feel bit of a fraud!!

1 May 2006

hi how is every1?
well feel bit of a fraud not got nething new/intrestin or witty 2 say redface

but would like ne advice ppl can offer. fairly new to this, well meet some nice ppl on here but also some 'odd' ppl 2.
can ne1 suggest a nice and polite way off tellin ppl ur not intrested when they wont take no as an answer?
well wont moan 2 much (have got quite a gsoh which i lose rapidly when talkin 2 some idiots ) lol.
lots of love and kisses 2 evey1,
lou xxxx kiss

1 May 2006

Quote by wxmcpl
hi how is every1?
well feel bit of a fraud not got nething new/intrestin or witty 2 say
but would like ne advice ppl can offer. fairly new to this, well meet some nice ppl on here but also some 'odd' ppl 2.
can ne1 suggest a nice and polite way off tellin ppl ur not intrested when they wont take no as an answer?
well wont moan 2 much (have got quite a gsoh which i lose rapidly when talkin 2 some idiots ) lol.
lots of love and kisses 2 evey1,
lou xxxx

yeh PISS OFF If I wanted to be nasty I say Feck off!!

1 May 2006

Can you say that again, in English, please?

1 May 2006

One thing you have to learn with swinging is how to say a straight NO when your genuinely not interested, saves a lot of confusion smile

This just ain't fair, for some reason my gif files ain't moving so i can't see Vix's boobs bouncing like normal sad

Tony !!!! get here! lol

Shaz x

1 May 2006

Well if you've already tried
"Sorry you're not what I'm looking for/not my type"
and
"I said no and I meant it"
and they're still persistent, then they're not the kind of person you want as a friend are they?
So at this point I think that "Fluck off & die" is perfectly justified lol

1 May 2006

Quote by wxmcpl
hi how is every1?
well feel bit of a fraud not got nething new/intrestin or witty 2 say
but would like ne advice ppl can offer. fairly new to this, well meet some nice ppl on here but also some 'odd' ppl 2.
can ne1 suggest a nice and polite way off tellin ppl ur not intrested when they wont take no as an answer?
well wont moan 2 much (have got quite a gsoh which i lose rapidly when talkin 2 some idiots ) lol.
lots of love and kisses 2 evey1,
lou xxxx

well you start of with a nice long polite explanation & then they gradually get shorter & sometimes rude if they havent bopthered to read your profile or just want to play with their bits & bobs online
perhaps some people here have some preset no emails they can put here as examples....hey & check out your sent emails section

1 May 2006

What HLB said.... If they still persist then report them to one of the Mods or Admin team biggrin

1 May 2006

also, try to lose the text speak, it doesn't go down very well on here.

1 May 2006

hi shaz,
problem is got talkin 2 'cpl' on here and when finalyy clicked no woman bout told him politely no he kept sendin messages askin 4 pics and phone nos so i could talk dirty 2 him. am i just gettin all the saddos or am i doin somethink wrong? sad

love lou xx

1 May 2006

Quote by wxmcpl
hi shaz,
problem is got talkin 2 'cpl' on here and when finalyy clicked no woman bout told him politely no he kept sendin messages askin 4 pics and phone nos so i could talk dirty 2 him. am i just gettin all the saddos or am i doin somethink wrong?
love lou xx

Your not doing nothing wrong at all, we all get them babe and we always will, it takes all sorts to make a site this large and you just have to take the "odd" ones with a pinch of salt biggrin

What i would do is like what Shireen said, Report him to a mod or admin and they will sort him for you, and i must say, they normally work very quickly.
Best of luck
Shaz kiss

1 May 2006

Quote by wxmcpl
hi shaz,
problem is got talkin 2 'cpl' on here and when finalyy clicked no woman bout told him politely no he kept sendin messages askin 4 pics and phone nos so i could talk dirty 2 him. am i just gettin all the saddos or am i doin somethink wrong?
love lou xx

if i were you, id stick to those adverts / profiles that show
a) a face.... even if it is obscured.
b) arent just cock shots... or look phoney or contrived
and, suggest that you want to meet up first for a drink in a busy place...... but you will only make those arrangements over a telephone........... those with nothing to hide will show their face, be prepared to give a mobile/ home telephone number and be flexible, understanding and of course talk to you over the phone as opposed to just texting or sending PM's.
finding people that are prepared to accomadate and invite you round purely to see how it goes first is also a good move. if they arent prepared to see how it goes first, they arent after anything more than a quicky and would be lost anyway about making the right moves to make sure you achieve some satisfaction out of the deal too.
Steer clear of those who say that they are nervous, or new to this sort of thing... theyre more likely to bottle out
if your under any illusion that those sort of people dont exist on the site... look no further than my good self....
As for those who harrass and are abusive...............i have a number of different tactics to deal with those.... some of which i wouldnt wish to share in an open forum as, they are very close to the bone.......... i love dealing with bullies... in the only way that they understand.... with an iron fist............PM me for details..

