hi there for the last few months we,ve been trying to find a bi guy for prodominantly my boyfriend ...........we thought we,d put exactly what we want but still guys mail us when thezre obviously not bi at all ..........we,re getting loads of mails ..........can anyone give us some advice ...........do we need less pics .........do we need to be less choosy.........any help out there ...........it seems to be harder for me to find one than it would be for him to find one ..........we dont want to do the hotel or car meeting .........
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has anyone got any tips please
Sex God
I've had a look at your profile - its pretty well written and specific - problem is a lot of guys look at that you are a couple who will meet guys and dont really care past that.
The only way to work your way past that is with patience, you're doing all the right things by wanting to chat first and putting up front exactly what you want, and I really hope you find what you're looking for.
Roger
The only way to work your way past that is with patience, you're doing all the right things by wanting to chat first and putting up front exactly what you want, and I really hope you find what you're looking for.
Roger
Flymo, unless you're going to all live happily ever after - does it matter if it's not the right guy right away? Despite the idiots, there are lots of really nice guys on here, all of whom are different and all of whom are going to share a different experience with you. Give some of them the benifit of the doubt. It might not be perfect 1st time, but you have to take in to account that they are expecting different things too, finding someone who shares the same expectations as you is not that easy. Take the pressure off yourselves by not expecting miracles - just have a bit of fun.
Blimey, that was a little preachy for first thing Saturday morning!
H.x
Blimey, that was a little preachy for first thing Saturday morning!
H.x
FlymoYour ad looks fine IMO.
You're always going to get guys chancing their luck to try and get a shag with you.
Have you tried searching other people's ads. It may be worth taking a look at some of the ads written by Bi guys as opposed to wading through the replies you are getting.
That way you can answer the ads that are exactlywhat you are looking for
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Just to reassure you that you're not alone in having to sift through replies from people who have skimmed your ad or profile without reading it properly.
Seriously though Flymo, I have read this thread and I can't really add anything to the great advice that has already been given!
Good luck in your search!
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at the bottom of my profile i wrote a name and put after it "put this in subject box or i wont read your mails" it means u can identify who has read your profile til the end and i just delete any without the name in subject box
has worked quite well for me and saves you reading every mail i also dont reply to one liners "id like to know more" if they cant be bothered to write anything why should we bother replying
hope you find what you are looking for
has worked quite well for me and saves you reading every mail i also dont reply to one liners "id like to know more" if they cant be bothered to write anything why should we bother replying
hope you find what you are looking for
Sex God
Quote by SurreyD
I think that's an excellent idea for filtering out some replies. Kinda like those urban legends of exam papers that tell you to read through the paper before answering the questions, and then being told at the end to only answer the last question.
Not an urban ledgend, i remember getting one of those at school, Ok, it wasn't an 'Exam' but an exercise in being attentive to instructions from an employer etc. but they do exist and yes, everyone failed
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hi there for the last few months we,ve been trying to find a bi guy for prodominantly my boyfriend ...........we thought we,d put exactly what we want but still guys mail us when thezre obviously not bi at all ..........we,re getting loads of mails ..........can anyone give us some advice ...........do we need less pics .........do we need to be less choosy.........any help out there ...........it seems to be harder for me to find one than it would be for him to find one ..........we dont want to do the hotel or car meeting .........
Have you thought of having a peep in one of the bi male rooms in the chatroom?
You can see who is in there... have a natter.... check out the profiles.... have a peep at some of the guys on cam :rascal:
It doesn't mean you need to make any instant decisions and it won't always be instantly successful - but it can be
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I think that's an excellent idea for filtering out some replies. Kinda like those urban legends of exam papers that tell you to read through the paper before answering the questions, and then being told at the end to only answer the last question.
Not an urban ledgend, i remember getting one of those at school, Ok, it wasn't an 'Exam' but an exercise in being attentive to instructions from an employer etc. but they do exist and yes, everyone failed
theres a very good one that says at the top only to answer the first 3 questions, then put your pen down and wait till the end of the test...
if you dont read that bit.. and you get to question 4 and onwards... you end up having to stand up and shout things about yourself , draw on your forehead ,turn your chair upside down ......and looking like a complete berk.
priceless......
