I was discussing birthdays with my better significant other. partner, spouse, other-half, her in-doors about how we feel as we get older.
I can remember my worst birthday as being my 31st. I ended up in a fight, really because i was in such a mood that I couldn't walk away from a I know really stupid. That was a while ago now thank god.
Mrs Lost is coming up to her birthday in a little while and is dreading it. She is reaching the magic 35 :shock: but for her this is not an easy time. Suffering feelings of 'its passing her by' and tbh getting a bit down on it.
I try and be as supportive and understanding as possible though I think sometimes, I don't know whether you'd agree, that the closest people are sometimes not the most effective.
How have you if you've reached 'one of those' birthdays coped. Seeking some constructive advice here guys ....
I don't think there's anything constructive to be said really - you can't exactly stop it happening or change it in any way, can you? Just a case of seeing it as one more year. The way I see it, every year older is an achievement - I'm not dead and that's the only alternative to getting to the next year. People have died an awful lot younger than the age I am now.
Spot on Niceguy..couldn't have put it any better ourselves!!!
And its right what Frecklebird said...its a fact of life..and its up to us make the most of the years we have!!
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carpe diem.
arriving at another birthday is much better than the alternative
Im 43 and having the best time of my life!!
I was upset when I got to 30, as it seemed everything was aimed at 20 somethings but i realised thats just telly and magazines , not real life.
I'm now more confident and assertive than at any time in my life, the kids are growing up and independant so I have more me time too.
I've found sexual lliberation and that guys still fancy you when you're older and have stretchmarks and love handles!! Life is good !!
I thought I done it all when I turned 18, the ignorance of youth.
Now, I realise I have only scratched the surface......Life...here I come, ready or not!!
John
I'm 52 and still up for a reasonable session. Other people I know have fell by the wayside, in terms of stamina and repeat performances. It gets to all sorts at all ages depending on mental health as well as physical.
The other day I think I miffed off my buddy by not coming. I'd already had a lovely wank that morning. So in the afternoon when we met I was able to perform for a good 2 hours but I just couldn't come off.
She did look a we bit huffy and muttered something about it as we parted. But she's a good soul and we'll think of something else for next time.
Growing older is inevitable - growing up is optional. :happy: :happy:
I have no pearls of wisdom to impart really. I'm closer to 50 than I am to 40 ... am I happy about that? Not really. But it's not because I feel particularly old (hell, in my mind I still feel 25) but because I've taken too long to learn two fundemental lessons in life
1. Don't sweat the small stuff
2. It's ALL small stuff.
There's definitely been a shift in my thinking regarding my age though ...
... years ago I used to gauge my age by how many years had passed since I left school. Now I gauge my age by how many years I've got left til retirement!! Jeeez!! How depressing!
I reached 30 very recently and I really wasn't looking forward to it at all, feeling old etc etc.
But when it actually arrived a sort of peacefulness hit me and I found myself being grateful for the life that I have and looking forward to this year ahead and all of the years ahead rather than looking behind me at what I have had in the past.
) and I'm at my happiest, sexiest, most relaxed, experimental and confident age of my entire life!
You've been messing!
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