1 May 2006

Quote by DeeCee
Steer clear of those who say that they are nervous, or new to this sort of thing... theyre more likely to bottle out

We was all new to it at some point, if we all stayed clear of the newbies or shy people then nobody would be swinging lol

I agree to the rest though smile

Shaz x

1 May 2006

Beat me to it Shaz, if everyone did that I'd never get anywhere!
H.x

1 May 2006

Quote by Shaz_n_Tony

Steer clear of those who say that they are nervous, or new to this sort of thing... theyre more likely to bottle out

We was all new to it at some point, if we all stayed clear of the newbies or shy people then nobody would be swinging lol

I agree to the rest though smile

Shaz x
thanks for that... my point is that this is commonly known as "a tell".... where one gives away their true intentions in their actions, speech, body language etc.... "the tell" here being that they might well bottle out as their nervousness is at the forefront of their mind... as opposed to someone who doesnt
sorry it didnt come over right...........

1 May 2006

Quote by Pete_sw
also, try to lose the text speak, it doesn't go down very well on here.

wodaya mean ?
thers nowt wrong wiv txt speek ........ its u u old frt ! :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

1 May 2006

thanks sam thought i was doin something wrong again
redface

.
im gonna start being more asertive ( hope thats spelt right) god help me,
love lou xxx

2 May 2006

Quote by Pete_sw
also, try to lose the text speak, it doesn't go down very well on here.

I was thinking that. It's not as if you are charged by the word is it? wink

Honestly, think carefully about what you write on your ad and your profile...it really does go a long way. biggrin

2 May 2006

Quote by wxmcpl
hi shaz,
problem is got talkin 2 'cpl' on here and when finalyy clicked no woman bout told him politely no he kept sendin messages askin 4 pics and phone nos so i could talk dirty 2 him. am i just gettin all the saddos or am i doin somethink wrong?
love lou xx

Sadly, there are a lot of 'pretend' couples around. Though, have to say, in our experience, they do seem to 'lurk' on the chatrooms more often that they visit here (with the honourable exception of 'Janet' wink

). Perhaps you should visit here more often and get yourselves known this way..it often works. biggrin

2 May 2006

Quote by flidais-media
Sadly, there are a lot of 'pretend' couples around. Though, have to say, in our experience, they do seem to 'lurk' on the chatrooms more often that they visit here (with the honourable exception of 'Janet' ). Perhaps you should visit here more often and get yourselves known this way..it often works.

:rotflmao: :thumbup: agreed
DeeCee wrote

As for those who harrass and are abusive...............i have a number of different tactics to deal with those.... some of which i wouldnt wish to share in an open forum as, they are very close to the bone.......... i love dealing with bullies... in the only way that they understand.... with an iron fist............PM me for details..

I love dealing with bullies too - you'll often see me running round the forum like a rottweiler (hence the avatar - the Tramper day was a particularly good example lol

ops: ) and I've many times goaded abusive people (particularly now i've started venturing into the chatroom) into pm so I can play with their heads..... but your post I find......... worrying to say the least :shock:

2 May 2006

Quote by Darkfire
- you'll often see me running round the forum like a rottweiler (hence the avatar - the Tramper day was a particularly good example ops: ) :

C'mon 'ere my fave little poodle rotty passionkiss

2 May 2006

Quote by Tramper
- you'll often see me running round the forum like a rottweiler (hence the avatar - the Tramper day was a particularly good example ops: ) :

C'mon 'ere my fave little poodle rotty passionkiss

fuck off Tramper evil

:rude:

2 May 2006

Quote by Pete_sw
also, try to lose the text speak, it doesn't go down very well on here.

i agree, took me ages to read the sodding thing.
perhaps thats why they don`t understand what your telling them dunno

2 May 2006

learnt my lesson on text speak redface

but thought no meant no (did also use a few other chosen words hehe).
thanks for all the advice got to start gettin tough i suppose!!!!
any advice on changes to my profile greatfully recieved, like i said still finding my feet and dont want to offend anyone.
lots of love lou xxx