So I have a new girlfriend and she hasn't sucked my cock yet. Been seeing her two months. I like having my cock sucked. I also like licking pussy. Whenever I start to lick her out she stops me. She has only let me do it once when we were really drunk.
What is the best way to broach the subject. I don't want to put pressure on her but this is something I enjoy.
Should I just straight out
"Hey baby, how do you feel about oral sex?"
Any thoughts as to why she might not blowing my love trumpet? Repressed?
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if you say straight out " will you sucky my cock" and she is a bit worried it will totally throw her.
much better to guide her towards it during forplay,
taking note - if she seems to tense up .
if she does knock it on the head (excuse the pun
) as no one should feel pressured to do something they dont like,
much better to guide her towards it during forplay,
taking note - if she seems to tense up .
if she does knock it on the head (excuse the pun
) as no one should feel pressured to do something they dont like, Yeah, I am going to have to end the relationship if we don't get this worked out because this is important to me.
At the same time I don't want to put that pressure on her. Like suck my cock or you are dumped.
I have done the whole steering during foreplay...but I end up with a well kissed stomach and not much else.
Time to talk then.
Why do you guys think she doesn't like being licked. Surely all girls like that. I have been told by a previous girlfriend that I was the best ever (yeah, I know, bet she says that to all the guys!)...but I haven't even had a chance to impress here.
At the same time I don't want to put that pressure on her. Like suck my cock or you are dumped.
I have done the whole steering during foreplay...but I end up with a well kissed stomach and not much else.
Time to talk then.
Why do you guys think she doesn't like being licked. Surely all girls like that. I have been told by a previous girlfriend that I was the best ever (yeah, I know, bet she says that to all the guys!)...but I haven't even had a chance to impress here.
Sex God
Quote by hateitorloveit
Why do you guys think she doesn't like being licked. Surely all girls like that. I have been told by a previous girlfriend that I was the best ever (yeah, I know, bet she says that to all the guys!)...but I haven't even had a chance to impress here.
she proably does not like being licked as she knows you will expect the favour returned!
this is probably enough to tense her up completely and put her off any enjoyment she might have had.
i agree that you should dump her, as you cant have much of a relationship if you would consider finishing with her just because she does not like a certain sex act!
Sex God
Quote by hateitorloveit
Yeah, I am going to have to end the relationship if we don't get this worked out because this is important to me.
I think you should tell her that now. She needs to know what the relationship is based on so she can make an informed decision about whether to stay with you.
Quote by hateitorloveit
Yeah, I am going to have to end the relationship if we don't get this worked out because this is important to me.
At the same time I don't want to put that pressure on her. Like suck my cock or you are dumped.
I have done the whole steering during foreplay...but I end up with a well kissed stomach and not much else.
Time to talk then.
Why do you guys think she doesn't like being licked. Surely all girls like that. I have been told by a previous girlfriend that I was the best ever (yeah, I know, bet she says that to all the guys!)...but I haven't even had a chance to impress here.
Can i just be nosey and ask how old she is?
If shes still quite young maybe she hasn't has enough experience to know what she does and does not like yet, i know when i was young i found sex very embarresing and didn't like the though of someone down there looking at my bits
i think liberation comes with age
If shes more mature well then shes just plain odd lol
Maybe she's just not into oral sex not everyone is, i know a woman who don't like guys going down on her cause she likes kissing and woudn't kiss a guy after hes been down on her
i know i know takes all kinds lolGuess the only real way u will know is by asking her
Sex God
Quote by Ice Pie
Yeah, I am going to have to end the relationship if we don't get this worked out because this is important to me.
I think you should tell her that now. She needs to know what the relationship is based on so she can make an informed decision about whether to stay with you.
i agree.. the poor girl needs to buck up her ideas if she wans to hold on to someone as considerate as you!
Things are going well. I do really like her.
Just that I had a 4 year relationship with a girl and she ended up stopping going down on me all together. Since I have been single I have had the chance to see a lot of different women and I have been re-discovering just how great great head is.
