Ok, I have to admit that I do make some harsh (but wrong) first impression judgements.
My first impression of se7endriver was formed when he put a posting on here about the bi social meet. And my impression was 'what a tosser!' I was absolutely determined not to like him, but when I met him, albeit shortly before he and the other guys went to the pub, I realised what a lovely bloke he is.
I do try really hard not to jump to conclusions about people, cos I wouldn't like to be judged by anyone until they got to know me.
jules
Real life meet and net talks are like phone talks. I think the voice and the words can confuse you somewhat because talking face to face often changes the feeling. I am quite adament in my views of people I meet, and the few I do not like for some reason are seldom mistaken. I guess it is something you have or do not.
I have always been told I make a very bad first impression. I was told that I seemed to be very 'imposing'
This was told to me by my boss would you believe. I still work for him after 23 yrs though so it can't all be bad
To be serious though. I do very often have problems with this 'first impression' but people that have come to know me have stayed with me....
MoggyM
I've got to agree with Se7endriver. meeting people on the net is so much different from meeting in real life.
I think that first impressions are based a lot on 'chemistry'. And if that isn't right, then that can give a very wrong impession about somebody.
Of course there are two types of first impression. The romantic kind, do you actually fancy somebody in the flesh after speaking to them on the net? Or the non-romantic kind, where you like a person purely because of their personality. If that is the case then meeting will probably not change anything as it is their personality you have got to know without the encumberance of physical attraction.
We are all attracted to people initially by their looks if we are looking for a romantic type of relationship. But I have personally met some gorgeous looking people who I really did not like, although I was physically attracted to them.
On the other hand, to use a better word, 'plain ' people can sometimes, and very often do have wonderful, fun personalities, and are actually very attractive people.
I have never met anybody from the forum yet, but I have formed impressions of them, and you have formed an impression of me, based entirely on what I have said.
I wonder if those impressions will hold when we meet each other in the flesh (so to speak)
Rich
If you're talking about how people come across on a forum site like this, then no, first impressions aren't reliable, but by the time you get to the third or fourth post you'll have a pretty good idea in most cases.
In real life, first impressions are much more reliable because there is communication going on at so many levels. Words, facial expression, posture, tone of voice, smell, hand gestures, maybe even telepathy. You won't always know why you trust or mistrust, or take a liking or disliking to someone, because most of that communication isn't conscious, but I reckon it's pretty accurate. I say go with your hunches.
:boo: I think it's very difficult to get away from your 'gut instinct' and I admit that I am prone to allowing my first impression to rule my judgement. This said I think it is always important to try and get to know people better as first impressions are sometimes way out!
Mrs RSAB2 xxx
I find that I trust women so much more than I do men on the net.
How crazy is that when they could be man, woman or animal?
Anyway, Hi Guys - I'm new.
Um, i dont know really - usually i'm quite impulsive, so if i dont like someone on first impression, then thats it, unless they do something to change my mind.
Since i got with Daz though, i thin, i've calmed down a bit!!
Oh Lizards are fine, and are often well educated I've heard lol x
Well I have a little story about this…. Stick with me… I'll make it as short as possible!
3 weeks back I met this girl at a bikers rally, she was to say the least worse for wear although she was not a biker herself she was just there by accident, out with another girl who was celebrating her divorce and they had wandered into this place by chance.
She was extremely nice looking, blonde, blue eyes, perfect body, maybe 10 years younger than me, etc… Although I thought a bit out of my league, I took the bull by the horns and approached her. After a while of trying to communicate with her (she was very pissed) , I got her phone number and left it at that.
On my return home I give her a ring…. To be told she has absolutely no recollection of our meeting, how did I get her number, bad time to ring, and would call me at a better time….. and so on!
Shit ! Blown out big style, I thought…. But later that day she phoned, to say she was curious and what was I like…. I told her my normal description… Bit on the large size, not an oil painting, GSH, etc… We carried on chatting and talked the next day and the next for about a week… by this time we were phoning each other six times a day, and getting into each other’s heads….
We finally decided to meet on the Saturday (remember I had seen her but she could not remember me).
To cut a long story short…. We now see each other when we can, the sex is the best ever, we have a load in common… and I said to her the other day, “you know… if you were sober and remembered me would you have seen me a second time†(going on looks / first impressions, physical attraction and all that) she said “I know it’s shallow, but probably No!â€
So what do you make of that then folks? I don’t know how long it will last but I am one happy bunny at present!
Hey, just thought, maybe I should stick to blind chicks?
Frogster
Meet first time in flesh - 75% reliable.
Meet first time in cyberspace - 5% reliable.
bad hair day and all that really, kind of got my teeth into something and was being a bit stubborn, dont tell angel i admitted being stubborn ffs!
i know with in minutes if ill like you or get on with you
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