Great/better sex.

10 Nov 2010

I've been doing quite a lot of reading on this subject for a few years and thought it might be an interesting question......and discussion, for open-minded people.
If you could give some simple advice on how to have great/better sex, what would it be and why?

10 Nov 2010

Forget about your genitalia for an hour or two. I think some folk lose out cos they are cock/fanny obsessed.

10 Nov 2010

Bang as hard as you can for as long as possible :haha: If the headboard stays attached your doing it wrong!
Will have a think and some more serious answers (maybe) later

10 Nov 2010

Ben I totally agree.....and would add, if I may.....
include the places that don't normally get any touch, those that might not be normally considered erogenous zones;
between fingers and toes, backs of elbows and knees (in fact most joints) eyelids....the list goes on.
That must be Mr Tweeky then wink

*makes mental note; buy a cheaper headboard* Hahaha!

10 Nov 2010

Nice thread btw.

10 Nov 2010

Just my personal take on it, but what about
Don't do it for your own pleasure, do it for the other person(s) pleasure

10 Nov 2010

Don't worry about what you look like, just relax and enjoy the giving and receiving of pleasure.
Listen to your body and to pay attention to your partner's responses.
Let the 2 bodies dictate the pace, don't rush to an orgasm and don't hold back just to prove something about stamina.
Oh, and take up Yoga.

10 Nov 2010

Ben, thanks mate I really appreciate that, especaially coming from you.
Pit I don't think it is just you, defo agree there. And the ideal is if it comes back just as much.
Foxy loads of stuff, thank you.

10 Nov 2010

1. Stay awake
2. Don't drink too much
lol

10 Nov 2010

MY TOP TEN TO GREAT SEX
1. Like your self
2. Like the person your with
3. Never assume
4, Take your time
5. Kiss plenty
6 Be sensual, be soft, be hard, be smooth .. Infact just BE !!
7. Close your eyes and loose yr self
8. look in their eyes an let them loose themself in you
9. Vary the tempo
10. IT COULD BE YOUR LAST SHAG EVER SO MAKE SURE ITS ONE YOU LL BOTH REMEMBER
pS 11... MAKE SURE THEY ARE BREATHING BEFORE YOU START AND DONT HAVE FUR ;0) XXX

11 Nov 2010

Mrs K says the secret is to get a young buck in to service you....;)

11 Nov 2010

Sarah I would agree.......in part.....although.....I have heard that it is a great way to wake up too wink

Gorg, totally! In fact if you use all your senses that is good. Last shag??? Make it last days then, not minutes/hours! Haha!
Kaz absolutely.......although if it feels good, maybe one could ask "What could I do to make it feel great/wonderful/amazing"?
Killie, it's been a long time since anyone described me as a young buck, but I can vaguely recall something along the lines.........yeah that might work, hehe!
When talking about touch, some people suggest the maximum amount of skin to skin contact is good and others prefer the minimum amount, maybe a breath or an eyelash fluttering. I'll try them both and let you know :wink:

11 Nov 2010

I always find it's better with a friend wink

11 Nov 2010

Kaz, what could I do? Haha! Watch this space wink

Talking about using your senses, being all good. Another slant to this is blocking one off, lets say sight. If you blindfold someone, then it heightens all the other senses. Not only that it stimulates your imagination too, hehe!
Mrs, I agree and would suggest that the better the friend, the better the sex......although to fly in the face of that an "angry shag" can be hot too! Haha!

11 Nov 2010

Great topic btw Derek..
We agree with most of whats been said already ... :twisted: but have to say...you need to have some kinda spark between you to have the great sex experience...not just that notch on the bed post... lol

love the blindfolding and exploring the naked body..not knowing where the next touch will be...that aching feeling is great :twisted:
But most of all we think..just go with the flow and enjoy every second of the sensual touch..

12 Nov 2010

or not knowing where/when the next spank might be....if that is your thing wink

'ello 3s xx I thought you might like that post lol

14 Nov 2010

All the replies hold good advice.
To add, and not wanting to sound boring and predictable, as this seems to be my usual reply to posts lately but talk, talk and talk, listen, listen and listen to your partner, ask her what she wants, tell her what you want, be as open minded as you can and keep things fresh and exciting, be prepared to broaden your horizons and embrace new ideas and suggestions.
Then talk and listen and listen and talk some more. wink

14 Nov 2010

Kaz, I think you have just hit on something there. Anything new/slightly unexpected and different, ie; variety being the spice of life, hehe!
Dino I would agree that communication is key. Asking is ok, but I have found a better way.......learn....and then lead wink

For the physical....
Go to allexperts and do a search on "how to have great sex" (I'm not sure of the rules on posting off site URL's) there is tonnes of stuff there.
ehow too
Then go to redtube or youporn (can't remember which) and do a search on how to make a woman squirt
For the mental....
Read a beginners book on Neuro Linguistic Programming.
Do a google/youtube search for seduction, watch read and learn ;o)

14 Nov 2010

Quote by Dino
All the replies hold good advice.
To add, and not wanting to sound boring and predictable, as this seems to be my usual reply to posts lately but talk, talk and talk, listen, listen and listen to your partner, ask her what she wants, tell her what you want, be as open minded as you can and keep things fresh and exciting, be prepared to broaden your horizons and embrace new ideas and suggestions.
Then talk and listen and listen and talk some more.