I don't want to go back to not getting it.
Just that I had a 4 year relationship with a girl and she ended up stopping going down on me all together. Since I have been single I have had the chance to see a lot of different women and I have been re-discovering just how great great head is.
I don't want to go back to not getting it.
Quote by hateitorloveit
So I have a new girlfriend and she hasn't sucked my cock yet. Been seeing her two months. I like having my cock sucked. I also like licking pussy. Whenever I start to lick her out she stops me. She has only let me do it once when we were really drunk.
What is the best way to broach the subject. I don't want to put pressure on her but this is something I enjoy.
Should I just straight out
"Hey baby, how do you feel about oral sex?"
Any thoughts as to why she might not blowing my love trumpet? Repressed?
Well, as she doesn't like you going down on her, she's likely got a hang-up about oral sex in general. Some folk just think it's unhygienic, some don't like the idea of sucking/licking an organ that passes urine, and some are plain embarrassed. Some folk don't like the subdom aspects of it, which IMO can be a particular worry for women as cocksucking can be seen as a submissive activity - it's no accident that "cocksucker" is such a strong insult. As we all know on here oral 's the bee's knees, and IMHO particularly for women who get so much more from it than us inadequate males, but the SH crowd isn't (sadly) representative of general sexual attitudes.
In your position, I'd forget getting yourself blown by her for the near future at least, and concentrate on helping her feel comfortable with her own body and sexuality. That means taking your time with her, loads of touching (all over, not just erogenous zones) and foreplay, relaxed atmosphere, and not putting any 'goal-oriented' stress on yourselves. If she can really let herself go then she'll probably lose her inhibitions about you going down on her, and only after she gets to enjoy being licked out will she fancy blowing you. What will definitely not work, IMHO, is putting any pressure on.
Just my 2 Euro's worth.
Mr Licks (yep, it's my favourite activity, too)
Sex God
Quote by hateitorloveit
Just that I had a 4 year relationship with a girl and she ended up stopping going down on me all together.
Did you ask her why she stopped?
The sub-dom side is interesting. Never thought of it like that.
I am VERY dom. I am in charge. I am the leader. Most girls I have been with have liked that.
However, in this relationship we are both 'leader' types who like being in charge.
It is actualy quite hard to imagine her sucking my cock. Probably because of the submissive side to it.
Re: Me being inconsiderate. I am sorry if it came across as that. I have high standards. A great sex life is important to me. If early on in a relationship I can see that the dynamic is not there I will end it so we can both get on with our lives.
I am VERY dom. I am in charge. I am the leader. Most girls I have been with have liked that.
However, in this relationship we are both 'leader' types who like being in charge.
It is actualy quite hard to imagine her sucking my cock. Probably because of the submissive side to it.
Re: Me being inconsiderate. I am sorry if it came across as that. I have high standards. A great sex life is important to me. If early on in a relationship I can see that the dynamic is not there I will end it so we can both get on with our lives.
Quote by hateitorloveit
Yeah, I am going to have to end the relationship if we don't get this worked out because this is important to me.
At the same time I don't want to put that pressure on her. Like suck my cock or you are dumped.
I have done the whole steering during foreplay...but I end up with a well kissed stomach and not much else.
Time to talk then.
Why do you guys think she doesn't like being licked. Surely all girls like that. I have been told by a previous girlfriend that I was the best ever (yeah, I know, bet she says that to all the guys!)...but I haven't even had a chance to impress here.
well if your going to end the relationship just cos she wont suck your cock shes better of with out you.
sorry but you cant care anough about her if thats what would end your relationship.
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Quote by hateitorloveit
"Can I be nosey and ask how old she is"
She is 23 or 24. She has had a couple of long term relationships so pretty experienced.
just cos shes had a couple of long term relationships doesent mean shes pretty
experienced.
i was in a 12 year marrage and i wasent experienced at all.
i diddent suck cock has you call it till i was 38 cos i though yuk lol
now i love doing it, and love to be licked too.
just take things slow and let here do things in her own time.
you might be surprised
Quote by hateitorloveit
Just that I had a 4 year relationship with a girl and she ended up stopping going down on me all together.
Sounds to me that there maybe something wrong with you and not them.
Besides if you base a relationship on making sure you get a BJ out of it,she would be better off without you!
I used to date a catholic girl a few months back. Lovely girl. We couldn't use condoms so we always used to finish with the money shot in the mouth.
Ahhh, great times. So maybe it is true about catholic girls!
Interesting to hear about your conversion Caithlin - what turned you on to the joy of giving head?
Ahhh, great times. So maybe it is true about catholic girls!
Interesting to hear about your conversion Caithlin - what turned you on to the joy of giving head?
da67ve - cCan I ask you people not to contribute to this hread if you have nothing positive to say. As I have previously stated in an early stage of a relationship I get to know someone and work out if we are compatible. If I feel that important things are missing then I will move to on to the next relationship. Better for everyone!
Quote by hateitorloveit
da67ve - cCan I ask you people not to contribute to this hread if you have nothing positive to say. As I have previously stated in an early stage of a relationship I get to know someone and work out if we are compatible. If I feel that important things are missing then I will move to on to the next relationship. Better for everyone!
excuse me ....I'm not being negative,just giving you an honest opinion,just because you don't like what you hear doesn't mean we can't say it!!
Quote by hateitorloveit
da67ve - cCan I ask you people not to contribute to this hread if you have nothing positive to say. As I have previously stated in an early stage of a relationship I get to know someone and work out if we are compatible. If I feel that important things are missing then I will move to on to the next relationship. Better for everyone!
I do agree with you there, if you start to see someone and after a few weeks your not happy with something it is best to leave them than try and work round the problems and be unhappy but even so u have been together 2 months and when i asked how old she was u said 23 or 24 sorry but i can't get over that lmao
Sex God
Quote by naughtynymphos1
Yeah, can't remember her exact age! Ha ha. Oops. Will ask her next time I see her.
if i had been seeing u for 2 month and after that time u asked my age i'd smack u in the gob m8 lmao
then he would have to post a thread on the forum asking if he should stay with you!
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: I was the same i didnt start doing it until i was in my mid thirties with my husband.
twelve years of marrage 3 kids and i didnt like it yuk
have a bath together let her see and smell that its spotless and then try.
maybe she is afraid its not clean enough.
Us girls are funny, i really like giving it now it tastes gourgeous until the end
lisan
twelve years of marrage 3 kids and i didnt like it yuk
have a bath together let her see and smell that its spotless and then try.
maybe she is afraid its not clean enough.
Us girls are funny, i really like giving it now it tastes gourgeous until the end
lisan
Quote by well_busty_babe
Yeah, can't remember her exact age! Ha ha. Oops. Will ask her next time I see her.
if i had been seeing u for 2 month and after that time u asked my age i'd smack u in the gob m8 lmao
then he would have to post a thread on the forum asking if he should stay with you!
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol::laughabove: :giggle:
Sex God
Hateitorloveit, do you possibly have a problem. body odour, cleanliness, too hairy? You said that your other girlfriend for 4 yrs stopped doing oral sex and this girlfriend, who you still dont know the age of, wont do it. Have you ever thought that maybe you are the problem? Sorry if it sounds a bit harsh, but the only common factor with your two girlfriends, who dont like oral sex, is you.
Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Hateitorloveit, do you possibly have a problem. body odour, cleanliness, too hairy? You said that your other girlfriend for 4 yrs stopped doing oral sex and this girlfriend, who you still dont know the age of, wont do it. Have you ever thought that maybe you are the problem? Sorry if it sounds a bit harsh, but the only common factor with your two girlfriends, who dont like oral sex, is you.
Be careful there.....he didn't like the fact he maybe the problem!
