We were just having a conversation with some non :swingingchair: friends about an article in the paper on swingers clubs, They went all shy and :embarrased: on the subject, But their view was it was not their choose and would not criticize those who did swing, so after looking at each other we took the plunge and told them we had been to swingers clubs and enjoyed swinging.
Out came the drinks and a while later they turned the subject back to swinging, ie: where had we been ,whats it like, all the usual questions, turned out they had talked about it in the past but never done anything about it or sure that they would
Good on them, their choice, but they still best friends with us and talking about coming to a club with us one day.
This probably been asked before but have done a search and not showed anything up.
Do you or do'nt you tell your friends that you enjoy a swinging lifestyle.
J n B
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Have you told your friends you swing
In all honesty, no - I haven't told any of my friends of my "private side". Maybe cos they're all just a little too conventional or boring. It's never cropped up in a conversation but maybe they've thought about it too and don't want to feel uncomfortable. People always judge, especially on things they know little about and have no experience about. Think it's better this way, it's my little secret for now - until I get plastered and let my mouth into gear.
Sexpert
hi there we not told anyone we swing not cos we bothered about it just its never come up or crossed that road yet, if it did happen to arise we would be honest and tell ppl what we do its all good clean fun after all hee hee 
to be fair, if you're single then surely swinging is no different to a series of one-night stands or "fuck-buddies?" i'd introduce female friends i met through swinging to my friends, but dunno if i'd let them know that's how we met. i think for single people the only difference is letting your friends know how you find your partners. But if you volunteer the information, maybe you're going too far the other way? everyone's got things they may not be ashamed of, but still don't see the need to shout about
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to be fair, if you're single then surely swinging is no different to a series of one-night stands or "fuck-buddies?"
Whilst thats your view and your entitled to hold it I will have to beg to differ. Whilst swinging is a broad term covering varying tastes I myself have never seen it on a par with one night stands as I get so much more from it. Trust me if one night stands was my thing i'd have no problem but the reason that i'm a member of this site and others is that I'm not simply looking for a "one night stand" or a "fuck buddy".
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hi there we not told anyone we swing not cos we bothered about it just its never come up or crossed that road yet, if it did happen to arise we would be honest and tell ppl what we do its all good clean fun after all hee hee
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We agree with you there fantasycpl,
J n B
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to be fair, if you're single then surely swinging is no different to a series of one-night stands or "fuck-buddies?" i'd introduce female friends i met through swinging to my friends, but dunno if i'd let them know that's how we met. i think for single people the only difference is letting your friends know how you find your partners. But if you volunteer the information, maybe you're going too far the other way? everyone's got things they may not be ashamed of, but still don't see the need to shout about
I am sorry but a large portion of that I feel is total bollocks.
Unless of course your version of swinging is just a series of one-night stands.
Sex God
Of course they know, they're reading this now 
so who wants a shag then?
so who wants a shag then?
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to be fair, if you're single then surely swinging is no different to a series of one-night stands or "fuck-buddies?"
Whilst thats your view and your entitled to hold it I will have to beg to differ. Whilst swinging is a broad term covering varying tastes I myself have never seen it on a par with one night stands as I get so much more from it. Trust me if one night stands was my thing i'd have no problem but the reason that i'm a member of this site and others is that I'm not simply looking for a "one night stand" or a "fuck buddy".
But surely people you meet and forge friendships with are your fuck-buddies (that's the buddy part). the female friends i have i consider to be some of my best friends, but that's how we refer to each other, as we do the other side of the phrase as well
The one-night stands are more varied, if you meet someone purely for that reason every now and again surely you can't call it a relationship? A proper one-night stand is exactly what it sounds like, but what i'm trying to say is if you have a friend that's out on the pull every weekend and getting with a different partner, then they can't have a lower opinion of you if you swing because they're already doing something similar, albeit through different methods. the only difference is that they don't actively do it with swingers
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to be fair, if you're single then surely swinging is no different to a series of one-night stands or "fuck-buddies?"
Whilst thats your view and your entitled to hold it I will have to beg to differ. Whilst swinging is a broad term covering varying tastes I myself have never seen it on a par with one night stands as I get so much more from it. Trust me if one night stands was my thing i'd have no problem but the reason that i'm a member of this site and others is that I'm not simply looking for a "one night stand" or a "fuck buddy".
But surely people you meet and forge friendships with are your fuck-buddies (that's the buddy part). the female friends i have i consider to be some of my best friends, but that's how we refer to each other, as we do the other side of the phrase as well
The one-night stands are more varied, if you meet someone purely for that reason every now and again surely you can't call it a relationship? A proper one-night stand is exactly what it sounds like, but what i'm trying to say is if you have a friend that's out on the pull every weekend and getting with a different partner, then they can't have a lower opinion of you if you swing because they're already doing something similar, albeit through different methods. the only difference is that they don't actively do it with swingers
Just one question then from one single male to another. If those are your views and swinging is the same for single guy's as a one night stand.
