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I see a lot of flirting in the forums and chat...and Im a big culprit of it cos Im a right flirty girty confused wink
I often wonder *if* those people ever meet, is it the same in reality?
I only have little experience of meeting people offline... and I found because of the flirting thats gone on between you, you can capture it in person as well. Tho, not always...rally does depend on certain factors!
Anyone else feel that online flirting can work in real life? Is it the same, better or just plain online flirting with no meaning to it?
xanaisx
I think a little flirting is healthy.. to flirt doesn't always mean you will meet that person, for example if they live some 300 miles away it could make it hard for them.
I'm a self confessed flirt, I mean no harm, I find flirting sexy and when I flirt it's because I genuinely like that person. lol
Flirting is fun.
And i think it helps break the ice with someone.
But maybe some people think that just cos someone is flirting with them it means they want to jump in the sack with them. Which(sadly)is not always the case.
But, i love a bit of flirting.
Generally flirting is healthy - after all, it's a form of positive re-enforcement.
The only dangers I see, both in chat and in here. There's the possibility of both parties not being in accord as to the nature and limits of flirtation (is it an ice breaker to open up the possibility of meeting) which can then lead to disharmony.
Also continuous flirting in a public space could lead to the alienation of other chatroom/forum users.
Can be a good spectator sport though! lol
Quote by never_satisfied
Flirting is fun.
And i think it helps break the ice with someone.
But maybe some people think that just cos someone is flirting with them it means they want to jump in the sack with them. Which(sadly)is not always the case.
But, i love a bit of flirting.

wave hello mr handsome never satisfied.. you look nice (flirt flirt redface cool ) :rascal:
Quote by ukbeannie
Generally flirting is healthy - after all, it's a form of positive re-enforcement.
The only dangers I see, both in chat and in here. There's the possibility of both parties not being in accord as to the nature and limits of flirtation (is it an ice breaker to open up the possibility of meeting) which can then lead to disharmony.
Also continuous flirting in a public space could lead to the alienation of other chatroom/forum users.
Can be a good spectator sport though! lol

I disagree slightly with this UK.. only because it depends on the personalities of the readers. Jealousy I think is what you are probably suggesting and from my point of view I watch some mega flirting going on and I just laugh and it or let them get on with it, it really doesn't bother me at all.
But then I'm just speaking for myself. :lol:
Quote by jaymar
Flirting is fun.
And i think it helps break the ice with someone.
But maybe some people think that just cos someone is flirting with them it means they want to jump in the sack with them. Which(sadly)is not always the case.
But, i love a bit of flirting.

wave hello mr handsome never satisfied.. you look nice (flirt flirt redface cool ) :rascal:
Nice to see the flirting has started.
Even better is that its in my direction. :thumbup:
Thanks sweetie.
Shit!!!! flirting in the cafe, why didn't someone tell me that's what we were supposed to do? mad
I've just been hanging around waiting to flame some hapless soul. :twisted:
Right then flirting huhmmm!!!
Hi good looking
By heck you've got big tits
Fancy a quickie over the keyboard?
Yep I think I've got the hang of it now. Right lets find a hapless victim of my devestating charm :twisted: :twisted:
Quote by jaymar
I disagree slightly with this UK.. only because it depends on the personalities of the readers. Jealousy I think is what you are probably suggesting and from my point of view I watch some mega flirting going on and I just laugh and it or let them get on with it, it really doesn't bother me at all.
But then I'm just speaking for myself. lol

I agree jaymar, I would hate any idea that people here are getting jealous just because two individuals in here are acknowledging wink each other in some way here in the public forum.
Actually, after a while someone usually chimes in with "get a room you two!" or something similar. That's okay too, and pm-land can also be an amusing place to be. :wink:
Quote by jaymar
Flirting is fun.
And i think it helps break the ice with someone.
But maybe some people think that just cos someone is flirting with them it means they want to jump in the sack with them. Which(sadly)is not always the case.
But, i love a bit of flirting.

wave hello mr handsome never satisfied.. you look nice (flirt flirt redface cool ) :rascal:
Agree with both of you surprisedops: :rascal:
Quote by keeno
Right then flirting huhmmm!!!
Hi good looking
By heck you've got big tits
Fancy a quickie over the keyboard?

Keeno, I think you need to work on your technique a little! lol
Quote by Freckledbird

Right then flirting huhmmm!!!
Hi good looking
By heck you've got big tits
Fancy a quickie over the keyboard?

