fifty shades has nothing on me....

14 Jul 2012

Just found out last night that my sister has been sleeping with my ex husband on and off over the last 12 years (including when we were together)! :sad: :sad: :sad: Oh and they owned up that they have spent time together "slagging" me off to each other!

14 Jul 2012

Oh dear cougar! :-o Guess there are strong reasons why he's your ex, huh! As for the sister... sibling rivalry gone too far?
Hey this is your past, you've already moved on so don't let their negativity drag you down again. They've been at it behind your back for a dozen years, how come they bothered telling you now? Sounds like it is they who have the problem.
Keep your beaming smile on!
:rose:

14 Jul 2012

Thankyou pebble! Yeah I don't get why she was the ONE crying last night as if she should have the right to be upset! I always had a niggling suspicion but I chose to forget about it because I won't allow something like that to hold me back! I am just annoyed that she kept it from me aswell as feeling betrayed by her because she knows I can never not have him in my life because he is the father of my children! I think she actually told me because we are getting on really well now and I know I couldn't keep something like that to myself for that long, things like that can really eat away at you! It certainly explains her behaviour at times anyway!

14 Jul 2012

My thoughts are with you 'cougar....as pebble said, it's the other party who are troubled by this now, and it's good that you've moved on.
Now, it seems, the other party are feeling that losing you is way worse than whatever thrill they achieved earlier, hence the confession, which is a request for absolution. I can't tell you how to think, but I can tell you that being able to forgive people easily will be likely to have a positive effect on your life, and I don't mean just saying so to make someone else feel better. Anyway, it's your call, and you couldn't possibly be judged harshly no matter which way you decide to go.

14 Jul 2012

Quote by notquiteacougar
Just found out last night that my sister has been sleeping with my ex husband on and off over the last 12 years (including when we were together)! :sad: :sad: :sad: Oh and they owned up that they have spent time together "slagging" me off to each other!

nah........ thats nothing on 50shades lol

15 Jul 2012

Quote by twos_company
Just found out last night that my sister has been sleeping with my ex husband on and off over the last 12 years (including when we were together)! :sad: :sad: :sad: Oh and they owned up that they have spent time together "slagging" me off to each other!

nah........ thats nothing on 50shades lol
Well if you want more proof:
I was adopted aged 5 because I was abused and neglected too, I have the burn scars to prove the abuse too! Grew up with controlling adoptive parents and they forced me to have a termination at the age of 19... and before you ask: yes they did force me and I was 24 weeks in... then ontop of that failed marriage to a man who had a tendancy to attempt suicide on a regular basis and then after splitting with him... my youngest daughters dad used to control my life (literally) wasn't allowed out or to have a phone or to have health visitor there without him being there... I wasn't even allowed to go to the doctors on my own! And he used to beat me up!
Noo.... course.. I have nothing on Christian Grey do I?!?!! lol Oh and there's a lot more I could add... but I thought stick with just a few for now!

15 Jul 2012

Quote by skinny
My thoughts are with you 'cougar....as pebble said, it's the other party who are troubled by this now, and it's good that you've moved on.
Now, it seems, the other party are feeling that losing you is way worse than whatever thrill they achieved earlier, hence the confession, which is a request for absolution. I can't tell you how to think, but I can tell you that being able to forgive people easily will be likely to have a positive effect on your life, and I don't mean just saying so to make someone else feel better. Anyway, it's your call, and you couldn't possibly be judged harshly no matter which way you decide to go.

Thankyou! I have decided as they are already beating themselves up over it so badly.. I don't need to make them feel anything worse. More so for my sister, I don't want to ruin our relationship. As for my ex husband don't know why I expected him to be any different... he's a prick anyway!

16 Jul 2012

I don't quite see how what happens in 50 shades has much to do with a cheating sister and husband?

16 Jul 2012

Quote by notquiteacougar
Just found out last night that my sister has been sleeping with my ex husband on and off over the last 12 years (including when we were together)! :sad: :sad: :sad: Oh and they owned up that they have spent time together "slagging" me off to each other!

nah........ thats nothing on 50shades lol
Well if you want more proof:
I was adopted aged 5 because I was abused and neglected too, I have the burn scars to prove the abuse too! Grew up with controlling adoptive parents and they forced me to have a termination at the age of 19... and before you ask: yes they did force me and I was 24 weeks in... then ontop of that failed marriage to a man who had a tendancy to attempt suicide on a regular basis and then after splitting with him... my youngest daughters dad used to control my life (literally) wasn't allowed out or to have a phone or to have health visitor there without him being there... I wasn't even allowed to go to the doctors on my own! And he used to beat me up!
Noo.... course.. I have nothing on Christian Grey do I?!?!! lol Oh and there's a lot more I could add... but I thought stick with just a few for now!
No, please do tell! rolleyes

16 Jul 2012

:rotflmao::rotflmao::rotflmao: @ Mr Powers :thumbup:

16 Jul 2012

Quote by Robert400andKay
I don't quite see how what happens in 50 shades has much to do with a cheating sister and husband?

precisely my point. Fifty shades character Christian grey has far less reasons to be fucked up than me... My point being i havent let everything that happened to me affect me in a so called "fucked up" manner

17 Jul 2012

I'm reading " Great Sexpectations" by Charles Dickins lol

18 Jul 2012

move on.
i know its family but somethings you should never forgive or forget.
dispicable.

18 Jul 2012

Quote by notquiteacougar
I don't quite see how what happens in 50 shades has much to do with a cheating sister and husband?

precisely my point. Fifty shades character Christian grey has far less reasons to be fucked up than me... My point being i havent let everything that happened to me affect me in a so called "fucked up" manner
From what I have read of 50 shades it isn't that "fucked up" at least not from an SH point of view. Also the Mr Grey character seems to have been deliberately enticed into the lifestyle by sexual means.
As to yourself you are on also on here, if you do that for the either fun or the experience that isn't "fucked up", it would be however if you are doing it to prove a point, get back at folks, cheat on your BF.
As ip-man has said 'deal with it and move on' you may never forget, but if you can I would recommend forgiving.