i have met them, and called me a time waster :shock:
Oh dear! Clearly didn't read the smallprint! 
Uusally I am very tolerant and I completely understand that it is going to happen occasionally, but after you have done the checks (spoken with female, made sure she's happy) and gone to the expense of the hotel, the least you would expect is an apology? "Sorry she's had second thoughts" or " the babysitter didn't show"?
Only takes two seconds???
Uusally I am very tolerant and I completely understand that it is going to happen occasionally, but after you have done the checks (spoken with female, made sure she's happy) and gone to the expense of the hotel, the least you would expect is an apology? "Sorry she's had second thoughts" or " the babysitter didn't show"?
Only takes two seconds???
Maybe there should be an etiquette sticky, which includes among other things, words to the effect of,
"if you change your mind / can't make it you should let the other party know before the event, or send an apology as soon as possible after"
I know, it's obvious - but so many people get no-shows, maybe some people feel this is acceptable.
"if you change your mind / can't make it you should let the other party know before the event, or send an apology as soon as possible after"
I know, it's obvious - but so many people get no-shows, maybe some people feel this is acceptable.
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Oh dear! Clearly didn't read the smallprint!
Uusally I am very tolerant and I completely understand that it is going to happen occasionally, but after you have done the checks (spoken with female, made sure she's happy) and gone to the expense of the hotel, the least you would expect is an apology? "Sorry she's had second thoughts" or " the babysitter didn't show"?
Only takes two seconds???
2 seconds??? maybe thats your problem :P
mrs w xx
Can appreciate whats going through your mind at the moment.
Its happened to us also...you arrange time, date, place and then no show, no phone call or even e mail contact.
I'm afraid its symptomatic of some (and its the some that tar us all with the same brush)of todays generation. Just plain rudeness or lack of thought for others. Or do they just like talking about it and bottle out at the last moment
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:doh: 
:fuckinghell:
Its happened to us also...you arrange time, date, place and then no show, no phone call or even e mail contact.
I'm afraid its symptomatic of some (and its the some that tar us all with the same brush)of todays generation. Just plain rudeness or lack of thought for others. Or do they just like talking about it and bottle out at the last moment
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Ok, now I am usually a very tolerant person, but I must admit that I am starting to lose a little faith with people from this site.
Last night I was let down by a couple that I had arranged to meet at an hotel. Yet again, they were "no-shows" and subsequently won't even answer the mobile!
This is the third time out of four attempts to meet with couples that has not transpired and honestly I am beginning to question the motivation of some people on here. There seems to be a hell of a lot of timewasters and its beginning to make me think about just not bothering anymore.
Ok, rant over.
Quote by SuperDave
Ok, now I am usually a very tolerant person, but I must admit that I am starting to lose a little faith with people from this site.
Last night I was let down by a couple that I had arranged to meet at an hotel. Yet again, they were "no-shows" and subsequently won't even answer the mobile!
This is the third time out of four attempts to meet with couples that has not transpired and honestly I am beginning to question the motivation of some people on here. There seems to be a hell of a lot of timewasters and its beginning to make me think about just not bothering anymore.
Ok, rant over.
Its not just this site, it happens on all sites
And, most people will get no-shows a some point, its part of the fun of swinging
Tony
Iread this and it brought back memories for us too... sympathies go out to you.
On another site a few years ago a similar thing happened to us.. We arranged to meet what we thought were a nice couple. We had spoken by phone mail etc for months but could never all get the timing right till this one weekend.. A bitter cold night, a fair old drive to the hotel the other couple picked (it made her more comfortable being near there home she said) We rushed like furry to make it on time the night they picked.. All seemed well.. we arrived and waited in the bar and nothing No Show.. we missed eating and the bar sold no food lol.. we had a drink so could not drive anywhere.. Nothing local to eat either oh and we had been at work all day before hand lol.. Tried to call them.. No answer.. No messages etc etc.. Went home the next day.. No messages nothing.. Then.. 3 days later an e-mail saying Hi etc… We asked what went wrong and she said she forgot.
Well revenge was soooo sweet lol.. Turned out they liked to set people up like it.. Seemed so genuine too, we were new and a little stupid but we had the last laugh... Really we did lol.
Mike xx
On another site a few years ago a similar thing happened to us.. We arranged to meet what we thought were a nice couple. We had spoken by phone mail etc for months but could never all get the timing right till this one weekend.. A bitter cold night, a fair old drive to the hotel the other couple picked (it made her more comfortable being near there home she said) We rushed like furry to make it on time the night they picked.. All seemed well.. we arrived and waited in the bar and nothing No Show.. we missed eating and the bar sold no food lol.. we had a drink so could not drive anywhere.. Nothing local to eat either oh and we had been at work all day before hand lol.. Tried to call them.. No answer.. No messages etc etc.. Went home the next day.. No messages nothing.. Then.. 3 days later an e-mail saying Hi etc… We asked what went wrong and she said she forgot.
