Hello all I'm the new boy, I have a question!

25 Jan 2005

Hi, I'm Scoot...how do you all do?!
I'm new to this, so excuse me if I babble. QUESTION: I live in a very small town in the sticks..on other sites I've noticed 2 women from my town registered, I'm interested, but worried it could be someone who I'd rather not know what I get up to LOL. Is local always best...advice please!!
Thanks,
Scoot confused

25 Jan 2005

Hi & :welcome: wave

can't answer your question very well .... it's different for different people. We'd not discount meeting people locally to us but do have reservations for similar reasons.
I hope you have fun here.
C xx

25 Jan 2005

Quote by scoot
Hi, I'm Scoot...how do you all do?!
I'm new to this, so excuse me if I babble. QUESTION: I live in a very small town in the sticks..on other sites I've noticed 2 women from my town registered, I'm interested, but worried it could be someone who I'd rather not know what I get up to LOL. Is local always best...advice please!!
Thanks,
Scoot

Hello

I think you've answered your own question hun, if you'd rather keep this aspect of your life private, make sure you find playmates further from home.
dunno

Welcome to the site. smile

25 Jan 2005

Hi Scoot. First of all, :welcome: to the Cafe.
You've asked a very good question. Personally, I'd say if these ladies are advertising on a swingers site, then them finding out what you do shouldn't make too much difference as they're doing it too... logicially. Of course, people are individuals and quite capable of being irrational, so you can't always trust to logic like that. And an even scarier thought: it's not unknown for people to come onto swinger's sites and stumble across their mum or dad in the photo ads. :shock:

25 Jan 2005

Calista, KC cat, Roger...
Thanks guys for the welcome.
Yeah, I guess perhaps I know the answer, maybe a little further afield. Hell, Roger...my Mum or Dad, aaaggghhh :shock: LOL. KC dig the cat, is it yours?
Thanks again for warm welcome!
Scoot

25 Jan 2005

Hiya Scoot and welcome.
We once met a couple who had seen the male's parents on a BDSM site :shock:
Bev
xx

25 Jan 2005

Quote by scoot
Calista, KC cat, Roger...
Thanks guys for the welcome.
Yeah, I guess perhaps I know the answer, maybe a little further afield. Hell, Roger...my Mum or Dad, aaaggghhh :shock: LOL. KC dig the cat, is it yours?
Thanks again for warm welcome!
Scoot

Couldn't get her to sit still long enough to take a pic (little minx) .....so I kind of borrowed that one instead cool

25 Jan 2005

Hi freckledbird...aww, I do love freckles biggrin

Thanks for the welcome...god. I'm listing all the potential nightmares I could incur if I take off and swing...parents, old teachers, an ex or 2, mmmmmm.....LOL
KcKat...I'm sure your cat is just as lovely. Love that cats eyes on your avatar though!

25 Jan 2005

Not all teachers are old wink

Bev
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25 Jan 2005

Hi Scoot,
When I first started "swinging" I was also worried about playing too close to home. I was very concerned about how I would feel if I had meets with peopel and then saw them when out with my friends etc. But then I decided to meet a couple who live about 5 mins away from me. And I am so happy I did.
I think the key word is discretion and your own feelings once you have chatted to anyone you may wish to meet. If they seem "right" to you, and are also seeking discreation, which most (but not all) people do - then you may find that someone closer to home is a good thing. At least it makes meets that little bit easier smile

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I hope that helps. And welcome to the forum.
Rs :color:

25 Jan 2005

Hi Scoot. I know a Scoot in North Somerset so it could well be you. People move around a lot and you never know who you are going to bump into online. I reckon you should sound out potential meets beforehand and get an idea about whether they are worth meeting or not...like Rainbows said...you could come across a real gem on your doorstep.

25 Jan 2005

Hiya!!!
Good heard from a couple who came from the same town as us,we siad it'd be great to meet up and have some buddies problem was that they decided that they couldnt let us know who they were in case we blabbed about it,When we hardly want the peeps who live in this town knowing what we get was a shame really as there arent really any local people that we know of into it too sad

id just say tread carefully,and chat to the peeps a bit first before you trust them,if you want your private life private then youll need to trust them.

25 Jan 2005

Quote by Rainbows
Hi Scoot,
When I first started "swinging" I was also worried about playing too close to home. I was very concerned about how I would feel if I had meets with peopel and then saw them when out with my friends etc. But then I decided to meet a couple who live about 5 mins away from me. And I am so happy I did.
I think the key word is discretion and your own feelings once you have chatted to anyone you may wish to meet. If they seem "right" to you, and are also seeking discreation, which most (but not all) people do - then you may find that someone closer to home is a good thing. At least it makes meets that little bit easier .
I hope that helps. And welcome to the forum.
Rs :color:

All of the above!!
We too have hooked up with someone who lives "not a million miles away" but it was after some careful consideration and a lot of what if's......
Basically from chatting on MSN and emails back and forward we got a pretty good handle on them and we are happy we did. Had we not we would have missed out on a really nice person.
That said discretion is obviously the key. Hope that helps
LadyFeeBee and the Laird

25 Jan 2005

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KcKat...I'm sure your cat is just as lovely. Love that cats eyes on your avatar though!

Awwwwwwwwwww passionkiss

Hey what do you think of the animated one??
many thanks again to tallnhairy :wave2:

26 Jan 2005

It pays to be cautious. I came across some one from work on the photo-ads, only realising just seconds away from sending them a note with my pic. In my case, discretion is the better part of valour at my work, so I'll be taking their secret to the grave (or thereabouts).
Anyway, looks like you've already been rumbled (see above). he he.