from the heart

26 Sep 2005

well here i go. i am here to enlighten you all about what i am here for and why
iam a straight 35 yrs old man from sunny norfolk who is in a relationship that has hit a few rough patches, i am very open about my lifestyle which is very good to me and i am going out of my mind looking for that extra companionship and openess.
i love to spend my quality time with educated and interesting people, i love chatting about almost everything. i love the thought of being around people who have not holdups.
iam honest, well behaved and will always hold respect with straight forward people, i dont like fools or bull shitters.
to me the most important thing in meeting swingers and ladies with open relationships is that what ever happens its not complicated.
so with this in mind i hope that i have not offended anyone
adey

26 Sep 2005

one would like to know if you have been "open" with your partner about telling her about your request???
dargento

26 Sep 2005

yes i have spoken to my partner about this lifestyle and as far as she is concerned she has no objection to me seeking my fantasy,
as for her anticipation she feels that this life style does not suit her and is more then happy for me to explore and experiment.
so the answer is yes she is fully awear of my actions

26 Sep 2005

i have to say that's pretty understanding of your partner to stay home and have no fun whilst you do. Mind you...depends on what your fantasy is :shock:

26 Sep 2005

we have a very open and understanding relationship,
its just the way we are i suppose

26 Sep 2005

very understanding indeed adey.....
infact....from a single guys perspective she is a godsend.....
read through your posts and you have her support in dogging......meeting singles....couples.....
does she have a sister who is as easy going.......
a bit of advice adey.....
remember that not only me can access all your previous mails......remember also that you asking people to trust your intentions......
in your latest post you say you have had no success but in a prior 1 you have share a car with a couple and had "good" success whilst dogging....
im a single male myself and ive read it.....all the single ladies and coules will do the same...
good luck
dargento

26 Sep 2005

Quote by fluffer
i have to say that's pretty understanding of your partner to stay home and have no fun whilst you do.

I don't recall him saying she didn't have any fun at home, merely that she doesn't fancy joining him in this lifestyle.
Maybe she gets all the fun she needs in other capacities confused

T-J

26 Sep 2005

Quote by adeymull
we have a very open and understanding relationship,
its just the way we are i suppose

that's really good to hear. There's so many people together with people they love dearly but cant follow the exact same path as them sexually. If your partner is at least open and understanding about everything, maybe invite her along to a munch with you so she can at least see how nice everyone is. That way she may feel slightly involved without getting involved if you know what I mean... and you never know, she may fancy taking things further. But if not, at least she can see you arent away with nutters (well, apart from the very obvious nutters who frequent these boards that is). Mind you, if she just doesn't want to know then fair enough, but maybe worth a try?
edit..ah, have just realised you are more interested in dogging.. do many doggers come along to SH munches or do they have their own? I can imagine hasty meets at service stations.. ahhh reminds me of the old days chasing 80's "rave" parties in fields. MMmm I may have to venture out of the Cafe for once!

26 Sep 2005

nah you keep it in here......this place is always in need of a damn good fluffing :happy:

26 Sep 2005

Quote by dargento
nah you keep it in here......this place is always in need of a damn good fluffing :happy:

well i'm regularly to hand if fluffing duties are required.
Always happy to help.

26 Sep 2005

Quote by adeymull
yes i have spoken to my partner about this lifestyle and as far as she is concerned she has no objection to me seeking my fantasy,
as for her anticipation she feels that this life style does not suit her and is more then happy for me to explore and experiment. so the answer is yes she is fully awear of my actions

With an understanding woman of yours, you're a lucky man, just remember that. The fact that you're not going to do it secretly but with the blessing of your partner gets my respect on how relationship should be. You know, no one should get hurt.
As your partner, however I would have one condition. I would expect you to come back to me as 10, 20...times better lover. They say an affair can sometimes spice up a marraige etc. and I'd be inclined to release my man willingly for that sort of outcome. Hehehe.....just my thoughts. wink

26 Sep 2005

Myself and G have that kind of open relationship. We were talking openly over a meal at the begining of last week and although it took me a while to get him to spit it out - he said he wanted to try swinging.
It took a few mins to get him to tell me what he wanted - he is normaly shy and he was a bit worried about my reaction, he thought I'd slap him rolleyes

To be honest, at first I wasnt sure about it but was willing to give it a go for him and if I am totally honest am still not too sure about it now. But thats ok because I know whatever happens and who-ever we get to meet up with as soon as it feels uncomfortable it is ok to stop. smile

I like having fun and am getting used to the idea now biggrin

For me its a case of taking it a step at a time and finding whats comfortable and whats not .. then building from there.
I think it is great you have an open and honest relationship with your partner - there isnt many people like that.

26 Sep 2005

does anyone fancy a chat

27 Sep 2005

iam still looking so be bold and come and have a chat with me

27 Sep 2005

Locking this as this isn't the Lets Meet Up forum.