first time club help ?

16 Dec 2006

Iv been invited to a club tomorrow by a very sexy lady redface

My problem is iv never been to a club .but I must admit I have been thinking of it for some time now.
Im nervous as hell ! it feels like im going to that first munch :shock:
Unfortunately Due to other things, plus iv not met this lady yet and would rather our first meet was 1.2.1 I may not go, but I will do this in the not to distant future wink

So my question is
How is a man (single or part of a cpl) expected to act in a club?
I know this type of thread has been done before, but I cant for the life of me find the dam thing

16 Dec 2006

stay away from the Grouse an you'll be fine :thumbup:

16 Dec 2006

just be yourself......don't put on an act of any kind.....most people will see through that kind of shit straight away!

16 Dec 2006

Quote by Darkfire
stay away from the Grouse an you'll be fine :thumbup:

wize word's from a true friend :thumbup: passionkiss

16 Dec 2006

Quote by sercher01
So my question is
How is a man (single or part of a cpl) expected to act in a club?

Remember that you will be in competition with many other men.
* If you have large attributes always go naked everywhere to show the goods. If you are less well endowed then stay dressed.
* Always stay ahead of the crowd. If you see a couple or fem get up, follow them. Sometimes she may only be going to the toilet, but usually getting off a chair is the sign to the guys that she is up for it and ready - don't be last in the queue.
* There's no harm in having a few drinks to settle the nerves and loosen the tongue. Remember, what looks like a private conversation is usually just people who are shy - bring them out of themselves. They will be too shy to add much to the conversation so it's up to you to dominate it - talking about yourself usually impresses them. A few drinks will help you there.
* Some couples and fems like to flirt. They often use the "No thanks" method to keep you on your toes. That's really their way of saying "Come on, BigBoy."
* It's the women that call the shots. Always ignore the male half of the couple because they have no say in what's going off - chatting to the male is a waste of precious shagging time.
* Always view a closed door as an invitation. The people inside are really looking for someone with get up and go. They only close the door to weed out the wimpy guys. "Get in there my son."
I hope that is of some help.

16 Dec 2006

Quote by northwest-cpl

So my question is
How is a man (single or part of a cpl) expected to act in a club?

Remember that you will be in competition with many other men.
* If you have large attributes always go naked everywhere to show the goods. If you are less well endowed then stay dressed.
* Always stay ahead of the crowd. If you see a couple or fem get up, follow them. Sometimes she may only be going to the toilet, but usually getting off a chair is the sign to the guys that she is up for it and ready - don't be last in the queue.
* There's no harm in having a few drinks to settle the nerves and loosen the tongue. Remember, what looks like a private conversation is usually just people who are shy - bring them out of themselves. They will be too shy to add much to the conversation so it's up to you to dominate it - talking about yourself usually impresses them. A few drinks will help you there.
* Some couples and fems like to flirt. They often use the "No thanks" method to keep you on your toes. That's really their way of saying "Come on, BigBoy."
* It's the women that call the shots. Always ignore the male half of the couple because they have no say in what's going off - chatting to the male is a waste of precious shagging time.
* Always view a closed door as an invitation. The people inside are really looking for someone with get up and go. They only close the door to weed out the wimpy guys. "Get in there my son."
I hope that is of some help.
Classic lol

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
Jas
XXX

16 Dec 2006

yep that sounds about right!

16 Dec 2006

Quote by Mr-Powers
just be yourself......don't put on an act of any kind.....most people will see through that kind of shit straight away!

That's him boloxed then lol

they are fun places mate you will enjoy it, just relax and go with the flow.

16 Dec 2006

Quote by northwest-cpl

So my question is
How is a man (single or part of a cpl) expected to act in a club?

