Im a 29 year old male looking to get into the swinging scene. I am average looking , good build , healthy , non-smoker , intelligent etc etc. I am not interested in being one of those wierd single guys that harrass couples/groups at parties/clubs so I am writing this to get some advice on how to make my first tentative steps into the scene. I would not be confident enough at this stage just to show up as a single male and get into it. How do most single guys start out in the swinging scene or am I better to wait until I have a partner who may be interested in getting involved in this sort of this as well?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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M
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First Time advice please
Ok... I also consider myself a relative newcomer, having only been to one club night.
I went to a very friendly club... sat at the bar, chatted to the locals... was friendly but not pushy. Anyway, I got chatting to a couple who were also new, and spent ages having a laugh before they invited me into a room where I ended up shagging the woman as about 10 people watched through two-way glass. Was strange but good.
The point is (there is a point in here somewhere) that I didn't start chatting to the couple to get sex. I chatted because they were fun, friendly people. My advice is not to worry about sex, just remember basic social skills such as being friendly, chatting, listening to people's answers and generally being a normal person. That way even if you don't get sex, at least you'll make friends and feel more relaxed the next time you go.
That evening was good, but I did notice a lot of single men towards the end of the evening... clearly horny but lacking the confidence to just chat to people and open up. So don't be like that!
I went to a very friendly club... sat at the bar, chatted to the locals... was friendly but not pushy. Anyway, I got chatting to a couple who were also new, and spent ages having a laugh before they invited me into a room where I ended up shagging the woman as about 10 people watched through two-way glass. Was strange but good.
The point is (there is a point in here somewhere) that I didn't start chatting to the couple to get sex. I chatted because they were fun, friendly people. My advice is not to worry about sex, just remember basic social skills such as being friendly, chatting, listening to people's answers and generally being a normal person. That way even if you don't get sex, at least you'll make friends and feel more relaxed the next time you go.
That evening was good, but I did notice a lot of single men towards the end of the evening... clearly horny but lacking the confidence to just chat to people and open up. So don't be like that!
Sex God
As someone who's been going to clubs for a few years, that is good advice from Greg 
Too many single guys go to clubs thinking they are going to get a cheap and easy shag. WRONG! Well, of course, some do, but the ones that do are the friendly chatty ones, not the ones lurking in doorways being all pushy and desperate
. Treat a club night as any night out, be sociable and light hearted, and if you get a shag, it's a bonus. The desparate ones should have gone to a hooker and left the real swingers to get on with having fun.
Good luck you guys
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Too many single guys go to clubs thinking they are going to get a cheap and easy shag. WRONG! Well, of course, some do, but the ones that do are the friendly chatty ones, not the ones lurking in doorways being all pushy and desperate
. Treat a club night as any night out, be sociable and light hearted, and if you get a shag, it's a bonus. The desparate ones should have gone to a hooker and left the real swingers to get on with having fun. Good luck you guys
:lol: :lol: Thanks greg and bluexxx for the input. Im a friendly and socialable guy so should be well placed to make a successful entry into the swinging scene. Can you recommend any good clubs in the London area to go to? I have done some research and have read that ourplace4fun is a good friendly club - have you been?
Thanks again for your help
Matt
Thanks again for your help
Matt
Ourplace4fun was the place I went to... I found it on the web and made some enquiries and it turns out that it is 10 minutes walk from me.
I liked it... friendly crowd, lots of rooms and a decent crowd. When I went it wasn't that crowded and the people there were mainly in their 30s and 40s with a smattering of 20 somethings. It's a private club... very discrete with good security and welcoming owners. They don't sell booze but you can bring your own and they keep it behind the bar for you.
It's a bit pricy to join, but its a years membership and after that you only pay £20 (if you're a guy) to get in. When I spoke to the owners they said the main stumbling block was that (because it's a members club) you have to give your name and address and some people (mostly timewasters, I'd imagine) don't want to do that.
I'd recommend the place, but as I am a newbie, I can't compare it with anywhere else.
I liked it... friendly crowd, lots of rooms and a decent crowd. When I went it wasn't that crowded and the people there were mainly in their 30s and 40s with a smattering of 20 somethings. It's a private club... very discrete with good security and welcoming owners. They don't sell booze but you can bring your own and they keep it behind the bar for you.
It's a bit pricy to join, but its a years membership and after that you only pay £20 (if you're a guy) to get in. When I spoke to the owners they said the main stumbling block was that (because it's a members club) you have to give your name and address and some people (mostly timewasters, I'd imagine) don't want to do that.
I'd recommend the place, but as I am a newbie, I can't compare it with anywhere else.
