All depends I guess - Sex in a relationship is all about knowing each other and what each other likes...
Sex in a swinging enviroment is possibly more about the physical.
But am sure you can see this many different ways and depends on depends on your own personal experience.
may sound naff but I think the essence is ensuring that your partner really enjoys it, then what you get in return will be influenced by that..asumming the partner has a brain between the ears
im happy to give a demonstration, purely for scientific purposes.
a bit of effort goes a long way. had a one nighter with a girl i met in a club (back when i was a yoof) gave her a good hours worth of tongue lashings before the main event and she just lay there waiting for me to do all the work. got bored by this point, faked it and went to sleep.
found out a few months later that a couple of friends had also met this same girl elsewhere and had the same results so i'm guessing she just had no confidence or something, so ladies you put the effort in i'll put mine in :rascal:
you get as much out of it as you put into it.
so if you gove your partner a 3 minute knee trembler, dont think she'll be telling her mates you are like errol flynn :cry:
but if you take your time and plaesure them for an hour or 2 - she may even make you a coffee in the morning :shock: that is if she can walk properly !
defo it is all to do with using what you have got to the best advantage, a quickie can be good in its place but slow oral build up is my personal key to unlock the door
An interesting topic (what makes someone good at sex, not Errol Flynn's habits)...
I guess we can only go by our own observations, and I suppose one man's 'good at sex' might be another's 'intimidating' or 'lifeless'. With that said, here's my list:
1. Communication
2. Confidence
3. Compatibility
4. Shape
Expanding a little... Communication: Maybe because I'm a giver more than a reciever, but if I'm not sure that we are both enjoying things, then it's not good sex. Good sex isn't something that you do to someoneone, it's something you do together. If you are lying there thinking 'I wish he'd move left a bit' or whatever, and you don't let me know somehow, then how can we be having good sex? Feedback, constructive criticism, and mutual agreement on what we are going to do next are all important for me.
Confidence: Not just the confidence to leave the lights on, but the confidence to ask for things, or suggest things without fear of putting the other person off.
Compatibility: Some people just click better with others. Put simply a sub and a dom are usuallygoing to work better than 2 subs or 2 doms, but this applies to levels of attractiveness, body shapes, attitudes, levels of experience, willingness to be kinky, choice of kinks and so many other things.
Shape: Call me shallow, but if I don't fancy you very much, then the sex isn't going to be great. Sorry!
I think a good male lover feels the mood by catching the nuances of sound, breathing, amount of flushing in the skin etc.........not that I have made much of a study of it! by the way you have pm
good sex is only attainable if your partner(male.......all male).......is 6ft 2" tall......has very short silver hair, is built like a brick shithouse and has a birthmark on the left hand side of his forehead....
if any 1 sees the above person.......feel free to ask him for gratuitous sex at your liesure....
(ill get bollocked now for not posting in LNU :shock:
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and has cheese cake and garlic bread fetishes....
Good at sex?
I think it might have helped, if I`d added a postscript to my introduction - something along the lines - quote: I`m not as good as I once was, but I`m as good once as I ever was...
Mind, I`d probally need to lie down for half an hour to get me breath back afterwards!
Being good in bed is about confidence, knowing your way round and knowing what you're doing. That includes effort, creativity, ingenuity and equality. It all boils down to Practice
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