granted.......but i`m talking if someone has replied then chances are they`re going to be on again, if not at the time, or if they speak to you in a chatroom....i`m only guessing, but there`s every chance they`re there? I`m just saying it`s nice to be important but more inportant to be nice.
I can only talk for myself of course but if i say hi to a single female for e.g it doesn`t automatically mean i want to fuck her at all, it mearly means i`m saying hello. obviously it`s more to do with replying to emails etc as, like you say, if you responded to every "hi" you got in a room you`d be at it all night. I didn`t meant to start a war here, I just think as the title said it`s something to think about.
I understand and agree with everything you`re all saying, I`ve been using this and other sites for some time so I have a fair understanding of how these things work. I know it sounded and was posted as a rant and it`s good to hear other`s thoughts on the subject.
Yes I do only reply to the exact criteria requested by the advertiser etc etc etc and it would help greatly if others did likewise and i`m sure you`d all agree there. I know nice isn`t always what`s wanted, but when i say i`m "nice" i mean i`m a decent and genuine guy, but of course i am competing with loads of peeps that just ain`t what they say.
I know excactly where you're coming from .....
Especially when you take the time out to compose what you believe to be an interesting and meaningful message...... only to see that it's been read - But you don't even get a polite 'no thanks'
I felt the same when I first started here a good while ago...
After all ----- how come they can't even say 'no thanks'!
My thinking changed when I was at a ladies house (that I met through here--- it does happen eventually....lol)
She actually showed me her in box........... I was completely gobsmacked to say the least!!!!!!!
She must have had over 100 messages.......... and many were not appetising in the subject line ...... so I would certainly not have opened them all.
She was honest enough to admit that she would delete the vast majority....read a few and then Maybe reply to one or two
So now I never let it get to me if I'm 'ignored'........... as I no longer think I am being.....it's just that there are only so many hours in a day for the people I send mail to ..... and today it's not my turn to be replied to......lol
I don't wish to sound negative - and I am only talking from personal experience.
But if I get a cut 'n' paste one-liner or somebody who obviously hasn't read my profile before messaging me, I don't reply anymore. My reason is that these type of people tend to see the thanks but no thanks reply as an 'in'. An excuse to try again by replying because you replied to them.
* Disclaimer: Yes I know I shouldn't make sweeping statements and I know I'm not going to get it right every time.
I`m just happy I was able to bring so many cool peeps together for a natter lol good to know I`m not the only genuine person on here.......right.....What`s the meaning of life? Discuss! lol