Well revenge was soooo sweet lol.. Turned out they liked to set people up like it.. Seemed so genuine too, we were new and a little stupid but we had the last laugh... Really we did lol.
Mike xx
Hi guys
Well thanks for the replies. It may seem obvious, but I notice that all of the opinions are the same, but they are also from the main contributors to everything that goes on, on this site.
In other words maybe sticking to the people you regularly chat with and people you see around the site often is the most foolproof (and I use the phrase lightly) method?
Well thanks for the replies. It may seem obvious, but I notice that all of the opinions are the same, but they are also from the main contributors to everything that goes on, on this site.
In other words maybe sticking to the people you regularly chat with and people you see around the site often is the most foolproof (and I use the phrase lightly) method?
Sex God
SuperDave
Why not consider coming to a munch or social event, and maybe at such event you can meet and chat to others.
Why not consider coming to a munch or social event, and maybe at such event you can meet and chat to others.
Sex God
as a single female i find that sticking to the same few chat rooms helps in safety as well as reliability as you do meet the same faces as well as new ones at various events as socials, munches, parties etc. and it also gets you more invites to such things as people can see that u are genuine for themselves. some rooms seam clicky at first but with banter, humour and persistence it will pay off in the long run...... you only get out of something that you are prepared to put in
Sex God
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Hi ALL
I have already taken my first tentative steps.....
Will see you all at the Bristol Munch in November...
The Bristol social, you mean? You'll see some of us :thumbup:
But there'll be loads of us at the Nottingham Munch on 19th. January though
Sex God
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IMHO- the people who care about the forum will be the ones most likely to care how they & their reputations are perceived on here. Maybe.
Yep I think to a certain extent you have a point. I can't speak for everyone else but the forum for me is important because it gives me a window into peoples thoughts, opinions and views. Even if you are pretending to be someone you are not, after a certain amount of time you will either slip up or get bored and walk away therefore leaving a core of people who are happy to open up a part of themselves to other members of the forum. These are the ones I would most trust to make arrangements to meet and maybe more.
Love
Fire xx
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This is the third time out of four attempts to meet with couples that has not transpired and honestly I am beginning to question the motivation of some people on here. There seems to be a hell of a lot of timewasters and its beginning to make me think about just not bothering anymore.
Ok, rant over.
I think you should laugh in the face of adversity and figure that things happen for a reason! Dont get downheartened Dave, just think of the bigger picture and figure that at least you had the good grace to keep the arrangement on your part. Which, in my book, says you are a gentlemen.
Good luck in the future.
Mistress_39
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Hi guys
Well thanks for the replies. It may seem obvious, but I notice that all of the opinions are the same, but they are also from the main contributors to everything that goes on, on this site.
In other words maybe sticking to the people you regularly chat with and people you see around the site often is the most foolproof (and I use the phrase lightly) method?
hehe wrong here!, we often meet people that have never posted in the forums or been to munchies/socials.
Tony
:lol: It depends what you are after Dave. I meet people from the chatrooms... I have never 'played with' I do so hate that euphemism. I fuck people I don't play with them anyone that I have met first at a social/munch etc.
That is just the way that I do things. I go on gut instinct after watching the men/women interact with others in the chatroom. Then I send them a PM or ask to whisper them in the chatroom.. and then it goes from there.
My gut instinct has never been wrong. If I get a whiff that someone is just a bit 'off' (for off read- no chemistry with me) then I go with that. I sometimes ignore my gut 'cos the person is gorgeous and is surely perfect!!!'... and then I get stood up, it has happened 3 or 4 times or something... but that is nothing compared to how much fun I have had through just being a member here.
The munches and socials are a great thing for some people. They may work for you too. They are by no means the only way. Perhaps you should look at how much you are prepared to commit to an unknown meet in terms of finances/time?
splendid
That is just the way that I do things. I go on gut instinct after watching the men/women interact with others in the chatroom. Then I send them a PM or ask to whisper them in the chatroom.. and then it goes from there.
My gut instinct has never been wrong. If I get a whiff that someone is just a bit 'off' (for off read- no chemistry with me) then I go with that. I sometimes ignore my gut 'cos the person is gorgeous and is surely perfect!!!'... and then I get stood up, it has happened 3 or 4 times or something... but that is nothing compared to how much fun I have had through just being a member here.
The munches and socials are a great thing for some people. They may work for you too. They are by no means the only way. Perhaps you should look at how much you are prepared to commit to an unknown meet in terms of finances/time?
splendid
I've learned to live with the 'no-shows'...although there are a couple of guys from the Basildon/Southend area that continually advertise in the 'Ads' columns who have a reputation for 'avin a laugh' as we say in Essex - that is just literally b*****ing everyone up. You will notice that these people can never accomodate.....perhaps they are just wankers in more senses than one! Ah well, keep smiling, be thankful for those meets that do actually happen!
