No doubt many couples have discussed to death the `what ifs` and `maybes`, as well as the `what we are ready for`, it`s a big thing! I was wondering how it panned out for others, how they felt about their confidance, and whether the actual `happenings` were as they expected, or whether they have discovered other things which have taken them by surprise.
No doubt many of you know that we have been taking our own sweet time with it all, prefering to savour each step rather than dive straight in! (kids, money and health has played a big factor as well!)
We began by chatting in the cafe, getting a feel of the place, and then placed our ad, after a while we indulged our `exhibitionist` side by building the website.
Well we can honestly say we have no regrets about each event we have attended. Our first munch was simply us getting to know people, we were nervous, but immediately hit off with one really nice couple, you know who you are
Our second munch was a small affair, which was nice and we made good friends with a non-swinging couple, which emphasised the social aspect alone for us.
Our third munch was my big confidance boosting `self discovery moment` which rocked big time for me. Mars` was a liitle exhausted, which was a shame, but we didn`t beat ourselves up over `missed opportunities`, we learnt a great deal about there being no rush, and our own attitude about how relaxed we were becoming with the whole idea. We went to a club for the first time that night, and despite the worry of whether we`d have the balls to strip off in front of others, when it came down to it, we both did so without a flicker! It was such a relaxed atmosphere, it was more threatening than your average PE changing room. What was all the fuss about?!
We were invited to join a couple, but we were too tired! Not too nervous, not worried about saying no, simply knackered! The other couple were knackered too, so we simply went back to the hotel and nattered all night, it was great!Our final trip was to the Night of the Senses. Wow :shock: of course we chat about which rooms we would try in advance, but the reality of the approach was, I was horny, and there was a space in the `couples room`, it wasn`t about `doing it for the first time` in front of others, we didn`t sit there wondering what would happen, despite having done so in advance, I needed a shag, and I was going to get it! Halfway through I remember turning around, and seeing a guy watching us, I became much more aware of our surroundings, and the fact we were being watched, and thought to myself `wow, look at what we are doing!` , I was very aware of some of the couples just sat round oblivious chatting, and thought `hang on a minute, this is our big moment! LOOK AT ME YOU SEASONED BUGGERS!`, but the guy getting off watching us was a huge turn on, and I later asked myself if I wouldn`t be in fact interested in dogging after all! :shock:
So there you have it, lots of discoveries, lots of revelations.........
and we still haven`t shagged anyone else! Loving every damn minute of it though! :lol:
Venusxxx
and were lucky enough to be invited to a party hosted by steveg. In the lead upto the party he was very supportive and kind. He answered all of questions both sensible and daft, and generally gave us the confidence to attend. It was a year ago yesterday.