Keeno, I think you need to work on your technique a little! lol
Is it too subtle?
Should I be more direct?
How about "Eeee you don't sweat much for a big lass"
Quote by keeno
How about "Eeee you don't sweat much for a big lass"

:shock: Keep working! lol
Quote by keeno

Right then flirting huhmmm!!!
Hi good looking
By heck you've got big tits
Fancy a quickie over the keyboard?

Keeno, I think you need to work on your technique a little! lol
Is it too subtle?
Should I be more direct?
How about "Eeee you don't sweat much for a big lass" rotflmao :rotflmao:
You'll end up getting a clip round the ear with that one :lol: :lol:
Quote by anais
and I found because of the flirting thats gone on between you, you can capture it in person as well.
xanaisx

Ive been known to get a little carried away with flirting in the cafe, and I have such a good time doing it too :rascal: but then when I think about meeting the person in real life I always get :scared: that the real life version of me will not match/be good enough to what people expect sad
Still, I carry on regardless
It gives me a :giggle:
Louise xx
Quote by anais
Anyone else feel that online flirting can work in real life? Is it the same, better or just plain online flirting with no meaning to it?

Depends on the 'chemistry' when you meet, I reckon.
You could end up feeling really crap if you've flirted openly on forum with someone for ages and then meet them, only to wonder if they thought 'oh shit, how do I tell XXXXXX I'm not interested?' and they stop flirting with you.
I never flirt.
:P
Quote by jaymar
I think a little flirting is healthy.. to flirt doesn't always mean you will meet that person, for example if they live some 300 miles away it could make it hard for them.
I'm a self confessed flirt, I mean no harm, I find flirting sexy and when I flirt it's because I genuinely like that person. lol

you flirt never.......... bolt
:mrgreen:
I like a little flirt now and then. It's good for the soul both for you and the person you are flirting with. If I wanted to "really" get to know someone though, they would be in no doubt about it so I think I do it in a way that does'nt upset anyone.
Love
Fire xxx
I love to flirt in the forums and in chat but find it very difficult to do when face to face with a woman as I have a distinct lack of confidence in myself.
Sometimes overt flerting in chatrooms is apalling to witness. In most cases when its light-hearted it can be fun and people in the chatrooms can chat round it. Although.
In some cases where it is after a very good meet and is the 'apres' flirt. Or the 'pre' meet flirt it can be so full on with innuendo and nudge nudge wink wink between flirting members that the conversations are only comprehensible by the involved parties. Much like the single/multiple emoticon post that happens in here with the multiple layered quotes.
For example:-

A says "you remember that night!!!"
B SAYS :shock:
A says ohhhhh yes lol
B says banghead
A says "wait til the next one,,,,, :twisted:
B says "you wouldn't" bolt
A says :evil2:
B says smackbottom :lol::lol::lol:
And so it goes on.........
This is fine for a while but in my opinion can go on far too long and interrupt a half decent post.
In the chatroom likewise it can be so exclusive as to leave people feeling a bit bewidered and in some cases dejected about their time in chat. Granted it needs effort from any parties to chat in chat.
I personally try to not leave anyone out of conversations as i enjoy the banter and the 'general' flirtation. Although at times flirting can go far too far and come across as - na nana na na we are meeting oh look aint we clever f*ck the rest of you.
footnote
I think i probably flirt. Although, not in a typical fashion i would say. And..... I have no interest in shagging anyone else other than the Mrs. And J (Mrs)flirts massive in chat at times but on meeting J is as sht as they come ....until wink
I love flirting in general; it's a sort of foreplay ... might lead somewhere!
But I couldn't do it in public ... not after the initial exchange or two ... so I'm unlikely to upset anyone here! lol
Quote by Lost
Sometimes overt flerting in chatrooms is apalling to witness. In most cases when its light-hearted it can be fun and people in the chatrooms can chat round it. Although.
In some cases where it is after a very good meet and is the 'apres' flirt. Or the 'pre' meet flirt it can be so full on with innuendo and nudge nudge wink wink between flirting members that the conversations are only comprehensible by the involved parties. Much like the single/multiple emoticon post that happens in here with the multiple layered quotes.
For example:-
A says "you remember that night!!!"
B SAYS :shock:
A says ohhhhh yes lol
B says banghead
A says "wait til the next one,,,,, :twisted:
B says "you wouldn't" bolt
A says :evil2:
B says smackbottom :lol::lol::lol:
And so it goes on.........

This is fine for a while but in my opinion can go on far too long and interrupt a half decent post.
In the chatroom likewise it can be so exclusive as to leave people feeling a bit bewidered and in some cases dejected about their time in chat. Granted it needs effort from any parties to chat in chat.
I personally try to not leave anyone out of conversations as i enjoy the banter and the 'general' flirtation. Although at times flirting can go far too far and come across as - na nana na na we are meeting oh look aint we clever f*ck the rest of you.

