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Guys, how do you know if you're Bi?

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Then again, I can also understand the possibility of a single individual - be they male or female - being attracted specifically to couples in order to participate intimately within their relationship to each other. That's one I've never seen a designated label for, but I'm sure it exists as I could imagine myself in that position if I were a single person.

Not just a possibility - most certainly a reality. I have tried to explain it before, both to myself and others - but could never find the right words to express my meaning clearly enough. I have been asked why I won't consider "makeshift" couples in my "play", because surely if I am bi then it should make no difference whether the couple I am with are in a strong, committed relationship, or merely a man and a woman in the same bed with me. But to me is does make a difference. A "makeshift" couple is two singles (in my eyes) and it just doesn't have the same "effect" on me as being a part of the intimacy of the comitted couple. I have chosen not to analyse this too much - and just accept that that is what I enjoy and that is what i joined SH to explore further. I don't have a label for that - and I kind of don't want or need to label myself.
I have had sex with men and women in a variety of ways. From sharing a feeling to going the whole hog. But there is a difference between being a free spirit and commiting yourself to a lifestyle and psyche. Some peeps I have met consider me totally hetero. Those that consider themselves authentic bi's have rejected me as well. So if you can't join the group you get treated as an outsider.
So I think there is a commitment to adopting a lifestyle so that you can feel included in a social group. Once accepted into the social group its easier to treat other newbies as you were treated.
So I think your dilemna is not so much what you do, as do you want to be accepted into a social group, and is that your new direction in life etc.
Sport teams are notorious for doing outrageous acts of exhibitionism, many of which simulate group sex, bi and gay oriented fantasies. But the line is never crossed into reality with these social groups. It would undermine the team ethic and fuck up penalty shots at goal. You know what I mean.........