Dear Agony Uncle Dino
I talk, talk, talk and she listens, listens, listens............yet she won't allow me to have a 6ft Scandinavian Blonde au pair with da big boobies as a Christmas present.
Shall I just get one myself?
Dave_Notts

14 Nov 2010

Quote by Dave__Notts
All the replies hold good advice.
To add, and not wanting to sound boring and predictable, as this seems to be my usual reply to posts lately but talk, talk and talk, listen, listen and listen to your partner, ask her what she wants, tell her what you want, be as open minded as you can and keep things fresh and exciting, be prepared to broaden your horizons and embrace new ideas and suggestions.
Then talk and listen and listen and talk some more.

Dear Agony Uncle Dino
I talk, talk, talk and she listens, listens, listens............yet she won't allow me to have a 6ft Scandinavian Blonde au pair with da big boobies as a Christmas present.
Shall I just get one myself?
Dave_Notts
Well Mr David Nottinghamshire to use your Sunday name ...coz its erm....Sunday :smile: what i think is going on here is a little bit of under cover information gathering on the part of your good lady Mrs David Nottinghamshire.
Shes clearly trying to find out what your most desire and dream about.
Then, when you think it aint ever goin to happen and your resigned to that fact,..hey presto...Mrs David Nottinghamshire will suprise and delight you dressed as a six foot Scandinavian Blonde au pair with da big boobies as a Christmas present silly

hwoar: :eeek: :rascal: :result :thumbup:...
And all this came about by....yes thats right ...Talking :-D
Aaaahhh, i love a sloppy happy ending kiss

15 Nov 2010

Guys are you advocating the use of witty banter and teasing?
Or maybe you just need to get a room wink

18 Nov 2010

Total trust .... cause then you have no boundaries, no barriers ... and anything is possible wink

21 Nov 2010

Quote by Dino
All the replies hold good advice.
To add, and not wanting to sound boring and predictable, as this seems to be my usual reply to posts lately but talk, talk and talk, listen, listen and listen to your partner, ask her what she wants, tell her what you want, be as open minded as you can and keep things fresh and exciting, be prepared to broaden your horizons and embrace new ideas and suggestions.
Then talk and listen and listen and talk some more.

Dear Agony Uncle Dino
I talk, talk, talk and she listens, listens, listens............yet she won't allow me to have a 6ft Scandinavian Blonde au pair with da big boobies as a Christmas present.
Shall I just get one myself?
Dave_Notts
Well Mr David Nottinghamshire to use your Sunday name ...coz its erm....Sunday :smile: what i think is going on here is a little bit of under cover information gathering on the part of your good lady Mrs David Nottinghamshire.
Shes clearly trying to find out what your most desire and dream about.
Then, when you think it aint ever goin to happen and your resigned to that fact,..hey presto...Mrs David Nottinghamshire will suprise and delight you dressed as a six foot Scandinavian Blonde au pair with da big boobies as a Christmas present silly

hwoar: :eeek: :rascal: :result :thumbup:...
And all this came about by....yes thats right ...Talking :-D
Aaaahhh, i love a sloppy happy ending kiss

Dave - I can see you have been a bad boy again smackbottom

22 Nov 2010

For us really great sessions have always involved an intensity driven by some factor, whether that be quite simple such as some mild external influence eg a fantasy or more significant, involving a third party.. a couple or single guy perhaps.... it just seems to work every time. The level of intensity between us as we come together is dynamic and generates a level of passion and desire like nothing else...

22 Nov 2010

Quote by Mrsgrohl
I always find it's better with a friend

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25 Nov 2010

Well i would say treat who your with as a mission impossible lol dont assume you have compleated your task in hand. Take the bull by the horns so to speak and ride the fooka till its screams your name lol. If after a few hrs you can still talk or walk start again you havnt finished oh and make sure you hit the spot ffs its so boring poking a fire or being poked and the flames dies bf you feel the heat xx

29 Nov 2010

Ok here is a simple one for people.....
Take something totally ordinary, that you would do without thinking. Eating, washing, dressing or brushing your hair etc, and do it for your partner or get them to do it for you.
I.e. Turn something mediocre into something erotic wink

29 Nov 2010

Quote by Derek_kelp
Ok here is a simple one for people.....
Take something totally ordinary, that you would do without thinking. Eating, washing, dressing or brushing your hair etc, and do it for your partner or get them to do it for you.
I.e. Turn something mediocre into something erotic

Thanks for the advice Derek. I suggested minx did something everyday for me. Maybe defrosting the car this morning wasnt the best choice. On the plus side I did learn a few more ways to express the "go fuck yourself" emotion.

29 Nov 2010

Quote by Kaznkev
Ok here is a simple one for people.....
Take something totally ordinary, that you would do without thinking. Eating, washing, dressing or brushing your hair etc, and do it for your partner or get them to do it for you.
I.e. Turn something mediocre into something erotic

For those who shave their bits getting your partner to do it is very erotic and fab sign of trust.
Especially when using a cut throat razor :eeek:
Dave_Notts

29 Nov 2010

Dave....practice on a balloon 1st, if you pop it then use a safety razor lol