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How can I persuade my woman that she should take the plunge and experience what is on offer?
She is 32 about a size 12 and has 40EE (awesome surprised breasts). She loves playing with herself while I watch and has mentioned that she would like to have two men sorting her out! But she won't do anything about it! I am a straight bloke but would be willing if there was a couple involved. I think that would make her feel easier too.
Any suggestions?
Zak
Dont push your woman into it other wise your relationship will fall apart, leave her to take the plunge and both of u look at the net adds etc
other wise leave it other wise u will b one of the single guys
ps i was the one i asked my hubby to start swinging so there is a god lol
take your time and have fun gingerjo xxxx
How can I persuade my woman that she should take the plunge and experience what is on offer?
Bad move - if she has to be persuaded you will both end up FUBAR.
First - be sure you understand the differences between her fantasies and what she WANTS to do. The fact that she enjoys the fantasy of two men does not mean that she would enjoy it happening.
Second, be sure about what you want
I am a straight bloke but would be willing if there was a couple involved.
Willing to what?
Sound advice would be to spend time exploring your fantasies in a bit more depth so that you are clear about what turns each other on.
Only then you can start to ask whether or not you should actually do something about it.
Kat
Hi Zak,
Zak it's important your partner feels in total control of the situation. All we men need is a hardon and we're ready to go. I succeeded in getting my partner involved by reassuring her, placing zero pressure on her and acknowledging at every stage her control over the process and that there would be no problem if we didn't swing.
We have still yet to swing, but after meeting a very sensitive guy for drinks only we r looking forward to him visiting our place this weekend. While all 3 of us have high hopes, it is still 'officially' just for a social meet.
You got to be very patient, not pushy and mean it when you say there would be no problem if your partner decides against it. Otherwise there is very good chance u could end up a single guy on this site.
Hope it all works out for u.
Billy
Take the warnings and advice from those who know.
Never push.
Stop when she says stop
Give her ALL the control
smile
Hi Jags (MY ANGEL OF THE NORTH)
Good words.
This is a danger area if handled wrong.
My wife does not swing at all now and I put no pressure on her at all.
She knows I go dogging and swinging and have affairs when away but we have an open marriage I love her and would not force her to do anything.
Result= happy, married and spending the night in together tonight.
Love you as always.
Sandie
Sandie. Sandie baby...
enjoy your night tonight!!
x xx
Hi Jags
Thanks looking forward to it.
My first night in and not travelling first time in three weeks.
Home is where the heart is.
Have a great weekend and chat next week.
Sandie
kiss :kiss: :high-smile:
Zak, you can't push anyone into this (not legally or morally) so don't try - you either swing or you don't - simple as...
OK, here's my testimony...
When I met Mr BlueEyes, he was a single male on the swinging scene but I didn't really know anything about it. However, a chance conversation one night opened my eyes and got me interested.
We've been swinging ever since and have had a lot of good times but that's because we are both happy about what we are doing.
If that conversation had never happened, I doubt I'd even be on this forum, no amount of persuasion will bring someone to be happy with something they are not at ease with.
To all of the above,
THANKS!!
I will heed your words of wisdom and take it very slowly...
Love,
Zak