Yup - it's a form of showing off that aims to exclude people not involved as much as it is to flirt.
We see it on the forums sometimes with certain groups of friends after munches and the suchlike.
That said brief allusions can be fun but they're best left for the GFZ.
'Ere matey are you thinking of forming a coalition government with all those colours?
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Quote by MikeNorth
Actually, after a while someone usually chimes in with "get a room you two!" or something similar. That's okay too, and pm-land can also be an amusing place to be. wink

That's interesting that is.
Somehow flirting in public - in the forum for example - can usually be taken as lighthearted. This can be very useful (essential even) if the relationship with the other person is new and undeveloped. It is a good way of testing the water, so to speak.
If it goes to PM then it is inevitably going to be taken as more serious and full-on. This might be difficult if either of you are uncertain.
However, as Mike says, there is a point when it should be taken to PM and that point is sometimes obvious to everyone except the two protagonists! lol
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Quote by Ukwineman
I think a little flirting is healthy.. to flirt doesn't always mean you will meet that person, for example if they live some 300 miles away it could make it hard for them.
I'm a self confessed flirt, I mean no harm, I find flirting sexy and when I flirt it's because I genuinely like that person. lol

you flirt never.......... bolt
:mrgreen:
Oh yes.. and they know who they are! :rascal:
Quote by Lost
Sometimes overt flerting in chatrooms is apalling to witness. In most cases when its light-hearted it can be fun and people in the chatrooms can chat round it.

I agree with you Lost...it can so exclude others!
I do like a good ole flirt in the chatrooms tho... and its even better if everyone joins in and has fun with it!
I do think it can give the wrong impression from me especially tho... as some see it as a *come on* and I dont intend it to be that. Its just plain good old fashioned flirting and inuendo's....... I love inuendo's and good one liners! :lol2: :lol2:
Quote by anais
Sometimes overt flerting in chatrooms is apalling to witness. In most cases when its light-hearted it can be fun and people in the chatrooms can chat round it.

I agree with you Lost...it can so exclude others!
I do like a good ole flirt in the chatrooms tho... and its even better if everyone joins in and has fun with it!
I do think it can give the wrong impression from me especially tho... as some see it as a *come on* and I dont intend it to be that. Its just plain good old fashioned flirting and inuendo's....... I love inuendo's and good one liners! :lol2: :lol2:
but anais i thought you fancied me!! :cry:
yeah youre right flirting is a bit of fun, in terms of alienating others, i guess its up to people to get involved isnt it...if they dont wana flirt, they dont have to...sometimes though it can lead to people misreading signs...i am very bad at that..so if you ever even say hi then i wil probably think im in love with ya!!
redface
(Jay...i flirt with you for a reason... :P )
Quote by aj1980
Sometimes overt flerting in chatrooms is apalling to witness. In most cases when its light-hearted it can be fun and people in the chatrooms can chat round it.

I agree with you Lost...it can so exclude others!
I do like a good ole flirt in the chatrooms tho... and its even better if everyone joins in and has fun with it!
I do think it can give the wrong impression from me especially tho... as some see it as a *come on* and I dont intend it to be that. Its just plain good old fashioned flirting and inuendo's....... I love inuendo's and good one liners! :lol2: :lol2:
but anais i thought you fancied me!! :cry:
yeah youre right flirting is a bit of fun, in terms of alienating others, i guess its up to people to get involved isnt it...if they dont wana flirt, they dont have to...sometimes though it can lead to people misreading signs...i am very bad at that..so if you ever even say hi then i wil probably think im in love with ya!!
redface
(Jay...i flirt with you for a reason... :P )
Awwweeee Aj, I fancy many things in life...wink lol
I think when its between two/three people etc it can excude others and anyone coming into the room would find it diffcuilt to join in the chat if they wanted to as it can hog the screen!
I also like to flirt in the forum as some may have noticed :grin: surprisedops:
Yet, I do often wonder if I give the wrong impression to people cos I am a flirty girty...and try to have fun with it! Certainly cheers me up when peeps flirt with me... I hope it does the same for others?
xanaisx
I'm rubbish at flirting - I don't post enough to have attempted to flirt with anyone on the forums and I struggle with it in real life. I also never realise someone is flirting with me and if it does dawn on me I go all shy and don't know what to say - I think I'm a lost cause biggrin
I realised yesterday how much I flirt... confused :?
I called my gas tank supplier to arrange a delivery and he said *I'll just get you up on the computer a mo!!* The convo went down hill quickly! lol :lol: