Handling a reluctant wife- any tips !!

28 May 2004

Quote by tonyd
really need some help with my wife who knows i want her to be fucked ny another but who just isnt keen

My advice is to respect her wishes and drop the subject. If she doesn't want to, she doesn't want to. She knows how you feel about it and if she changes her mind she'll let you know.
Ice

28 May 2004

I agree, if she doesn't want to, don't push it! However M , my wife was like that and all I did was persuade her to go to a club with me "to watch only!" Once she got talking to other couples and realised they weren't just a load of pervs, she chiled and joined in some soft play. She surprised me and enjoyed it. Have been swinging (full swap) now for over 3 years!

28 May 2004

The secret is to make her feel in charge of the situation... find somewhere where she can watch (like a club as suggested). Don't even think about looking at other girls yourself and stay totally focused on her responses.
Maybe she'll loosen up, maybe she won't.. but make it HER experience wink

28 May 2004

if only Barbara Woodhouse was alive,now she had the art of control lol

it's simple to get a woman to do something, tell her that you don't want her to do it! wink

28 May 2004

Tony,
Ask your wife what her sexual fantasies are. It will give you a chance to explore each others sexual fantasies.
If her fantasies are the same as yours, then you will probably move forward quite quickly.
However, if her fantasy is to watch while you get fucked by another bloke - then you have to decide just how far you are willing to go to explore each others fantasies.
lhk
Kat

28 May 2004

Quote by KitKat
However, if her fantasy is to watch while you get fucked by another bloke - then you have to decide just how far you are willing to go to explore each others fantasies.

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Steve

30 May 2004

Quote by KitKat
Tony,
Ask your wife what her sexual fantasies are. It will give you a chance to explore each others sexual fantasies.
If her fantasies are the same as yours, then you will probably move forward quite quickly.
However, if her fantasy is to watch while you get fucked by another bloke - then you have to decide just how far you are willing to go to explore each others fantasies.
lhk
Kat

I love Kat's response....so true. This is a two way street, so if you decide to explore fantasies openly, be prepared for some surprises. Other than that, I can only whole-heartedly agree with Heather -- it has to be about her. Good luck, Tony.

30 May 2004

I think if this site has taught me one thing - it is just that Lips, Lots of us come on here (myself included) with an idea of what we are looking for.
If you are with a partner, and you are the one making the 'moves' to get into swinging, by far the best way forward is to find out what your partner wants to do, and suggest doing that.
lhk
Kat