First Time Club Nerves.... Help!

19 Oct 2008

Okay, I am venturing into new swinging territory.
I need advice for my esteemed forum colleagues! :shock:
I've agreed to visit a club with a friend. I'm suddenly struck by a bad case of complete swinging-club-etiquette blankness...
I can't be the only one who is/was clueless dunno

can I?
Anyone care to enlighten me/us?

19 Oct 2008

Snap, good question as I have the same situation coming up soon.
I'm looking forward to it but not really sure of how it all works! lol
I'm all sweet and innocent!

19 Oct 2008

Depends on which club you going to, some you stay dressed and its more like a night club with dark corners. Others you go in, strip off and wear nothing but a towel or sexy dress..... but in all it is laid back and non pushy. You have a fab night where ever you go to, nothing to worry about biggrin

SWC xx

19 Oct 2008

Cheers SWC... kiss

Nervous but excited too!
And totally traumatised about what to wear!! rolleyes

19 Oct 2008

When Dave and I went to a club for the first time we chose a quieter night so that we could get a feel for the place and look around without any hassle, which is what did happen we were able to enjoy the rooms and each other...
We loved it so much that we went back the next night lol xx
But I would say go with no expections and you won't be disappointed, everytime we go to a club we never expect anything so everything that happens is good fun and can say always leave with huge smiles on our faces.
But above all go and relax and have fun.
Sam xx

19 Oct 2008

The first time we went to a club i was bricking it, went to a pub beforehand and i was throwing drinks down my neck like mad as i was convinced all the people inside would be wearing gimp masks and bondage gear etc....we walked in and to my complete horror everyone was dressed pretty much like we were smile

Relax, you'll love the experience, make sure you take time to have a look round with the club owner or someone you know, it relaxes you a lot to know your surroundings in a no pressure situation.
MrC

19 Oct 2008

I haven't been bothered about going to clubs before but I am starting to wonder what they are like. I literally live less than a quarter of a mile from one of the more popular ones but can't really go there as my regular swinging partner isn't my wife.
Is it usually the norm that people don't tend to go to ones in their local area favouring those at a safe distance.

19 Oct 2008

Thanks for the advice Samndave and Coupleseekfun

19 Oct 2008

Quote by noladreams30
Cheers SWC... Nervous but excited too!
And totally traumatised about what to wear!!

Something sexy and comfortable, definitely not something you will fiddle with over the night (experience here ;))
Is it a clothes club or a towel club?

19 Oct 2008

think it is either/or

20 Oct 2008

hi nola

we went to our first club this weekend. the one in bury. we were full of nerves and excitement and no real idea of what to expect. we arranged to meet some friends off here, and they didn't dissappoint. we just went with the flow, at first we just went for a drink in the bar all fully clothed, had a few laughs to relax us. then we went and got changed some of us wore underwear some wore a towel, it was entirely up to us what we wore, some people stayed clothed for quite a while, but most wore towels. nobody batted an eyelid when we decided to get in the jacuzzi, it just felt so natural. we swapped from the jacuzzi to the plunge pool with ease. when we decided to have a wander we just put our towels on and went. have a look at the club website and see what their policy is. but most of all don't feel pressured into anything you don't feel comfortable with. most people follow the clubs rules on no means no, we had no problems there at all. we hope you have as much fun on your first visit as we had and wish you a great night.

20 Oct 2008

Being sober works for me inmost stressful situations.

20 Oct 2008

Thanks for the advice via PM too - taking it all on board kiss

23 Oct 2008

Okay, I suddenly have complete butterflies again. redface

Help me out, the whole playing as a couple thing... (bear in mind this will be me and a - dare I use the oft over-used term - FWB) How does it work? What if one of you finds folk attractive and the other doesn't?
I may sound hopeless... I'm just having a minor panic!
rolleyes

23 Oct 2008

Quote by noladreams30
What if one of you finds folk attractive and the other doesn't?

Then its called a sympathy shag, or taking one for the team lol

Some couples I know will do this, others wont.
Either way, its best to discuss any rules or boundaries with your partner before you go.
Ian

23 Oct 2008

Quote by Ian
What if one of you finds folk attractive and the other doesn't?

Then its called a sympathy shag, or taking one for the team lol

Some couples I know will do this, others wont.
Either way, its best to discuss any rules or boundaries with your partner before you go.
Ian
:thumbup: Ian, yes. Very sensible. Talk about stuff. Hmmmm... must remember to do that and not just be all nervous and giggly!?! :doh:

25 Oct 2008

:rose:
Muchas gracias for all the advice folks.
I had an ace time - definitely recommend it. :thumbup:

25 Oct 2008

Never been to a club yet, always chickened out possibly sumat 2 do wiv a nite mare i ad, but thenn agen my hubby dusnt wanna go and i do, ow can i talk him round

25 Oct 2008

nola get in there and enjoy. Once your there things will just naturally sort themselves out and in the end you'll do what you want and no more theres never been pressure when we've been to a club. Chat up the club staff when you first go in let them know your a virgin they will help put you at ease biggrin