“Give me not a man who will stand up to his enemies, but give me a man who will stand up to his friendsâ€
Abraham Lincoln.
I heard this again today and thought, with regard to on the forum, would you?
yep i would ..then again maybe thats why my list of friends keep shrinking ...
matt
Yes but then I do love a good argument - most people seem to pussyfoot around a lot and its only when you get them a bit steamed up on a subject that they really start to express honestly held views. Ultimately I have my own opinions which I will present and defend but, as quite often happens, someone points out that my opinions are incorrect or invalid or just plain wrong because of ABCDE then that's great and I feel I've been educated and had my mind opened.
With friends I actually find it easier to have a ding dong because we all know each other so well that no offense is ever taken and passion in a point of view is accepted as just that.
No pussy-footing here...we spit it out and expect the same back.
True words never harmed no friendship. If it does, it never was.
a real friend will be able to take a point of view and, whilst they may not like it, will never hold it against you (or not for long anyway).
I've discovered this over the last 2 years, my girl is very opinionated and she had words with a friend of ours (quite strong words too!) yet it was forgotten about within minutes and they carried on as if nothing had happened. I have other acquaintances (?) who would have really fallen out over it.
Remember you CAN pick your friends, and the real ones stick together...