Heather's dilemmas part 87934

15 Apr 2004

Dear friends....
I now burden you with another dilemma. rolleyes

How does a lady, such as moi :boo: let a gentleman know that he's a first class lay, a thoroughly fantastic, entertaining conversationalist and all round Godlike creature hump

without him thinking the big LURVE bug has struck and I want to have his babies?
So usually I find 'em, fuck 'em and forget 'em... but I don't want to forget this one! (As you've figured) In vanilla circles it's easy... but how does one let it be known one is eyeing him up for a swinging partnership type thing? :crazy:
Hxx

15 Apr 2004

Oh Heather lol

I just love your dilemmas - you leap from one crisis to another.
Now, does this guy know about you and the swinging thing?

16 Apr 2004

Do you remember at school when you used to send a friend over to say 'my mate fancies you.....' how about asking someone who you know and trust to contact this person on your behalf and explain?
mal
lol

16 Apr 2004

As a guy if we met in the swinging scene and you said you wanted to swing with me again I would take it as that. I personally wouldn't think we were going to get married. I assume that this (Seriously lucky bloke) knows your your life situation so should not expect you to be running at him in a 'I love you and want babies' type way, but see this as a more open, adult fun thing.
I would say just go for it, be open and honest (as all the best swingers are, and I know you are too having met you) and see what happens. Also if the lucky fella reads the forums, and cant put two and two together he needs a serious wake up call. If he doesn't but is all he seems from your description he should be switched on enough to see where you coming from...
Phew hope some of that rings a chord, I know I am swinging newbe, but I have been in the odd open relationship in my past. Open, honest, and it works great smile

16 Apr 2004

Heather...why did you not just tell me hun...?
I think if you just tell the guy ouright your wishes, he would, cos i would, feel like a dog with two dicks!
Hope it helps?

16 Apr 2004

Mmmm... MISSCHIEF, I don't stumble from one catastrophy to the next on purpose. They sort of target me... much like wasps smelling a toffee apple. rolleyes

TnH yes, he does read the forums, a little, but not enough to really notice this I would think and before you ask, it's NOT who you are thinking of... wink

Mal... That's an excellent idea... until you wrestle with the thought that I've shagged almost every one of my swinging friends. How do I approach them and ask them to tell another bloke that I haven't had sex like that for a long time? :shock: All my dearly loved swinging friends will be crest fallen and the guy in question will think I'm an even bigger head case than before... :shock: :shock: :shock:
I think my dilemma just got worse... sad

16 Apr 2004

Heather would never dream of asking ;)

16 Apr 2004

Heather....honesty is the best case scenario......just tell him that you haven't been shagged like that in forever, you really like him, you're NOT in love with him but you'd love to swing with him again.....
Lucky lucky man!!! lol

16 Apr 2004

Yeah... you're probably right. rolleyes

Best to just come out and say it... but it was a 1-2-1 thing and he thinks I'm as enthusiastic as that ALL the time! :twisted: And he therefore thinks I must have chaps thumping my door down - which I'm happy to say on the whole I do - but I don't react like that... often! :twisted:
I shall have to practice my words in front of the mirror before he returns after the Easter kids hols'... confused

16 Apr 2004

heather,
i reckon you should take a leaf out of carley simons book and sing to him....
how about this one....
Nobody does it better
Makes me feel sad for the rest.
Nobody does it half as good as you.
Babyâ€™ youâ€™re the best.
The way that you hold me whenever you hold me.
Thereâ€™s some kind of magic inside you
That keeps me from runninâ€™ but just keep it cominâ€™
Howâ€™d you learn to do the things you do"
And nobody does it better
Makes me feel sad for the rest.
Nobody does it quite the way you do,.
Babyâ€™ babyâ€™ darlinâ€™ youâ€™re the best.
there is another few verses i think... but this seemed the most appropriate part for your needs!!!
wink

good look babe
WBB
xxxxx

16 Apr 2004

singing sounds cool...WBB
Just tell the guy out straight I think is best..like I said a guy likes to know he is liked, no matter how hard faced we seem...we are all softies really...? Inside that is before you pull me up about it...strewth you gals notice the smallest detail, and yes I covered this too because it is another innuendo redface

16 Apr 2004

Well this is easy Heather :-)
What you should do is ...shortly after your meeting with him post a message in the forum worded exactly as the one below , then chances are he'll know who he is and take the hint . but then i guess you knew that LOL ! xx

Quote by Heather
Dear friends....
I now burden you with another dilemma.
How does a lady, such as moi :boo: let a gentleman know that he's a first class lay, a thoroughly fantastic, entertaining conversationalist and all round Godlike creature without him thinking the big LURVE bug has struck and I want to have his babies?
So usually I find 'em, fuck 'em and forget 'em... but I don't want to forget this one! (As you've figured) In vanilla circles it's easy... but how does one let it be known one is eyeing him up for a swinging partnership type thing? :crazy:
Hxx

16 Apr 2004

Tell him during the act.
and remind him afterwards - he'll think you're just refering to sex and be more than happy with that!

16 Apr 2004

Well, I've certainly had some good suggestions... and one very kind person has even PMd me offering to act as go between.. kiss

I suppose he'll eventually see this thread and run for the hills... redface

He'll think if I get this twitter pated about something as basic as 'can I shag you on a regular basis?', I must be putting too much importance on the whole thing. dunno

But I do want to get the approach right...
I'll figure it out. wink

Hxx

16 Apr 2004

H?????
Why dont you just say........................
"Hey babe, you're a first class lay, a fantastic entertaining conersationalist, and God like Creature. But, i have to admit, the LURVE bug hasnt struck and i DONT want to have your babies!!!"
Honesty is the best policy, lol!!!! And i'm sure this would be much appreciated as opposed to:
"Um, i like you, it was a good shag, um, i want to see you again if you wouldnt mind, um, i'd like to meet again, i think we could be good together um, it was a god shag um......." lol!!!!

16 Apr 2004

And he therefore thinks I must have chaps thumping my door down

you DO though don't ya don't!
right the guy knows ya swing!? he knows you have complete NSA unattached sex!? you tell him he's the goddam BEST you had for.......... what's he gonna complain about???????? all guys like an ego massage, and lots run scared at the thought of 'feelings'!!! just tell him he's awesome, you wanna do.........whatever.......you're all happy!!!!!!
<<<was told he was loved more than coco-pops and got worried>>> more than chocolate FFS! but sure feels good to be told you're THAT good!
neil x x x x

16 Apr 2004

I can just imagine him sitting there, children packed back off to school, laptop fired up reading to catch up on the week's events... rotflmao

He'll think "Does she mean me..?"
Oh, well... rolleyes

Thanks everybody. You're all diamond geezers and I dunno what I'd do without you!
kiss