Remember that you will be in competition with many other men.
* If you have large attributes always go naked everywhere to show the goods. If you are less well endowed then stay dressed.
* Always stay ahead of the crowd. If you see a couple or fem get up, follow them. Sometimes she may only be going to the toilet, but usually getting off a chair is the sign to the guys that she is up for it and ready - don't be last in the queue.
* There's no harm in having a few drinks to settle the nerves and loosen the tongue. Remember, what looks like a private conversation is usually just people who are shy - bring them out of themselves. They will be too shy to add much to the conversation so it's up to you to dominate it - talking about yourself usually impresses them. A few drinks will help you there.
* Some couples and fems like to flirt. They often use the "No thanks" method to keep you on your toes. That's really their way of saying "Come on, BigBoy."
* It's the women that call the shots. Always ignore the male half of the couple because they have no say in what's going off - chatting to the male is a waste of precious shagging time.
* Always view a closed door as an invitation. The people inside are really looking for someone with get up and go. They only close the door to weed out the wimpy guys. "Get in there my son."
I hope that is of some help.

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
even im not that stupid rolleyes

now stop prattin around an answer the question proper :roll:

16 Dec 2006

If your there as part of a couple, then just act normally, you'll probably find that there is more talk about non-sexual things than sexual stuff. When your happy, take your lady into a private or public room. No-one will dive on you, they always make some sort of gesture or ask politley if they can join in. If you don't want them to just say no thanks.
If your going as single male, might want to put a note on LMU saying where your going and which night and ask if any other SH people are going. If you have someone to talk to it makes you look like one of the crowd and you don't stand out as a spare part!
John & Shel

16 Dec 2006

Quote by Geordiecpl2001
If your there as part of a couple, then just act normally, you'll probably find that there is more talk about non-sexual things than sexual stuff. When your happy, take your lady into a private or public room. No-one will dive on you, they always make some sort of gesture or ask politley if they can join in. If you don't want them to just say no thanks.
If your going as single male, might want to put a note on LMU saying where your going and which night and ask if any other SH people are going. If you have someone to talk to it makes you look like one of the crowd and you don't stand out as a spare part!
John & Shel

thank you

i wouldnt go on my own
what about if the lady im with is getting "unwanted advances " what do i do ?

16 Dec 2006

Quote by sercher01
i wouldnt go on my own
what about if the lady im with is getting "unwanted advances " what do i do ?

If the lady has been to a club before, she may be quite happy to deal with that herself.
The majority of guys will take 'no' and back off. If they don't you can have a few polite words with them that they might like to look elsewhere. What you don't need to do is turn into a cave-man and throttle some poor, pushy fella who didn't know the boundaries. Although that would be very satisfying biggrin

If you can be there with others from here, that works great because there is normally someone there not playing at that moment who can deal with the worst offenders and let you concentrate.
When I went to my first club I was really nervous but I managed to fake being relaxed and that made me feel 100% better. The main thing is don't fake that brash, pushy sort of confidence - it isn't attractive at all. (has image of fake-tanned, toupee'd, aging lothario with a chest wig and incredibly tight jeans - phteuwy, yuk)
Main thing is, go for the chat and the meeting people and let the fun/sex/rampant orgy or whatever happen naturally.

16 Dec 2006

so would i be right in saying its alot like a munch but with the sex ?
iv just read that and it dont sound right but im sure you get my meening ? confused

16 Dec 2006

View it as a munch/social but with the possibility of sex hun.... Just be yourself and everything will just fall in to place smile

16 Dec 2006

Quote by Shireen
View it as a munch/social but with the possibility of sex hun.... Just be yourself and everything will just fall in to place

ok! that helps wink

thank's Shireen hun :inlove:
anymore comments will be greatfully resived :wink:

16 Dec 2006

never been to one myself but enjoy wink

16 Dec 2006

Quote by HornyBear
Oh and get in the jacuzzi as soon aspossible as its SUCH a great way to get to know people...(I will say no more!)

