Hello all,

How important is the occasional swinging meetup/club or some slightly risky (outdoor or whatever) sex etc. to you?

23 Dec 2013

I was introduced to all this crazy nonsense when 2 females friends of mine offered me just one of them or just one of them.
After pondering a and pondering... Such a tricky decision... I didnt want to let the girls down of course ;-)
Now, I was PROPER green at this point. Indeed, the actuality of this happeneing seemed just rediculous. It never happens. I though the girls were drunk and trying to out-dare each other.
Nevertheless.
I achieved a higher status level, you might call it fame , in the university. For what I did with those girls. All I know was that strangers were shaking my hand (these stories get round before you stamp your feet.)
To be honest, the night was fantastic, of course. Both up for it, both keen. Theres was a downside though (theres been a few on that one). Having such an intense and positive group sex experience so early on in my development I believe has imbued in me that must keep having more, doing more, planning more etc. e
Can I just bring us forward to the present day? I still dont feel I can shake off this belief/relief thing. Maybe I can, maybe I cant. The swinging world can give me that thrill, that excitement and that feeling on a Monday morning (or when ever) and your colleagues say? "Hello, you. How was your weeekend? Eventful, or quite relaxing?"
You pause a few seconds then you say with 100% authority
"It was really fucking brilliant, really really brilliant"
HUGE grin from ear to ear. Slow and steady speech. "Ah, Thanks Tom. We had a little get together, just a few friends who come from all over. (runs through some of the filthiest things in his head)
Anyone else find any similarities or glaring disagreements?
Russell Scott

23 Dec 2013

Now, there are separate questions rolled into all that... like how much do you enjoy sex? Do you NEED swinging in order to have a satisfying sex life? Would a relationship survive without it? How much do you invest in getting a meet? How much do you emotionally and personally invest/loose when you've been rejected/accepted? Why on earth have you signed your first post that is public with your full name? Does one need swinging in order to feel validated? At what point does something fun become an addiction?
I used to be really into this, done all sorts, been to all kinds of places, with all kinds of people. Literally completed a tick list and went back for more if it was a good experience while leaving it as ticked off if it wasn't. Felt like I'd purged the need and burned out really. The point when it becomes run of the mill and not exciting is very much the point I'd got to. Boring even! lol

Yeah, boring. Bored of the same old places, the same old process, the same people at the same clubs... yawn-ville.
So, I stopped. No regrets. Still had a satisfying sex life and managed perfectly well without it.

24 Dec 2013

The "add ons" at the end of the selections make it almost impossible to vote, and this is something common in these polls.
If my answer were "very important", the notion that I would "aim for a club at least once a week" is laughable. To me personally, very important and once a week don't belong in the same sentence when talking about sex.
I actually would have answered "not at all important", but then the definition invalidates that for me, and I'd expect to have sex, with people whom I'm not involved with, at least once a week just in the normal course of living.
Different people will have their own take on what suits them, and no doubt it will vary from time to time, depending, in part, upon how good their personal relationships and sex lives are at any given time.