Minx and I swing. We have been at it together for a couple of years and both had experience before.
We do private meets we do clubs and we occasionally advertise for playmates and respond to adverts.
I am struck by the frequent use of the term "hardened" to describe swingers.
I have no idea what we need to do to consider ourselves hardened.
I wondered what others thought the qualifications for such a description were.
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Hardened Swingers
quess what its another label.....
hmmmm some say its 'swingers' who play every weekend and do nothing else except swing...
other says its how many people you have played with....
and well others term it as swingers who full swap seperate rooms...
theres a few that over my time of playing, is what they have classified it as.....
personally as i said its another label used in society to put you into a caterogy 'oh the joys' !
hmmmm some say its 'swingers' who play every weekend and do nothing else except swing...
other says its how many people you have played with....
and well others term it as swingers who full swap seperate rooms...
theres a few that over my time of playing, is what they have classified it as.....
personally as i said its another label used in society to put you into a caterogy 'oh the joys' !
Orgasminator
I fully agree with Gurl, everything has to be in a specific box, i suppose to me, i'm hardened to living the life of a swinger (severing emotions etc) but wouldnt class myself as one.
then i tend to say i'm the worlds worst swinger. as i chat to everyone, and enjoy making new freinds but very rarely do the swinging part.
then i tend to say i'm the worlds worst swinger. as i chat to everyone, and enjoy making new freinds but very rarely do the swinging part.
Sex God
I believe you can call yourself a hardened swinger when the callouses on your fun-bits show through the latex.
Sex God
Quote by Ben_welshminx
lol
is this the latex of a condom or the latex of a skirt?
I was picturing a barbie pink full body cat-suit, inhabited by a person so wrung out from swinging that everything is wrinkled and drooping and their bits are lumpy with calluses. Good thing I'd already eaten.
Oh I am so glad I havent got such an imagination foxy. :lol:
Sex God
The term "hardened swingers" seems to be used on here by people to describe others, not something that anyone would want to admit to being themselves. I think of it as being applied to those for whom swinging has become so routine that a great deal of the excitement seems to have gone from it for them, and that they have a sort of "seen it all, done it all" attitude.
Warming the Bed
From our point of view hardened swingers are either swingers who are so used to it that they no longer (if they ever did) get the incredible thrill which non-hardened swingers get, or they are swinging-addicted, clubbing every weekend etc. We've met couples who club Fri Sat and Sun. No criticism intended, but it's not our approach.
Sex God
Hardened Swingers, hmmmm, knife play maybe? :shock:
Sex God
Quote by GnV
So, what of soft swing?
Is that for people who can't get a hard on
What about hardened soft swingers?
Sex God
Quote by tweeky
So, what of soft swing?
Is that for people who can't get a hard on
What about hardened soft swingers?
It's amazing what a coat of boat-varnish can do.
They don't exist really do they?
Its just an idea that got about because people feared they might become something that other people wouldn't fancy. Or a way of empathising with others.
But it really is a myth.
I mean what could someone be like that could be so awful as a swinger?
Anyone seen a hardened swinger going about their business?
Its just an idea that got about because people feared they might become something that other people wouldn't fancy. Or a way of empathising with others.
But it really is a myth.
I mean what could someone be like that could be so awful as a swinger?
Anyone seen a hardened swinger going about their business?
Sex God
um no good if its not hard....is it?
:twisted:
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Sex God
Hardening involves heating a swinger to its normalising temperature and cooling (Quenching ) rapidly in a suitable fluid e.g oil, water, sperm or air.
When a swinger is heated above the upper critical temperature (about 760oC), the swinger crystal structure will change to face centered cubic (FCC), and the sexual atoms will migrate into the central position formerly occupied by a swinger atom. This form of red-hot swinger is called austentite (? front). If this swinger cools slowly, the sexual atoms move back into the cube forcing the swinger atoms back out, resulting in soft swinger called pearlite. If the swinger was formerly hard, this softening process is called annealing.
If the swinger is cooled quickly (quench) by immersing it in oil, sperm or water, the sexual atoms are trapped, and the result is a very hard, brittle swinger.
When a swinger is heated above the upper critical temperature (about 760oC), the swinger crystal structure will change to face centered cubic (FCC), and the sexual atoms will migrate into the central position formerly occupied by a swinger atom. This form of red-hot swinger is called austentite (? front). If this swinger cools slowly, the sexual atoms move back into the cube forcing the swinger atoms back out, resulting in soft swinger called pearlite. If the swinger was formerly hard, this softening process is called annealing.
If the swinger is cooled quickly (quench) by immersing it in oil, sperm or water, the sexual atoms are trapped, and the result is a very hard, brittle swinger.
Sex God
Now I wish this'n had stayed serious fer a bit longer 'cos I really think there is such a thing as a 'hardened swinger'.
To my mind it is someone who 'gets it'. This concept was given to me by someone who has moved on from the scene not so long ago. I say this as someone who, quite honestly, probably didn't get it when I was trying to be a swinger.
This is not a game. It is not one-sided. And to participate you have to be mature knowledgeable and - yes quite hardened. There are softer versions but, of course, that is all relative.
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To my mind it is someone who 'gets it'. This concept was given to me by someone who has moved on from the scene not so long ago. I say this as someone who, quite honestly, probably didn't get it when I was trying to be a swinger.
This is not a game. It is not one-sided. And to participate you have to be mature knowledgeable and - yes quite hardened. There are softer versions but, of course, that is all relative.
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Orgasminator
i believe a hardened swinger is more someone who indulges regularly and has done for a while (indefinite periods of time)
other definitions like soft swinger i believe are a more definite description detailed in the terminology section of the site over there<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<
other definitions like soft swinger i believe are a more definite description detailed in the terminology section of the site over there<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<
Quote by Ben_welshminx
Minx and I swing. We have been at it together for a couple of years and both had experience before.
We do private meets we do clubs and we occasionally advertise for playmates and respond to adverts.
I am struck by the frequent use of the term "hardened" to describe swingers.
I have no idea what we need to do to consider ourselves hardened.
I wondered what others thought the qualifications for such a description were.
I always thought it was dependant on whether you lived in a hard of soft water area?!
I can see that people can become quite accomplished at swinging, especially if they do it often enough and have a thriving community with a good turnover of other swingers. And that is what many wish for. But for the majority its not quite so busy and therefore a longer process of acquiring experience.
But does the swinging make you hard or is it that you are like that already and it just comes back once you feel you have achieved something?
But does the swinging make you hard or is it that you are like that already and it just comes back once you feel you have achieved something?
It's completely obvious to me what a hardened swinger is ...
it's a person or couple who has a lot of experience, and has done the full swap thing etc. At least from our perspective we always say we're NOT hardened swingers because we don't do full swaps etc. It's nothing to be ashamed of being called.
it's a person or couple who has a lot of experience, and has done the full swap thing etc. At least from our perspective we always say we're NOT hardened swingers because we don't do full swaps etc. It's nothing to be ashamed of being called.
Sex God
Quote by Perrie_n_dave
It's completely obvious to me what a hardened swinger is ...
it's a person or couple who has a lot of experience, and has done the full swap thing etc. At least from our perspective we always say we're NOT hardened swingers because we don't do full swaps etc. It's nothing to be ashamed of being called.
I don't think hardened necessarily means they do full swap.
Soft swingers (such as you) can also be hardened swingers.
The nearest I think it is, is when a couple and/or singles have gotten through the initial startups, had some experience and developed enough confidence and skill; and expectation to perform in most general swinging situations.
Where they then become hardened is in transferring those things into a newer pursuit of fuck fodder. ie playing whatever game is on to get more sex. But at that point they are no longer swingers, they have become predators.
Where they then become hardened is in transferring those things into a newer pursuit of fuck fodder. ie playing whatever game is on to get more sex. But at that point they are no longer swingers, they have become predators.