Just don't swallow the water - you don't want anyone else's little swimmers :eeek:
And don't let it get into your eyes - it has so much antibacterial stuff in it (at least it should have) you'll have sore eyes for hours. biggrin

16 Dec 2006

gawd..this brings back memories of our first club venture..we wanted to go as a threesome, ie, with my mate and supplimenary stunt cock "the master" so the rules were, it had to be a friday..mixed night..it was october, but we hadn't made the halloween conection..
bearing in mind, the previous night we'd been surrounded by 15 doggers in a dark forest clearing, all baying for fanny,and waving their dicks at the passenger window, our nerves were rather frayed..walking up those stairs and along the corridor was like walking to a fate too grizzly to comprehend :cry:no car doors to lock, nor windows to raise :cry: we were greeted by the host, who assured us if we found ourselves out of our depth, we only had to call one of the staff :shock: we were warned that new couples could find the experience rather intimidating at first, especialy as the lads were prone to bouts of enthusiasm..we weren't to worry, it was a safe friendly envioronment, and we'd be made welcome..gawd, it didn't sound good..with that, he swung open the door :cry: confused

i imagined the scene in gladiator, and i too nearly pissed myself..suddenly the word "swinging" took on a new slant as i imagined a helmeted giant weilding a ball and chain beyond, ready to stove my bollocks in whilst bending mrs dirty over the nearest table and administering a hefty portion of roman candle :? . i hardly dare look..but when i did, through the smoke...the first thing i saw was a fella sat at the bar dressed like wee willy winkie :shock: lol

..the host lay a reassuring hand on my shoulder, and said "its not as daunting as it may seem" :lol: i thought "fucking hell, its obvious you've never been dogging son" lol:

17 Dec 2006

personally i wouldn't go to a club with someone i had never met b4, u just giving yourself extra worries, not only are you worried about how you should act in a club but you also gotta do a good first impression thing with this lady and you not going to be at your best while your nervours about a club :shock:
P.S ffs don't get drunk :lol2:

17 Dec 2006

Quote by naughtynymphos1
personally i wouldn't go to a club with someone i had never met b4, u just giving yourself extra worries, not only are you worried about how you should act in a club but you also gotta do a good first impression thing with this lady and you not going to be at your best while your nervours about a club :shock:
P.S ffs don't get drunk :lol2:

I've not been to a club before but this seems to be very good advice.
Mind you, if you know her well enough to go as a couple then you'll be able to observe how the singles behave and make your own judgement as to whether it is acceptable or not- I would've thought.
I've heard a lot of people say that at good clubs the staff are usually quite vigilant over people presing unwanted advances (in public I guess).
Good luck! If you do go let us know how you got on.
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17 Dec 2006

I wouldn’t say it is like a munch at all – not all of the people there have come to be social with everyone else or have a curiosity to find out who everyone else is.
If you are going with someone else – then it is more important how that person expects you to act with them rather than how everyone else here thinks you should be. Sorting out the ground rules with your club-buddy will lead to a more enjoyable evening than wondering how you should behave to interact with others.
If you have your partner for the night – focus on just that – you have a meet with a woman (unbelievable I know – but never the less), it just happens to be in a club. You shouldn’t have to be thinking about how you can and can’t behave with other as you have your partner for the evening. Anything else that happens then is a bonus and you can just go with the flow.
All clubs are different – it is better to ask someone who goes to that particular club what happens there – and if your friend has been before I would have thought they would be the obvious person to ask – unless you just wanted to let everyone here know you have a shag lined-up wink

17 Dec 2006

Quote by naughtynymphos1
personally i wouldn't go to a club with someone i had never met b4, u just giving yourself extra worries, not only are you worried about how you should act in a club but you also gotta do a good first impression thing with this lady and you not going to be at your best while your nervours about a club :shock:
P.S ffs don't get drunk :lol2:

having read all the gr8 advice iv had from friends and forum buddies i have to say i tend to agree with NN
i think a 121 meet is the way to go , get to know each other then do the club thing wink

thanx for the PMs btw :wink: