well since I joined he a couple of months ago, I have put out 240 posts, all to people who’s criteria I matched, not to people who I didn’t match. Out of these only 6 people have had the decency to reply. Is this just bad manners or ignorance.
How would you super models couples like to be treated In this manner.
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Hot - the "super model couples" have to put up with a lot of timewasters on their end.
Maybe they can't always see us genuine one's among all the game players!??!
I appreciate all too well how you feel but there's an awful lot of us single guys after the same thing.
Keep hoping and keep trying, thats all I can suggest for both you and I!
Maybe they can't always see us genuine one's among all the game players!??!
I appreciate all too well how you feel but there's an awful lot of us single guys after the same thing.
Keep hoping and keep trying, thats all I can suggest for both you and I!
Sex God
Quote by Hot-one
well since I joined he a couple of months ago, I have put out 240 posts, all to people who’s criteria I matched, not to people who I didn’t match. Out of these only 6 people have had the decency to reply. Is this just bad manners or ignorance.
How would you super models couples like to be treated In this manner.
It's life - don't dwell on it.
Quote by Freckledbird
well since I joined he a couple of months ago, I have put out 240 posts, all to people who’s criteria I matched, not to people who I didn’t match. Out of these only 6 people have had the decency to reply. Is this just bad manners or ignorance.
How would you super models couples like to be treated In this manner.
It's life - don't dwell on it.
I use the same philosophy for the toilet
Quote by Hot-one
well since I joined he a couple of months ago, I have put out 240 posts, all to people who’s criteria I matched, not to people who I didn’t match. Out of these only 6 people have had the decency to reply. Is this just bad manners or ignorance.
How would you super models couples like to be treated In this manner.
Oooohhhh Hot-one
How many out of those 240 would/might have replied... but after seeing this post might not bother? :doh:
When someone creates an air of desperation around their persona people on a whole have a tendency to stay away
Sooooo... maybe a change to tactics is in order?
You chose to use this forum to seek an answer...
Why don't you now use this forum to seek some advice?
:welcome: pull up a chair & feel free to take on board a few comments... If you don't ask you don't get
But you need to know how to ask in the 'right' way
It's not rocket science... just a willingness to accept just coz you have paid to be on a swinging site that doesn't give you cart blanch to get your leg over ok
Sex God
Quote by redpantherman
Oooohhhh Hot-one
How many out of those 240 would/might have replied... but after seeing this post might not bother? :doh:
When someone creates an air of desperation around their persona people on a whole have a tendency to stay away
:thumbup: Good point.
Mod
Lots of single guys on this site have had no luck and they have been here longer than yourself Hot-one.
I have found that if you are young or vwe then you have a better chance but the ratio of guys who meet that criteria is even smaller than your ratio of replies I think.
The couples and indeed the single ladies of this site have the ball at their feet so to speak, so you will need to get good at tackling them for it.
You can either be a great laugh and a charmer in chat which a lot of single guys are and a lot of them get meets that way cos as we all know people are attracted to personality and not looks
Good manners also come into play here as well and the most important bit of all is of course, patience.
And the motto for today is "experience is what you get when you don't get what you want"
Chill out pull up a seat and join in
:)
regards
Woo
I have found that if you are young or vwe then you have a better chance but the ratio of guys who meet that criteria is even smaller than your ratio of replies I think.
The couples and indeed the single ladies of this site have the ball at their feet so to speak, so you will need to get good at tackling them for it.
You can either be a great laugh and a charmer in chat which a lot of single guys are and a lot of them get meets that way cos as we all know people are attracted to personality and not looks
Good manners also come into play here as well and the most important bit of all is of course, patience.
And the motto for today is "experience is what you get when you don't get what you want"
Chill out pull up a seat and join in
:) regards
Woo
Warming the Bed
Just thought I'd throw my tuppence, as a single girl, in here...
I get quite a lot of emails on a regular basis, and if I place an advert it multiplies extraordinarily. In the beginning I did try responding to everyone, just a wee one liner even. It became clear though that many people hadn't even read my profile/ad. It's amazing the number of emails I get from guys telling me they are shaved, when I've clearly stated my tastes are otherwise.
So, I stopped replying to most of them - if people haven't bothered to see what I want or can only lift a finger to send a wink then I'm not going to waste my time replying.
I tend to meet people from chat tbh, and do always try to respond to emails that have had a bit of thought put into them.
My advice to single guys would be, be patient, be curteous, try and be original and comment on something that person has specified in their profile, and if possible, arrange to meet in chat. For me, personality is important and in terms of my safety, if guy appears to pushy or desperate from his emails/chat/phonecalls then I'll pull the plug straight away.
I know I'm lucky to be in the minority position (single girl, although not the elusive bi fem!) and appreciate that I am able to be choosy, and would like to take this opportunity to anyone whose emails I have not responded to! :shock:
I get quite a lot of emails on a regular basis, and if I place an advert it multiplies extraordinarily. In the beginning I did try responding to everyone, just a wee one liner even. It became clear though that many people hadn't even read my profile/ad. It's amazing the number of emails I get from guys telling me they are shaved, when I've clearly stated my tastes are otherwise.
So, I stopped replying to most of them - if people haven't bothered to see what I want or can only lift a finger to send a wink then I'm not going to waste my time replying.
I tend to meet people from chat tbh, and do always try to respond to emails that have had a bit of thought put into them.
My advice to single guys would be, be patient, be curteous, try and be original and comment on something that person has specified in their profile, and if possible, arrange to meet in chat. For me, personality is important and in terms of my safety, if guy appears to pushy or desperate from his emails/chat/phonecalls then I'll pull the plug straight away.
I know I'm lucky to be in the minority position (single girl, although not the elusive bi fem!) and appreciate that I am able to be choosy, and would like to take this opportunity to anyone whose emails I have not responded to! :shock:
Quote by Hot-one
well since I joined he a couple of months ago, I have put out 240 posts, all to people who’s criteria I matched, not to people who I didn’t match. Out of these only 6 people have had the decency to reply. Is this just bad manners or ignorance.
How would you super models couples like to be treated In this manner.
well seeing as your asking ........lol
on a serious note couples do get treat like that, i have sent out mails and not got replys, i meet as a single woman and still get no reply and its supposed 2 be easy for women lol
get over it i did ;)
Sex God
We met a single guy talked for months before we decided that it was time to go further. We met liked him Mrs Lost liked the idea of shagging with him and on the third meet ......! We found out that he had been on site two years and this was in fact his first meet. We all had a great time and it has been repeated.
What is interesting is that we introduced him to some swinging friends of ours when we went out socially and though not with that cpl but another cpl met through our friends. He has swung again and been to a 'party' too! All in the last two months or so. And, we are seeing the guy again.
I guess what i'm saying is that patience has its rewards and that sometimes just waiting being nice and socialising can start to pay off.
Swinging certainly for us, is not about just the shag. It's about the before the durimg and the after. And unfortunate though it may seem the before and after 'usually' take up a whole lot more time than the during 
What is interesting is that we introduced him to some swinging friends of ours when we went out socially and though not with that cpl but another cpl met through our friends. He has swung again and been to a 'party' too! All in the last two months or so. And, we are seeing the guy again.
I guess what i'm saying is that patience has its rewards and that sometimes just waiting being nice and socialising can start to pay off.
Swinging certainly for us, is not about just the shag. It's about the before the durimg and the after. And unfortunate though it may seem the before and after 'usually'
take up a whole lot more time than the during Been here for very nearly a year, had one meet within a month (jammy or what) and met her a few times after. Have my second 'taker' this Friday all lined up.
Sending lots of mail with no replies can be demoralising
BUT be patient and not desperate!
There have been a few others I've exchanged a few e mails with which I found is all part of the fun and excitement. Just chill, relax and be yourself and some fun will follow.
Sending lots of mail with no replies can be demoralising
BUT be patient and not desperate!
There have been a few others I've exchanged a few e mails with which I found is all part of the fun and excitement. Just chill, relax and be yourself and some fun will follow.
Quote by Hot-one
well since I joined he a couple of months ago, I have put out 240 posts, all to people who’s criteria I matched, not to people who I didn’t match. Out of these only 6 people have had the decency to reply. Is this just bad manners or ignorance.
How would you super models couples like to be treated In this manner.
And from the 19th March:
Quote by Hot-one
Does anyone on here bother to reply to posts? been on here a couple of weeks, and sent out to quite a few posts replys one. If your not intrested please take the time and say so. And these posts have been on line since I posted as it tells you when last on line . thanks
Quite a few people replied to Hot-one's thread in March, but sadly Hot-one did not contribute any further. Will he contribute again on his current one I wonder?
Mod
Well, his question has been answered both times and it has been very heavily documented over time on a regular basis in here, so no need to keep this running.
If anyone feels they need to add to this, perhaps they could PM him?
Locked.
Mal
If anyone feels they need to add to this, perhaps they could PM him?
Locked.
Mal