Why are you here ?
Sex God
We have told one or two very close friends, but not gone into detail or anything but we was chatting with a relative (my aunty) a few nights ago and she mentioned that she had been talking to her neighbour who had told her they were into swinging. the nieghbour had said that she and her partner used swinging clubs. I inocently asked which clubs, and when my aunty told me, I blabbed, 'Oh yes, thats the one we tried'
After a 10 minute silence, the conversation quickly went back to something more 'normal' and nothing has been said since (but it was only a week ago and no doubt she will 'quiz' me when she gets the chance)
After a 10 minute silence, the conversation quickly went back to something more 'normal' and nothing has been said since (but it was only a week ago and no doubt she will 'quiz' me when she gets the chance)
Well we never intended letting our so called normal friends know but things happen and talking one night over a nice curry in town with a couple we have been friends with for over 15 years it sort of came out as they had made comments about it last time we stayed over at there house in Wiltshire.. I suspected they might be when I told them we were but was wrong ... not that they were in the least offended as they had wondered about trying for years ........ they are wondering no more!! Mmm lol!! Great night back at ours later...
Then there was our wedding... a warning to Dambuster here lol.. we had around 150 normal friends and family there.. and around 30 swinger friends I hear the party back at the hotel was something else..... No we weren't there lol (pity mind) trouble was so were half our relations, who heard alot of noises in the night and have dropped hints ever since!!
Were not worried about who finds out as such as we don't see anything wrong with what we do.. we still don't shout about it though as its the naughtiness that adds to the fun!!
Mike xx
Then there was our wedding... a warning to Dambuster here lol.. we had around 150 normal friends and family there.. and around 30 swinger friends I hear the party back at the hotel was something else..... No we weren't there lol (pity mind) trouble was so were half our relations, who heard alot of noises in the night and have dropped hints ever since!!
Were not worried about who finds out as such as we don't see anything wrong with what we do.. we still don't shout about it though as its the naughtiness that adds to the fun!!
Mike xx
Quote by sheddy
to be fair, if you're single then surely swinging is no different to a series of one-night stands or "fuck-buddies?"
Whilst thats your view and your entitled to hold it I will have to beg to differ. Whilst swinging is a broad term covering varying tastes I myself have never seen it on a par with one night stands as I get so much more from it. Trust me if one night stands was my thing i'd have no problem but the reason that i'm a member of this site and others is that I'm not simply looking for a "one night stand" or a "fuck buddy".
But surely people you meet and forge friendships with are your fuck-buddies (that's the buddy part). the female friends i have i consider to be some of my best friends, but that's how we refer to each other, as we do the other side of the phrase as well
The one-night stands are more varied, if you meet someone purely for that reason every now and again surely you can't call it a relationship? A proper one-night stand is exactly what it sounds like, but what i'm trying to say is if you have a friend that's out on the pull every weekend and getting with a different partner, then they can't have a lower opinion of you if you swing because they're already doing something similar, albeit through different methods. the only difference is that they don't actively do it with swingers
Just one question then from one single male to another. If those are your views and swinging is the same for single guy's as a one night stand.
Why are you here ?
have a re-read... what i'm saying... is that those who go about their business like that are doing something similar beacuse - they are not monogamous, they are quite happy to meet and shag people purely because of the attraction they feel at the time, but some of these people still look down on swingers because swingers actively seek people who have similar sexual interests. a guy who goes out for a different conquest every friday night and a meet/friendship with a swinging partner/party are different because...
a. you all know what you want and why you want it
b. you're all happy to allow the other to get on with their lives without either feeling cheated
c. you're all willing to openly explore a side of life that's considered to "vanilla" people, and have fun doing it while making new friends
knowing these things about the people you meet while swinging is surely what liberates swingers... or am i missing the point here?
to clarify - the "one-night stand" was probably a poor choice of phrase, but what i was doing was comparing to the actions of a single male who doesn't consider himself a swinger to one that does... a "weekend warrior" who sits in front of me and says what i'm doing is wrong has no case when he goes out and does what he does without conscience. the primary goal is the same...sex. if I didn't like sex I wouldn't be a swinger. but the way you go about it is what differs. with swinging there is a host of other benefits, but that comes with being part of a community. the reason i said it was the same is that i'm not really up for denouncing one lifestyle or the other. or should i be? it's consenting adults we're talking about here...
as a single male, if it wasn't love of sex, what made you decide to be a swinger?
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as a single male, if it wasn't love of sex, what made you decide to be a swinger?
