Hello all !
Be nervous posting up !
Im the male part of a couple who have been looking to have a threesome with a girl. My other half really fancies the thought of this and I have to say she looks women up and down more than I do !
We have put up an advert but dont seem to have got much response, im a regular forum user being a car nut and think its time to defer to the experts...
Is it me or is there a hell of alot of people out there looking for women - whats the best approach ? (club is out)
TBH we have been at this a month and the momentum is stalling if you know what I mean !
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Hello and a Question
In all honesty, I think you're better off in the forums than using the ads. I've posted an ad and have gotten no reply. And I've replied to a few ads and not heard anything back.
Either I am horrendously unsexy, or people just don't bother using the ads properly. I suspect a lot of people place an ad whilst drunk and horny and then either forget about it or chicken out.
Either I am horrendously unsexy, or people just don't bother using the ads properly. I suspect a lot of people place an ad whilst drunk and horny and then either forget about it or chicken out.
Sex God
Errrm it's a case of a lot of people looking for the same thing and not that many single ladies
And in my case my personal choice is not to meet couples
A month isn't that long, get posting on the forum and u never know, there may be a lady out there looking for a couple like u
And in my case my personal choice is not to meet couples
A month isn't that long, get posting on the forum and u never know, there may be a lady out there looking for a couple like u
Hmmmm. OK, first things first. I suggest you do a good thorough search through the many threads on the Forum that already cover this or similar topics.
If you don't find the answer you're looking for (and you probably won't) then just do what everyone else has to do - get more involved with the Forum, get yourself known around the place and just hope!
If you don't find the answer you're looking for (and you probably won't) then just do what everyone else has to do - get more involved with the Forum, get yourself known around the place and just hope!
Sex God
Quote by GregLondon
In all honesty, I think you're better off in the forums than using the ads. I've posted an ad and have gotten no reply. And I've replied to a few ads and not heard anything back.
Either I am horrendously unsexy, or people just don't bother using the ads properly. I suspect a lot of people place an ad whilst drunk and horny and then either forget about it or chicken out.
aint just guys who don't get responses to ads, I rarely get any and the ones I do get are nowhere near me lol
Thanks guys a did a bit of searching but often ask the question just to get known...
Sorry if its same old subject
Will keep posting up keeping in touch and thanks for the quick replies - course I could be out enjoying the sun NOT
I guess we will have to keep hoping !, Highlands isnt well known for this...or maybe it is lol
Sorry if its same old subject
Will keep posting up keeping in touch and thanks for the quick replies - course I could be out enjoying the sun NOT
I guess we will have to keep hoping !, Highlands isnt well known for this...or maybe it is lol
Orgasminator
and :welcome: stellaaIf you don't mind me asking, why is a club out of the question???
If it's that clubs aren't for you, then, as already said above, keep posting on here and let people get to know you. The people on here are wonderful and can offer some really useful advice (although it's a bit quiet tonight).
CA xxx
Hello
I guess the club bit is a bit too far for us yet as we are both VERY nervous about all this.
Not to say its one of these oh they will back out
just more its new to us and I guess we thought that meeting someone was the best approach.
Plus being up here im not sure there is much about, mind you I might have a wee look
I guess the club bit is a bit too far for us yet as we are both VERY nervous about all this.
Not to say its one of these oh they will back out
just more its new to us and I guess we thought that meeting someone was the best approach.Plus being up here im not sure there is much about, mind you I might have a wee look
Sex God
Can I just say that I think it's important to have a positive approach in every way. After all if (for example) we have a poor view of ourselves, then the chances are that that's how we will appear to everyone else). :cry: :cry:
If, on the other hand (and despite whatever handicaps Nature has dealt out to us) we try to spread a little happiness around, then we're likely to infect other people with positive vibes :bounce: :bounce: :happy:
So I think the moral of this is Be positive
Be happy
Be patient
Byeeeeeeeeee xx
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TBH we have been at this a month and the momentum is stalling if you know what I mean !
