Hi,I'm a single fem and(completely)new to the scene,considering going to Chameleons for a visit. Have read all the advice on their site and the review in SH magazine. feeling excited at the prospect and nervous all at once. Anyone got advice???
There seems to a consensus that going to a swing club can a daunting prospect, especally if you have never done so before. Feeling nevouse is natural and expected.
What got me through my first club doors about 7/8 months ago was telling myself that I did not need to take the next (physical) step if I don't want to - all I would lose would be the clubs entrance fee. Just deciding you can turn back at any time and not put pressure on yourself helps.
If you enter the club tell staff that your completely new - they are generally very helpful and professional.
I'm just getting into my grove and becoming comfortable with the swing club experience, The first time I went I ended up in such a dazed state I forgot the magazine I brought to read (it's a naturist spa as well). After going semi regularly I don't want to stop going, it's only my bank balance that stops me - I have been bitten by the bug.
As a single female I would advise you talk to other single females (or couples), since they will understand where you're coming from - hopefully one will respond to this thread so you have a friendly face to see. Being a single male myself I should be shot for giving this advice, but stay away from trying to have a sensible conversation with single males when you're needing to be put at ease in a new environment - I know that I might not be the best confident for a single female visiting a swing club for the first time x - my second brain would be acting up lol
Lots of people on this site go to Chameleons - they will be helpful to chat to.
Katie,
Looking at your 'About Me', then probably suggest a Monday night as it's bi night, or possibly a Saturday night as no single males after 7:30pm.
Mention to Chams that it's 1st time there/at a club, and they'll welcome you , show you around, explain things, answer questions, plus probably introduce you to one of rthe regulars so that you can chat with them until you want to spread your wings as the usual/expected initial nerves subside.
(We know that as part organisers of some of the socials there, we sometimes have SH people new to the club 'pointed' our way when they arrive, which we don't mind at all as remember our first visit with regulars at that time being helpful to chat with)
Also besides http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/clubs/reviews-3.html for Chams (where you've already looked), you might be interested in http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/groups/4884/ which is the 'Chams Group'(A place to let each other know when we are going, about any Parties or Socials arranged there, and to keep in touch with people you have met)
First your going to love Chameleons, but to make the entrance into the club scene easier you might want to consider going with another female, lots of the regular single girls would be happy to "hold your hand" on your first visit.
Just advertise on here and on Chameleons own site that this is what you would like and it won't take long to find someone.
I wouldn't recommend going with a single guy or a couple for your first visit, the right ones for that do exist but are few and far between so you need to get to know the scene and the clubs to help you choose the right ones.
I wouldn't recommend a Friday night for your first visit as these tend to be busy and a bit more full on, so harder for the staff to keep and eye on you, you would be safe of course but better if you can have that peace of mind of knowing the staff are watching your back. Sundays are very chilled and midweek nights (or daytimes) are quieter which might be better for you first visit. As already said Monday bi-nights are good if you want to watch (and join in) with 2 or more males playing with each other, but if that is what you want make sure the guys are actually bisexual before going to a room as a lot of straight guys also go on bi-nights.
Hi, I went for the first visit to Chams on a Sunday afternoon, not too many people around, got my bearings and chatted to lots of people but didn't play because I felt sick with nerves.
However, didn't take me long to get over the nerves as I returned the following night (Monday for bi night) and have been going ever since!
It's really up to you what you do and how far you want to go, but if you do go at quieter times the staff have more time to show you around and make you feel at ease! They are very helpful and will do that, but obviously Friday night is very busy so probably not the best night to ask the staff to help you out!
Have fun xx
Well firstly can I say you have chosen the best club (IMHO) for your first visit. I have been a cpls member for about 7 years now and I can't fault the place. And what makes the club so very good is the staff who will really make sure you are OK and of course the guests. Unlike other clubs they do seem to understand the rules and etiquettes and more importantly observe them. Only ever had one twit who was drunk and he lasted about 5 minutes.
Like others I wouldn't go on a Friday night and wouldn't choose a Monday either. It was too full on for me and my Bi friend at the time. But agree with Scubamum that a Sunday is a very good time to visit. Its quieter and more relaxed and you can have a mooch about at your leisure. Saturday is the one I would go for and as someone suggested maybe go with a lady friend off here. I never go as a single and only as a Cpl so if you do go as a single ..RESPECT! And remember no means no.
And don't worry. You will have a great experience.
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