Last answer from me in this thread as it's bordering on a hijack and it's so unlike me
:? :? But since you asked I'll give the reason I started in my early twenties with my then partner and a CLOSE group of friends a sort of natural progression so to speak after we had all had nights out togehter. What started as harmless flirting progressed through foreplay and on to full swap as the weeks went by. So I didn't decide it just happend and trust me I'm glad it did.
I must admit that I have never told any friends about my 'activities'. I don't believe that the rection would be that good , although they would be interested.
For those that know me on the site , myself and Carolyn have parted company. Sad , but that is life. My new partner is interested (and is fully aware of my past) so we will see what happens...
Take care
Paul
For those that know me on the site , myself and Carolyn have parted company. Sad , but that is life. My new partner is interested (and is fully aware of my past) so we will see what happens...
Take care
Paul
Sex God
I've told a couple of friends about swinging, but thats cos it got difficult to explain where I was a lot of the time. 
The ones I've chosen not to tell, it's because it doesn't affect them personally and it's none of their business what I do in my sexual life. I don't ask those kinds of questions of them, they don't them types of questions of me either. Mutual respect for one anothers private lives and privacy.
Gem. x
The ones I've chosen not to tell, it's because it doesn't affect them personally and it's none of their business what I do in my sexual life. I don't ask those kinds of questions of them, they don't them types of questions of me either. Mutual respect for one anothers private lives and privacy.
Gem. x
Warming the Bed
Some of our vanilla friends know and some don't. We've been failrly selective as to who we've told and we seem to have judged right - no problems resulting, just interesting converstion and a touch of envy
CB
CB
My best mate knows about my first bi fem but that's all I've told him and he's the only one who knows. He's very open minded about things like that but unfortunately none of my other friends are so I choose not to let them in on this side of me.
I think you know which friends you can trust and whch ones you can't
I think you know which friends you can trust and whch ones you can't
there are 3 close friends of mine that know, i havent told anyone else probably cos the people who are important and who would worry about where i was on a weekend etc know,
my parents just think i am off meeting people for coven meetings etc
odd really can let them deal with me being a witch but not swinging lol
my parents just think i am off meeting people for coven meetings etc
odd really can let them deal with me being a witch but not swinging lol
i havent even told mrs dpg yet alone our mates :giggle: :giggle:
only joking !!!!
no as far as we are aware none of our friends know we swing, to be perfectly honest i,m the type of person who wouldn,t care if they did however mrs dpg is the opposite and is a bit more reserved about it
mr and mrs dpg xxxx
only joking !!!!
no as far as we are aware none of our friends know we swing, to be perfectly honest i,m the type of person who wouldn,t care if they did however mrs dpg is the opposite and is a bit more reserved about it
mr and mrs dpg xxxx
If you usually discuss the details of your sex lives with friends and family then maybe there is a case for telling them. If you don't, then I can't see any reason to tell them. We wouldn't dream of telling people what we do in private and it's such an unlikely thing to be doing that noone has ever actually asked us if we are swingers. It's very difficult to unsay things, and if you get the wrong reaction then you are stuck with it.
Sex God
We havent told any of our friends, I think one suspects due to a comment I made in a the pub once.
Talked to a girl at one of Mrs Tweekys friends weddings once I dont remember much of the conversation I was very drunk. All I remember was here saying to me " ohh are you into that kind of thing are you I should introduce you to my mate he's got a dungeon and everything " She seemed quite excited. Funniest bit though was her Dad who was sat there
kept leaning in and saying " What ... sorry!!!! what ". Mrs Tweeky moved round to the other side of the table I asume the Bride and groom never heard about any of this but cant be 100% sure.
In all honesty I wouldent want everyone to know, some realy wouldent like it.
Mr Tweeky
Talked to a girl at one of Mrs Tweekys friends weddings once I dont remember much of the conversation I was very drunk. All I remember was here saying to me " ohh are you into that kind of thing are you I should introduce you to my mate he's got a dungeon and everything " She seemed quite excited. Funniest bit though was her Dad who was sat there
kept leaning in and saying " What ... sorry!!!! what ". Mrs Tweeky moved round to the other side of the table I asume the Bride and groom never heard about any of this but cant be 100% sure.In all honesty I wouldent want everyone to know, some realy wouldent like it.
Mr Tweeky
My flatmate knows, but thats it.....I only told him because he was getting suspicious that I was going out every weekend after not bothering to out for over 18 months......and the fact that I was suddenly happier, more confident and the fact that people were ACTUALLY ringing my mobile (a previously unheard of event....:shock
His reaction? "Oh well, just remember to use a nodder...."
I dont know why I just didnt tell him straight off.....lol
His reaction? "Oh well, just remember to use a nodder...."
I dont know why I just didnt tell him straight off.....lol