Aww, well, the ads do work. We advertise as a couple and have met and enjoyed several men, and one couple. Broaden your horizons, maybe?
Quote by GregLondon
Either I am horrendously unsexy
Um, well, now you come to mention it..
Ever reconsider that beard?
Quote by stellaa
I guess the club bit is a bit too far for us yet as we are both VERY nervous about all this.
Hi Stellaa
Personally I find a club a lot less pressurised than the thought of meeting people on a one to one basis.
Why don't you just pop along to one for an hour? Agree with each other that on your first visit, you will not play at all, just see what it's like. You can then have a nice evening out, chat to a few people and see how you both feel about things afterwards.
People arrange visits to clubs in the 'lets meet up' - maybe put your name on one of those lists when they come up? Still no pressure and also meeting people from SH face to face. Often people are also on their first club visit, so you won't be alone in the nerve stakes
So long as you never go further than you're both comfortable with, you should enjoy it
Whatever you decide, have fun with it, good luck :D
Orgasminator
Would a couple REALLY meet a single girl in a club? Very rare in our experience.
Sex God
i think is it a case of demand to be honest....
for example... i can imagine that where they are a lot more ads from single men looking for women or couples than vice versa ,and that the same would be said for couples looking for single women...
i think the best thing that you can do has already been said... take part and get know on the forums..a month probably isn't really long enough especially if you have only posted a couple of times....
i am sure you will meet loads of good people in the process and if anything does happen then consider that to be a bonus.....
sean xxxxxxxxxxxxx
for example... i can imagine that where they are a lot more ads from single men looking for women or couples than vice versa ,and that the same would be said for couples looking for single women...
i think the best thing that you can do has already been said... take part and get know on the forums..a month probably isn't really long enough especially if you have only posted a couple of times....
i am sure you will meet loads of good people in the process and if anything does happen then consider that to be a bonus.....
sean xxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Would a couple REALLY meet a single girl in a club? Very rare in our experience.
hmmmmm yeh, you're right
I'm just club promoter in general, rather enthusiastic about em and think everyone else should be too :lol2: only been 3 times!!!! but have had such a lovely time each time. I just found it such a non pressured atmospere and a good way to see what it's like before you take things further. Quote by MISSCHIEF
I'm just club promoter in general, rather enthusiastic about em and think everyone else should be too :lol2: only been 3 times!!!!
Couldn't agree more about clubs. They get a lot of "bad press", usually from folk who haven't been to one but have active imaginations.
We started swinging at clubs and have never felt pressured to do anything we didn't want to do. They really are an ideal way to get into the scene. You can treat them as a social evening and do nothing but drink and chat safe in the knowledge that everyone there is genuine, or play as much or as little as you want.
we have always felt that private meets entail far more pressure than visiting a club and wouldn't dream of meeting people we don't know away from a club.
Ric n Jax
My only experience in a club was very good.
I think it's easier to go to a club... particularly if you're a couple. You have no pressure, can share a drink and chat, and you're never left standing on your own, looking like a loser!
I think a club is also better because you can chat to people with no pressure to participate, whereas if you arrange a meet, there's more expectation that something sexual will occur.
I think it's easier to go to a club... particularly if you're a couple. You have no pressure, can share a drink and chat, and you're never left standing on your own, looking like a loser!
I think a club is also better because you can chat to people with no pressure to participate, whereas if you arrange a meet, there's more expectation that something sexual will occur.
See what your saying everyone and thanks for the warm welcome and advice.
Why do we have to choose the hardest "cough" thing to try and do.
Never thought of the club thing some seasoned reasons why to attend on here that im going to mull over
: maybe have a look around see whats going on up here, but as you say single or should I say interested women are the holy grail by looks of it 
(true in most situations)We had a chat today and we are definetly sticking to what we want, just dont want any other kind of experience.
Yes this might take longer or never happen but we both feel very uncomfortable about it being anything other than another woman - think in that case sticking to guns is better
